parlae Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I just found something out and am in a horrible urge to break NC. Please someone make me be strong!!! what's the problem? Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I found out he might take this girl on a trip with all his friends in carnaval next week!! How can he?? it hasn't even been a month that we broke up!!!! Link to comment
lauramed Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Hey brazilgirl21, Just think about how you're going to feel if you break NC. You'll be back to square one and feeling even more pain than you are right now. Just reach out to all of us and we'll get you through it. Remember 9 days already...just stay strong and you can get through this. Link to comment
lauramed Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 If you confront him about this, you're going to push him further away from you and closer to her. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 but im too sad. im crying at work. but if he goes with her how can I forgive him or want him back? im so sad. Link to comment
parlae Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 so just because he takes a girl on a trip, it'll change your feelings about him?? Link to comment
looking4ward Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Brazilgirl- Please be strong ok? Cry as much as you need too but don't call him ok? Him seeing someone else may eventually have the effect of him realizing what was so special between the two of you. Please don't count on that but if you guys are meant to be another person might be the one to bring him to his senses. -K Link to comment
looking4ward Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Ok so I've was doing ok w/ NC but talked to him 2 days in a row- not so good. My first goal right now is going to be to go 2 weeks. 30 days sounds too scarey but I think I can do 2 weeks. Good luck everyone!! -K Link to comment
lauramed Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Honey I know that it's hard. I've cried so many tears that I think there aren't any left and then out of nowhere they start again. I don't know if my ex has dated anyone or currently is and I try not to even go there so I can only imagine how you're feeling right now. Contacting him is not going to change the situation and will probably only make matters worse. I'm so sorry that you're hurting right now, but we're all in this together and will help you get through this. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 No, the fact he is taking this girl to a trip shows me that he's serious about her and change HIS feelings towards me. He doesn't love me... he wouldn't hurt me like this if he did. I texted a friend that works with him and asked her if she knows if it's true. wrong move, but seriously, I NEED to know if this is true. Link to comment
parlae Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 while we're on the subject of ex's dating... when my ex broke up with me, he started "dating" a new girl right after and even invited her out to our hometown while he was here. a few days later... come to find out, it wasnt even anything serious like he was claiming it was. and they dont even talk anymore. he even got mad when i told his "new girl" that i have a new guy in my life (even though that's false) so obviously he still cares... lol. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I'm breaking NC... I need to talk to him. I need to cry to him... He is taking her. Link to comment
wiley Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Day 2..... Feeling really good, although i felt a bit down in the morning as usual. But picked myself up! parlae - You shouldn't be grieving over your ex! You are a really pretty girl, I bet they are queing up at your door! Link to comment
parlae Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 parlae - You shouldn't be grieving over your ex! You are a really pretty girl, I bet they are queing up at your door! thank you. but i'm definitely not grieving. i feel the exact opposite actually...i have a feeling he'll come back to me lol. i'm not worried at all for now. i was just giving brazilgirl an example about how when our ex's date other people, it isnt necessarily a "serious" relationship. I'm breaking NC... I need to talk to him. I need to cry to him... He is taking her. are you sure about that? it may only push him further away. give it some time and dont do anything irrational Link to comment
wiley Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 thank you. but i'm definitely not grieving. i feel the exact opposite actually...i have a feeling he'll come back to me lol. i'm not worried at all for now. i was just giving brazilgirl an example about how when our ex's date other people, it isnt necessarily a "serious" relationship. are you sure about that? it may only push him further away. give it some time and dont do anything irrational I have the same feeling, it sucks at the same time though! I even said to her a few weeks after the breakup that 'one day we will meet again'. Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 BrazilGirl, My ex-fiance went to Trinidad for Carnival and is hanging out with her ex (from high school) the entire time. Don't worry about it. I know it is hard, but if you call him and seem desperate, it is just going to push him away. And it isn't going to make him change his mind about taking this girl. You're just going to feel worse. Keep posting here and stay strong. Link to comment
parlae Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I have the same feeling, it sucks at the same time though! I even said to her a few weeks after the breakup that 'one day we will meet again'. oh yea, it still sucks lol the fact that you "know" they'll be back, doesnt change the fact that you're not together right now. trust me, i agree on that...it definitely sucks lol. i'm just tryin to stay strong. some days are better than others... Link to comment
le_sex Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 im now exactly a month no contact!!!!!! Link to comment
le_sex Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 in fairness she said she wanted to be friends but thried to make me jealous so the nc is for my own sanity rather than give her space! Link to comment
parlae Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 im now exactly a month no contact!!!!!! good job! Link to comment
le_sex Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 thanks i have to say it gets easier!!!! Link to comment
Sunkist09 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 brazilgirl, you crack me up...lol.... I feel you. But with me, I am not hurt over realizing this because I had time to move on from the dumpee. Link to comment
redreine Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I need to confess something. I didn't contact him...but I did look at his myspace. And I did a little snooping myspace-wise beyond that. (comment stalking) I went to the website we met on, and did an anonymous search for a guy with all his details, and sure enough...he's already made a new profile. I'm staying true to the NC when it comes to talking to him. If and when he does come back, I'm almost positive he won't have someone to come back to. Link to comment
Sunkist09 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 Day 6- I am getting better.... I had a relapse yesterday... But it's getting better. Link to comment
brazilgirl21 Posted February 11, 2009 Share Posted February 11, 2009 I texted him asking him to call me and said im hurting a lot but understand he has to move on. I broke NC. He hasn't replied or called back yet. I'm thinking I should not push it. Link to comment
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