Going to prositutes or Gigolo

[Skippy]

i havent been to one but i would like to know if anyone here has been to one and felt guilty going to one?

Has anyone been with a escort whilst the ar ein a relationship and did it affect your relationship.

Did yo become better at sex after being with an escort.???

[Day_Walker]

I have never used the services of a lady of the night but I think that each person is going to have their own take on how they feel about it. If that is what people choose to do in their sex life then I feel that the have that ability. As far as trying to become better at sex from a lady of the night, I dont know if that is productive especially because it will be expensive. I suggest that you experiment with your gf or if you dont have a gf then the next girl you have sex with. That approach is far better than having to pay that much just to get better at sex when you probably arent going to learn much. Especially with a valuable source like the internet you can find anything and everything about sex that you are curious about.

[RayKay]

i havent been to one but i would like to know if anyone here has been to one and felt guilty going to one?

Has anyone been with a escort whilst the ar ein a relationship and did it affect your relationship.

Did yo become better at sex after being with an escort.???

 

Um, no, I have not been with one..but I can say I would really not be comfortable being with someone whom I found out HAD payed for sex and I can also say that yes if someone was with an escort while in a relationship with me there would be drastic effects....like no more relationship! That is not only cheating, but I would be very worried about exposure to STI's without my consent.

 

Would you become better at sex? I don't know...I don't think you just become better by having sex with random women, because EVERY woman is different and the chemistry with every woman is different. And I am not sure how you get better when you know they are just there for the money....not the pleasure and enjoyment. How will you know what is "working" when they are putting on theatrics for you?

[sophie274]

Well, if you are in a relationship, I say do not do this.

Here's why:

- there are much better ways of getting "better" in bed than sleeping with a prostitute, including experimenting with your girlfriend.

 

- your girlfriend will DEFINITELY be hurt - unless she has given her stamp of approval, which seems to me unlikely. I would find this even worse than having a one-night stand with some random girl, since you went out of your way to have sex.

 

- you and your girlfriend could easily get an STD: will not make your sex life better, could seriously affect your and her health. Oh, and she will definitely know you cheated on her.

 

- if you love your girlfriend, you will feel guilty

 

- if you don't love her, why not just break up with her? If you respect her just one ounce, don't you think she deserves better?

[sophie274]

Oh yes also:

 

As RayKay said, the next girl you date may very well decide that you paying for sex is a dealbreaker to her. I know I would not date someone who had paid for sex, no matter what his reasons.

[TiredMan]

 

Would you become better at sex? I don't know...I don't think you just become better by having sex with random women, because EVERY woman is different and the chemistry with every woman is different.

 

Oh it helps lol. When I started messing around with girls, I was just an ehhh kisser but with many different times and people (with feedback) I learned so much that I know I'm real good at it now. Same with other things leading up to intercourse. Mre feedback, the more I learned. It doesn't match the "connection" as in a special relationship but sometimes you won't get truthful feedback when the heart is so involved.

[Clementine orange]

 

I know I would not date someone who had paid for sex, no matter what his reasons.

 

Every man has paid for sex...maybe not with a pro, but believe me, we've paid. Before, after or during....or all three

 

(please pardon my cynicism today)

[Clementine orange]

Oh in answer to the question, visiting a hooker will not make you better at sex. I would hazard a guess that it will make you worse actually and I'm not even talking about STDs at this point.

[Clementine orange]

Oh it helps lol. When I started messing around with girls, I was just an ehhh kisser but with many different times and people (with feedback) I learned so much that I know I'm real good at it now. Same with other things leading up to intercourse. Mre feedback, the more I learned. It doesn't match the "connection" as in a special relationship but sometimes you won't get truthful feedback when the heart is so involved.

 

hookers don't kiss, neither do they give a damn if you are any good or not. They want your money and they want you out of there.

A sex therapist on the other hand....

[rocio]

Every man has paid for sex...maybe not with a pro, but believe me, we've paid. Before, after or during....or all three

 

(please pardon my cynicism today)

 

That's nasty. I feel sorry for you if you truly believe that.

[rocio]

I've known 3 men who told me they slept with prostitutes. None of them were proud of it.

 

1. A Brazilian guy. By the time he was 17 he was still a virgin and felt societal pressure to have sex. He paid a woman and, five years later, he felt that degraded himself by having done that. He also resented the society he was brought up in for making him believe he had to do that. He was very ashamed.

 

2. An African guy. At the age of 14, two of his uncles would bring him and his brother to their house with a group of prostitutes. They would screw the women, basically right in front of each other. Looking back, he feels exploited by his uncles. He's especially angry because one of those uncles is now dying of full-blown AIDS.

 

3. A Morrocan guy. Starting from the age of 12, some older men in his villa would bring him and the other teenage boys to brothels. He remembers feeling intimidated by the women, and feeling pressure to prove his "manhood", without even understanding what was going on.

 

...I wouldn't hold this against any of these men ( I dated 2 of them - another was a close friend). But they told me that they didn't think they would ever tell another girl again - they felt they would be judged.

 

In your context it would probably be different since you are not a virgin (I'm assuming) and you don't feel pressure to do this. But anyway, you don't have any obligation to tell future girlfriends. As long as you're free of STD's, they don't really need to hear about your sexual history.