he kept all my messages !!!

[toonicegirl]

he broke up with me 7 months ago...we're staying in friendly touch on the internet for the last 5 months

 

well today i sent him funny email about something that happened exactly a year ago, i said that probably he doesnt remember it, and i joked happy anniversary

 

he wrote back that actually he remembers cause he has all my messages in his cellphone...and he wrote back happy anniversary

 

i was in shock cause when he broke up with me i deleted all his messages, i thought that he did the same, especialy cause he started dating the other girl right away...it lasted 3 months though

 

why did he keep all those messages?

[krnswte143]

some people keep it for memories..some are jus lazy and dont erase it....guys in particular are jus lazy to erase or delete or throw away stuff.... cus they might feel its memories of u guys shared..why throw away good memories away right?

 

 

but for girls,, we throw, erase, lol cus we want them out of our lives...cus its easy to move on right

 

 

thats the difference between girls n guys when it comes to these matters

[blush]

Deep down I think he still thinks you might have a chance again, and didn't want to miss a memoy of all the good times you spent together!

[annie24]

i think you are reading too deeply into things. you have been broken up almost as long as you were dating. if he hasn't asked to get back together, then nothing else matters. maybe he was too lazy to take out your messages. I know that I am too lazy to do that also.

[robowarrior]

because he has a phone with lots of memory and is too lazy to delete? Don't think there is a deeper meaning behind it any other then that. Im also storing a bunch of things on my computer that once i stumble on it again think ,wow do i still have that? Don't become a victim of the paranoid, he probably kept them because he loved you.

[xLDx]

I've kept all of my emails from my Ex. Why? I'm not really sure.

 

I think it's because the relationship was something I wanted to get over, not to forget entirely.

 

Obviously I put something things out of the way so I wouldn't be reminded. The ol' out of sight out of mind mentality. Though things like emails, I can avoid seeing that I have that folder there if I really try. Even though I know it's there, it won't necessarily hurt me. Kind of like how I know I have all of her pictures stacked up somewhere in a box in my closet, but I'll never go looking for them.

 

I think I've kept all those emails for the future, for perhaps when we're friends to look back on.

 

I have a lot of good memories with this girl, and I had the time of my life with her. I don't plan on deleting those memories from my mind, because they helped shape who I am today. Now at least I have some old, good memories to fall back on if I ever need to in the distant future.

[AwdreeHpburn]

hmmmm... cos he's a pack rat?

 

What is of more interest to me is that he stays in touch with you, he TOLD you he kept all of your messages, and that he jokes back and forth with you about the anniversary of a no longer existant relationship.

 

What's going on with THIS guy?!?

[toonicegirl]

i agree with all of you...i know he was probably too lazy to delete it...

 

but also the thing is that how come he remembers about what happened a year ago?...was he reading those messages lately or maybe today he went through houndreds of messages to read messages that were coming from that period of time...you know what i mean?

 

that's what is weird

[annie24]

who broke up with whom?

[Maverick32x]

I broke up with a girl that used to write me love letters back in HS, and I kept all of them in my backpack.. I still have them.. and its been a couple years since we dated.. but i still use the same backpack in college as i did in HS....

I don't think i have read them in a verrrrryyy long time.....

[ScreenagerX]

I've kept alot of the, what I consider, important messages on my cell from my ex-wife. Stuff like when she swore black & blue it was over, then when she started seeing a new guy & when she broke up with him, a birthday message & a couple of others. I'm not exactly sure why I keep them, some of them are 6 months old now. I will probably delete them one day. I guess they're like little reminders of how it used to be. And no I don't have stacks of memory on my phone.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

some people are sentimental or egotists who like keeping sexy/happy email to read when they feel like it (or are angry at their current girlfriend, gives them a sense of power and independence)...

 

so don't read too much into it, he could be lazy etc., but if nothing new is brewing between you, just take it as his own choice, doesn't mean your relaltionship is back on again, just ancient history...

[BeStrongBeHappy]

btw, i also keep some stuff from a *terrible* relationship i had once, to read now and again to remind me what i should never put up with again... Lol!! so keeping messages may be important (or unimportant) to people for all kinds of reasons...

[toonicegirl]

im not reading too much into it...im actually surprised that i took it so cool...i didnt reply anything to him

 

it boosted my ego for sure, but im really surprised that he found time to go through hundreds of messages to find the one that talked about what happened a year ago

 

i would expect my ex to write me something like: " oh really, that's funny lol"...not that he remembers cause he kept all my messages

 

anyway thanks for your outcome...