I'm Torn

[Prenkle]

I'm torn. I recently met this 45 year old man that I've grown to like a lot. I'm attracted to him. We have a lot of the same interests. He makes me laugh and is very supportive of me. I'm comfortable around him and we respect each other. I want to be with him. He makes me happy. I have a feeling that he'll ask me out one day, but I can't decide what to do when he does. I'm in my early 20s and don't know if it would be a good decision on my part to go out with someone that much older.

 

The problem is I know we will do well together. In fact, we have such good chemistry that I wouldn't even be surprised if marriage happens sometime down the road. That is why I don't know if I should yes if he asks me on a date. If I say yes, I may end up breaking his heart in the future. If I say no, then at least I'll be able to avoid ruining the relationship we have right now.

 

Any advice?

[Yvette84]

I've been in this situation before and at first everything seems great. But as you get in a deeper relationship you really start noticing the age difference!! I would say not to rush into it, don't think about marriage yet. That's what I did. You have got to take a situation like this slowly so you can see how difficult it can be. I think the hardest thing for me was that we were in two compleatly different places in our lives and that eventually effects things.

I think you should give it a try though, just move slowly.

[Getting Better]

Hi im 27 and im going out with a man who is 47 we have been together for nearly three years. It can work neither of us sees the age gap a problem we don't think about it.

 

Beth xx

[laboheme]

I say, if he asks you on a date, go for it. I understand that you're afraid of hurting him later on...but let's face it, rejection hurts even on a first date. Your friendship will never be the same again once he asks you out, regardless of your answer -- so why not say yes and see how things go? And unless you give it a try, you won't find out if the two of you would work out romantically.