Experiences with Black men/women.

[AdriSnow]

If you have a dated someone out of your race ( black or another race). Post your experiences please. I am Spanish and I dated a couple black guys (2). They both changed and turned into someone different. They seemed to be fake and dogs. Let me know if you have had any of the same experience's.~~~ This is not some racist thread I am just being real.~ Also, are they pretty much known as players ?? Or does your oppion differ?

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[doyathink]

Men and women of all races can be jerks, there is no gender or race immune to this! I am married to a man who is Native American, I have dated men of other races and don't seem to find anything specifically different except skin color.

[AdriSnow]

hmm. there culture could play a big role with sleeping around, correct?

[tretneo]

I don't know if culture has a lot to do with it... perhaps society and the times we live in as a whole might play a part in some people's behavior... I have had two serious relationships... one with a white girl and one with a filipino girl. In both cases they both ended up cheating on me and then leaving to be with someone else rather than cheating a second time.... I think there are just people who either will or won't do that kind of thing.... unfortunately it seems as though you and I have found the ones that CAN do those things...

 

Rob

[AdriSnow]

hahha crap. right???

Hey I'm adriana , nice to read your post rob

[LostInMyThoughts]

OH MY GOSH.

 

No!!, race/culture has nothing to do with this.

 

Thats as crazy as saying something like Women are irrational!

 

I'm not black, but I have dated many people of different races and religions, and nothing about either suggested anything about specific patterns of behavior (except Korean women totally dig me

 

Family of Origin, now that plays a part for sure, but definitely not race.

 

What you are asking is tantamount to stereotyping.

[doyathink]

I have never been cheated on before now...My husband is the only one who has cheated on me, so...does that mean every Native American cheats? No, it means he has no integrity or morals!

 

I don't believe his culture or race has anything to do with it tho.....

[Dako]

I'm puzzled why the OP thinks it fair to single out black people and ask if they're all players if she's truly unbiased.

 

THe question implies a stereotype.

[joeG]

I'm a white male. And have dated white/mexican/black women. In my own experiences, Iv'e found white women to be more passive then other races. But then again, it depends on the person.

 

As far as black women go. I just got out of a LT relationship with a mixed girl black/white. This girl didn't take {mod edit} from anyone. She was a very strong girl on the outside, but broken into pieces on the inside. Our arguments were definitely a lot more dramatic then with any other race Iv'e been with. The whole saying of "black women are loud", is true, in my opinion. She was loud naturually, but when we got into it, she was a ear drum popper.

 

But, at the same rate, Iv'e dated a few white girls that were somewhat like this. I think it has a LOT to do with how a person is brought up. In my experiences, girls that were broughten up in good households, no matter what color they were, seemed somewhat "whole".

 

My past ex, was brought up in a very abusive inviornement. That included physical/mental/and sexual abuse. So I never looked at it like "Oh, she's black thats why she's like this".

 

She grew up constantly having to defend herself. Grew up seeing violence as being normal. And is still only 19, so hopefully she'll find her way one day.

 

I believe peoples behaviors come from there up bringing. Not neccasarily their color.

[quietgrl]

I'm a black female and this subject is crazy.It's not the skin color that makes a person cheat.It's the person.

I have to say something else too.The one thing that cracks me up is when nonwhites say black women are loud,strong ,or angry.The famous"negative" stereotypes words people use on black women and people.Well Black women's behavior has alway been misinterrupted outside of the black community.

[Ipso Fracto Man]

You can't tell anything about a man's heart by looking at his skin. I thought the word had gotten around by now.

 

I'm not black

 

Wait a minute... then what was all that you said about "YOU call it a fat butt, WE call it a badunkadunk"?

 

By the way, my friends (most of them Latino) and I (mostly white ancestry) have been known to use that word on occasion.

[LostInMyThoughts]

Wait a minute... then what was all that you said about "YOU call it a fat butt, WE call it a badunkadunk"?

 

Since when do the words you choose to use have to do with your race.

 

We, as in people who are hood, and use hood slang.

[doyathink]

LOL Lost, you have me lost too...I thought you were also.

 

To the OP,maybe try dating a few guys of other races and see if you dont run into the same kind of problems. It may be the age group you are in or the quality of guys you are dating.

[Ipso Fracto Man]

Since when do the words you choose to use have to do with your race.

Exactly the point of my comment about my carnales and me.

 

Oh, and you might be surprised at how street some of the other ENA members are in real life.

[Luck of the Irish]

LOL Lost, you have me lost too...I thought you were also.

 

Same with me.

 

As for the post, if you bottle up people into a certain category, one day you will be surprised. Yes, certain stereotypes are somewhat true. Let's say you want to meet a man who is educated. Someone of X color from the southside of Chicago is probably not nearly as smart and cultured as so and so from Greenwhich, CT. But how do you know? Unless you take the time to know someone, how do you know?

 

I am Irish. I love potatoes and I like to drink and I am loud and blunt. But this doesn't make me an abusive alcoholic. Judging someone on their skin pigmentation is foolish. The human soul has no color. Judge someone by their soul next time.

[DN]

Any implication that people of a specific race act in the same way under similar circumstances is racist.

 

Racism is the curse of our times. It causes wars, death, genocide, disease, starvation and misery on a huge scale.

 

It begins with individuals.

 

It will only end when individuals decide they will not be racist in thought or deed.

 

This thread would be a good place to start.

[wlfpack81]

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