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[SaRaHmArIe8588]

Lately with my boyfriend ive been getting so aggrivated. Everything i used to love about him and the things that i used to just ignore now drive me crazy! Its small little things, like him being goofy just to make me laugh,it now makes my skin crawl- ok maybe thats a little too much but ive found myself yelling at him for being , well ,him. Am i overreacting here? Is this just a stage people go through in their relationship?

[keenan]

maybe. but it's also a stage people go through when they're breaking up.

[Eric f]

do you guys spend alot of time together? you guys may need to have some space from each other, its common to get annoyed with things like that when 2 people are around each other alot.

[SaRaHmArIe8588]

i've been with him for over a year now and none of these things have bothered me until about a month ago. We only see eachother a few times a week but talk all the time. I have been thinking that we need some space from eachother..because if youve read some of my previous posts, we-- well , he has some things he needs to figure out.

[Managor]

Is there anything about your relationship which could be better; which might be frustrating you? I also agree with Eric that you might want to consider having more time apart, or taking two weeks or so apart soon to see what it's like to not be together.

[SaRaHmArIe8588]

well..as of today he is away for a week which is giving me sometime to think about what i want. But so far..ive just been missing him..but not missing the arguing

[Süsser Tod]

Well, looks like it is time to reconsider the relationship. People change, change is the only constant, and as both of you change, you may also drift apart.

[xmrth]

Is his "goofyness" just what his maturity level is, or is it strictly just to make you laugh?

I can understand that; you used to find it cute, and now you think it's a little too much, that's all.

 

Talk to him about it and let him know, "hey that gets on my nerves, it used to be cute but it's kind of getting old now. You can be cute in different ways, though."

Something like that just to get it rolling and see what he'll do and take it from there.

 

Honestly, I don't think it flat out means you're breaking up or you need to reconsider anything. There's more steps to come before that all happens-- you're just starting to sort this all out, so take it from there after you actually see about talking to him about it and seeing where it actually goes.

[Süsser Tod]

I'll always advise to work on a relationship. However, you should always keep in mind that it might not work, and be objective, don't want to get yourself stuck in a relationship that is going nowhere just because you're used to being with that person.

[Managor]

I wouldn't start dismissing the relationship so soon, ST, I think this is something which can definitely be worked on. Since you two have been together for a year already, the endorphins (chemicals in your brain responsible for the 'in love' feeling people get) might be dying off, which is normal.

 

When he's acting goofy, for example, are you annoyed because he's embarrasing, or for some other reason (you might just be sick of him doing it or something)? If you're finding him to be an embarrassment, maybe your differences in maturity are starting to become a problem. Maybe not, I'm not really sure.

[Süsser Tod]

The endorphins went away a long time ago, they don't last that long.

 

Now, I didn't said it was over, just said it was time to take a serious look at it. One normally does not get upsed about "silly" things, most of the time there is an underlying issue, getting upset about those "silly/small" things just shows that there is something else that is not right.

[SaRaHmArIe8588]

the goofyness im referring to isnt embarrassment because he only does it when we are in private. he'll just act stupid and silly which used to make me laugh but now i just roll my eyes and tell him sto stop but he doesnt get the hint that i actually cant stand it. About the maturity level, he is actually 6 years older than me but sometimes reminds me of my 15 year old brother..and THAT bothers me a little..

[Momene]

It seems to me that you've reached a new level of maturity and he needs time to adjust to it.

[yeawutever]

Seems liek changes are going on and you guys are getting bore of the same routine. Boreness is why relations can failed too, unless lots of communication is used.

Try giving it a little break and then see is you miss him and wanna get back.