The phone game

[comets_21]

Do you feel comfortable calling a person more then once without them returning your call or is it basically that you called, now it is their responsibility to call back. Just a general question because I always just call once and let them call back if they really want to.

[chai714]

The phone came can be obnoxious. I usually call once, leave a message, and go on with life. My message will usually consist of something along the lines of, "hi, this is Chai. Give me a call back when you get a chance."

 

This way, there's no mystery involved. You know your target is going to receive your message and you know you left a message.

[brando]

I think Chai nailed it on the head. If you call once and leave a message, their is no reason to call again. No games, no mystery... no chasing.

[Gracelove]

The most I'll call is twice before receiving a call from them.

If it's a family member and I'm really worried about them I'll call three or four times.

[heloladies21]

Read this link removed

 

I used to be that way to never call a girl back if she didn't call me, but it's the wrong way to see it. Until you get her REALLY interested in you, she owes you nothing and the same goes for you.

[chai714]

Read some of the link you sent. It really does not need to be a complicated process though. It's one phone call afterall and it's a simple thing. Some people can complicate such simple things and when you find someone who can complicate simplicity, best to walk away. Afterall, there are millions of women in the world - one not returning a phone call is not a big deal.

[brando]

Very true Chai, why is it some seem to forget this...

[skyblue1]

I would only call once!

[moondog627]

I agree with Chai. I'm pretty much a one and done kinda guy. If I really like the girl then maybe 2 calls. And that's only if I've received some kind of positive result. But if you've gotten nothing after that it's best to walk away. I disagree with constantly calling and hounding a girl, even if it's made into a joke. Either way, if the girls not into you it's not gonna be seen as funny (though she may be laughing AT you). Best to give it a shot, or maybe two trys at MOST, and then have some dignity and walk away if no positive results were produced.

[easyguy]

The phone came can be obnoxious. I usually call once, leave a message, and go on with life. My message will usually consist of something along the lines of, "hi, this is Chai. Give me a call back when you get a chance."

 

This way, there's no mystery involved. You know your target is going to receive your message and you know you left a message.

That's exactly what I did the other day. The message was almost word for word, too. ("Hey ____, this is ____, just callin to see what's up. Call me back when you get a chance. Bye.")

 

And I guess you have to keep in mind that if she doesn't get back to you, then just move on and forget about it. There are plenty of fish in 'da see.

[Budman]

Family member : as many as it takes

 

Potential dating person: 1 time, wait 2 days, then 1 last time.

 

Then forget.

 

That's mine anyway.

[Day_Walker]

It all depends on what you are comfortable doing, I would say that the method Chai714 suggested before is efficient, as in it is quick to the point and you dont have to worry. Other people after they leave a message will try other indirect ways of communication to try and get a hold of the person.

[NubianLove]

It depends on the person, and the nature of our relationship. Never give more than u receive so u feel there's a balance. If someone wants to talk to u, they might not call u right away, but they'll find a way to get in contact with u sometime soon.

[Markers]

"hi, this is Chai. Give me a call back when you get a chance."

 

"hi this is Markers. Give me a call back and take your chance"

 

one call for me, if she doesn't bother calling back, it's her problem.