Liquid Dream Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 Well I have no friends, I mean NO friends...this use to upset me. I used to always cry about it. Then I started to convice myself that I didn't need anyone. So I've become very introverted, I avoid social situations and people, I've become more independent this way. My problem is I've been a frequent vistor of the oo so popular . Its the only way I have friends if and when I need them and I've become addicted to this website, and I can't stop. Anyone have any advice? besides making friends (THIS IS NOT AN OPTION) Does anyone else have this problem? Link to comment
qwerty123 Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 I normally dont try to give advice, as my life is as messed up as anyones, but ill try. I use to be pretty addicted to online stuff, and I can see my little brother falling into the same thing. Only thing I can tell you is do anything besides getting on the computer for more than 1-2 hours a day. I really dont know your situation..high school or college? This might help some other people who want to reply. I did have this problem, I didnt want to do anything but online stuff (games for me), and it messed me up. Try to limit your time online is all I can say. Link to comment
mattyj Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 why is 'making friends' NOT an option??? WHat are you afraid of? Link to comment
HaloDestroyer Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 I would say that I was in the same position as you, a year ago. Totally addicted, with no friends. I felt horribly alone, until I got home to my laptop... But I found solace in other things... I had been playing guitar for a few years, so I pushed myself, and went to a public jam... After pushing myself to socialise a few times, it became easier, and easier, until I forgot all about my laptop. From there, I got a girlfriend, and about fifty new best friends!! This is a very personal problem, but all I can say is you have to push harder. Hope this helps... Link to comment
KissMe_KillMe Posted February 19, 2006 Share Posted February 19, 2006 trust me almsot 70 percent of myspace users are addicted... i used tro be sooooooo upsest with myspace.. changing my layout everyday... i used to stay up till 5-6 in the morning on myspace!!! but then i got a boyfriend! Link to comment
HappyPainter Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Get out of the house away from the computer. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 You have two options. One, make friends. It's not what you want to hear, but it can fill up the sense of lonliness. Or two, be used to being on your own. Find activities that you enjoy, be it solitary (and away from a computer) or in groups. It could be anything from taking a walk to art projects. Or it could be a more social thing like joining a drama production or some club. Link to comment
Liquid Dream Posted February 20, 2006 Author Share Posted February 20, 2006 the problem is I'm out of school (yes I gratuated) , I'm NOT intrested in college because I DO NOT want a career, I am happy having a normal job . Thus I do not get the oppertuntiy to hang out with people, I have a boyfriend, and we live together, so its not anything like that, I live in Asheville 90% of them are obsessed with art, if your not ingrossed in it, nobody wants anything to do with you. Kids that you do see are normally college kids and there all into self expression, and causes agianst bush, that kind of stuff...I just really don't fit in where I live. I'm not like the people around me thats why friends are not an option I've given up on them, thats why I need help mainly with the computer addiction Link to comment
Bethany Posted February 20, 2006 Share Posted February 20, 2006 Life is not something you should turn your back on. Switch off the computer, go for a walk, go anywhere, do anything,do something, but make sure you live life to the full. Even if you live in a town full of arty people. Think of your bf, he must be bored to death too. Get out and do something together, make steps to change your life, even if they are just small ones. I don't know why I am telling you this because you already know. Link to comment
LotusFlower Posted February 21, 2006 Share Posted February 21, 2006 You need friends, its not healthy that your boyfriend is your only one... computer addictions are not only physically compromising (being at the compauter etc) there are also weirdos and ... and... affairs happen online. there are poeple just like you, you just haven't put yourself out there enough. Take a class that is not art, go to meetings in your town, be a big sister with Big brothers big sisters. Trust me... a friend would be not only fun, maybe hard at first, but also might get you to like your town more and discover places where u do fit in. Link to comment
Liquid Dream Posted February 24, 2006 Author Share Posted February 24, 2006 I do not build my life around my boyfriend, he's someone I love. I do not obsess about him or anything like that. I think when people support the idea that you need friends is wrong. I had one good friend who screwed me over. So I think I'm all funned out. That whole friend phase never worked for me. I've become more independent this way, (I love not needing people, its my favorite thing about myself.) I don't want friends. But my internet problem is getting worse all the time, I can hardly sleep. And its not even to go on link removed anymore Link to comment
novaseeker Posted February 24, 2006 Share Posted February 24, 2006 The best thing is to turn off the computer and do something outside the house: take a walk, go to the bookstore, go see a movie, etc. Link to comment
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