my girlfriend wont let me cyber

[mat420]

my girlfriend wont let me have cyber sex what can i do to convince her to let me? weve been to gether about 1 and 3 quarters of a year and i love her....she knows that.....but i like to have cybersex with different girls...not sure why, just like doing it alot.....what can i do to convince her to let me?

[CarnelianButterfly]

Well, your GF may consider it to be an intellectual affair. If you're willing to cheat on her in this way, whats the one step to it becoming physical?

[mat420]

well of course its not gonna be physical when people are 5000 miles away....what do ya mean exactly?

[mat420]

thanks for the quick reply damn.

[melrich]

Cheating can be both on a physical and emotional level. Many would consider cyber sex with someone other than your partner as emotional cheating.

[miserableme]

Chances are you are talking to an 80 year old man anyway. I can understand why she is upset. Maybe you could compromise by sending her naughty emails or something. This way you could get it out of your system and keep her happy. If it is because you want to cyber with other girls then maybe you need to give it up or face losing her? It depends on a lot of factors.

[CarnelianButterfly]

The girls you play with online don't have to be the same girls you may cheat with later. It is cheating, you're engaging in a sexual act, be it thru the computer or in person. If she chose to do this how would you feel?

[mat420]

id let her if she let me as long as it didnt go like, real life. wow this site is the best i cant believe how many replies ive got in minutes. thanks for the fast reply people

[mat420]

and nah @ the naughty email thing. i think its the fact that its different girls or something...maybe it makes me feel like a pimp subconsciencly? idk....all i know is i like to do it

[mat420]

by the way im 17.....ive shes the only one ive ever had sex with....second person to ever get head from...second person to get a ....well ill stop there but maybe thats got something to do with it??? people my age are usually having sex with a bigger variety of girls...idont know just trying to figure this out

[CarnelianButterfly]

I think I agree with miserableme save all your lust for her, try to get her to be the focus of your desire. Dont feel angry with her for this either, your cyber filandering could make her feel insecure or inadequate as a sufficient partner.

[mat420]

dont feel i should be unhappy though at all though to stay in this relationship.....maybe if i need to cyber i shouldnt be in this relationship though?? idk

[fishrrshortae]

I think most women you would date would have a problem with it, to some degree or another......... So, I don't know what that would mean for your other relationships. Should you choose to leave this one I mean.

[LiquidCherry]

I wouldn't let my boyfriend cyber either. Heck, I'd see it as a huge red flag if he asked me if he could. I don't consider it intellectual cheating. I don't consider it emotional cheating. It IS cheating.

 

If you feel the need to cyber.. Is it because you get turned on by reading sexy stories? Try erotica. Or do you like creating one with words? Write your own. Or if you simply like cybering could you try doing it with your girlfriend? Is this something you crave because you're not satisfied with your relationship or do you think that you'd feel like this regardless of who you are with?

[arwen]

Maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship then.

 

Ilse

[theantibarbie23]

I wouldn't mind my partner looking at porn but engaging in cyber or phone sex is too personal (it's interactive cerebral sex with another person) and would seriously bother me, ALOT.

 

I don't think you'll find very many women who'd be willing to accept you engaging in cyber or phone sex with other women. I'm sure there are some out there but they might be a little difficult to find.

 

If she doesn't accept this behavior you may just have to ask yourself which is more important, cybersex or your girlfriend and take it from there.

[RayKay]

Perhaps if you have the desire to "cyber" with other girls and to sow your oats, you should not be in a relationship at all.

 

I think MANY girls/women are going to have a problem with you carrying on sexual conversations and "cybering" with other woman. While it may not be "physical contact" it is an emotional betrayal. Your girlfriend would still feel betrayed and hurt that you would want to share that kind of intimacy with other people. To me it certainly DOES qualify as cheating as it is an intimate involvement with other women whom are also reacting back.

 

I suggest if you feel the need to do this, you be single, or find someone whom shares your views on it, and let your girlfriend find someone whom will be committed to her and share her values.

[VeganBohemian]

Chances are you are too immature to be in a loving relationship and you should probably get out of it before you break her heart. Just my opinion.

[lillady898]

I agree. If you really want to experience other girls, get out of the relationship now before you hurt your girlfriend... worse.

[mat420]

haha. no offense or anything but would i be in here trying to find out ways to change how she sees cybering if i was immature and "jsut going to hurt her"?

 

no, id be cybering, not feeling bad....or just cybering feeling bad and comin in here to help me feel better about myself a little (that im trying to fix it).

 

not to sound like a * * * * or anything...

[mat420]

by the way thanks everyone. seems im screwed.

[Dako]

by the way thanks everyone. seems im screwed.

 

Interesting way to put it.

Real girl...cyber girl. I don't see a tough decision, guy!

 

Do you want to be like some guys who prefer cybering to the real deal?

Guess how they got started as virtual studs.

[gabodi]

This is the funniest thing I've ever read on here....