Older Men

[Prenkle]

I'm not sure if this has something to do with my personality, but I tend to be attracted to older men - usually married too. I'm 24 and really like this guy who is 32. I havn't been able to find anybody like him in college. He's sensitive, funny, kind, and intelligent. All the guys I've met in college seem self absorbed, but this guy is so great! He likes the same things I like too - which is rare - believe me.

 

What is this attraction to older married men? I'm not an insecure person, but they really know how to treat women well.

[RescueDiver]

Experience, along with the fact that we are (generally) more mature. Most of the women I have dated have been 4 to 8 years younger than me.

[SimonBlume]

They know how to treat women well coz they've treated more than your college classmates have. Simple truth. If you like such kind of men what's wrong with it? Enjoy yourself! (But better after he's divorsed.)

[babycristy456]

Liking older men is okay, if you are 24 and he's 32, thats okay...only 8 years difference...even if it was 20 yrs different, its your choice. There are only two conditions where it can cause a problem: 1. If you are a minor such as a 15 yr. old with a 25 yr old and 2. If he's married.

 

If you have your own taste in older men, fine...just don't be a home wrecker, its not the decent thing to do.

[Serendipity1607307077]

There isn't anything wrong with age differences - there is four years between my partner and I, there was 40 years between my mum and my stepdad, and there are six years between my grandmum and grandad... it's quite common!! Well, in my experience anyway! haha.. As long as you are happy and on the same wavelength, and CLICK (the most important!) then it's fantastic and you should treasure this relationship.

 

Just be careful if you are going to get into a situation where you break up someone's relationship.. not a good spot to be in at all... I watched the damage that it caused to my mother with her first marriage (I was five at the time and it took her YEARS to get over it)... but you probably already know to be careful..

 

And yes, hate to say it but women are a lot more mature than men a lot of the time..

[Mun]

I don't think your ages are that much of a difference.

 

The psychologist would ask " what is your relationship with your father like?"

The fact these men are usually married is a bigger issue here in my opinion.

 

Do you have any type of committment/abandonement issues that you know of ?

 

Just a thought.

[sparticuss]

Not an accurratte answer from the lot this time

 

1/ Younger men are not "self absorbed." Younger men are studying flat out at college for up to 100 hours a week. Thats the equivalant of two and a half jobs.

 

If they get four hours a week to socialise then they are doing all right.

 

Self Absorbed? Studies absorbed more likely. If they are going to pass they have to be.

 

2/ Happily married men attract girls who only want what they cant have. (Who said "until" the divorce. You mean unless. Despite all the media hype 52% of all the marriages still last for life.)

 

3/ Divorced men, paticularily mid aged divorced, are too much of an emotional mess to partner anyone.

 

 

 

I'm not sure if this has something to do with my personality, but I tend to be attracted to older men - usually married too. I'm 24 and really like this guy who is 32. I havn't been able to find anybody like him in college. He's sensitive, funny, kind, and intelligent. All the guys I've met in college seem self absorbed, but this guy is so great! He likes the same things I like too - which is rare - believe me.

 

What is this attraction to older married men? I'm not an insecure person, but they really know how to treat women well.

[Day_Walker]

I dont think that you have to be insecure in order to be attracted to a person who is unavailable. What it seems is that you dont have the mechanism that once you see this married person that you automatically exclude them. There could be different reasons why this is so, think about why you think you are attracted to older married men and try to remedy the problem.

[Mun]

3/ Divorced men, paticularily mid aged divorced, are too much of an emotional mess to partner anyone.

 

This warning should be in bold letters, on a plaque and hanging on a wall somewhere.

 

Maybe it doesn't pertain to all men, but enough that it's significant...some women too.

[Dako]

Sparticuss is absolutely right about middle-aged divorced men. We are so screwed up it's uneffingbelievable.

[sandman47]

Not an accurratte answer from the lot this time

 

1/ Younger men are not "self absorbed." Younger men are studying flat out at college for up to 100 hours a week. Thats the equivalant of two and a half jobs.

 

If they get four hours a week to socialise then they are doing all right.

 

And women at college don't? hmmmmmmmmm

 

Self Absorbed? Studies absorbed more likely. If they are going to pass they have to be.

 

2/ Happily married men attract girls who only want what they cant have. (Who said "until" the divorce. You mean unless. Despite all the media hype 52% of all the marriages still last for life.)

 

If they're attracting younger women and acting on that attraction maybe that marriage wasn't happy after all?

 

3/ Divorced men, paticularily mid aged divorced, are too much of an emotional mess to partner anyone.

Oh please let's generalize some more.