simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Just received a text from the ex basically just saying. Hope you are ok, want to pick up my things if you haven't burned them, could you let me know when ok for you. Thanks I really dont want to see her, I feel so awful now just receiving that. Please help, I was feeling alright now I feel gutted inside. Link to comment
DN Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Can you leave her stuff at a neighbour's of friends house and have her pick them up there? And make sure you are not around when she does. Or could you send them? Link to comment
simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 I just really dont want any contact with her DN it has made me feel so ill! Link to comment
punchy504 Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 could you give the stuff to one of her friends that you know would make sure she got it? Link to comment
shes2smart Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 DN has given you some workable suggestions. Please make the effort to get her things back to her. There have been several threads here recently about people who are on the other side of this kind of situation (ex has their things, but does not return the items & avoids them), and I have been on that side as well...and it sucks about as bad as your side of it. The sooner you can get her things back to her, the sooner both of you can get on with your separate lives. As long as you still have her stuff, she's got reason to contact you. Link to comment
simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 We live quite a distance away. I am so fucn sick now, I was really starting to feel better. She goes away on a cruise and then when she gets back this!!! I feel shi7 Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 I had one last item of my ex's and I mailed it. It felt good, like I was purging her from my life. Mail her stuff to her and do it asap. You'll be able to continue healing. Link to comment
simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 how do I reply to her text though? If I say I dont want to see her then she will know I am not over her! Link to comment
shes2smart Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 how do I reply to her text though? If I say I dont want to see her then she will know I am not over her! "I'm really busy with work (school or other plausible time sink), it would be more convenient for me to just (mail/ship or give it to mutual friend) your stuff to you" Link to comment
DN Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 how do I reply to her text though? If I say I dont want to see her then she will know I am not over her! "I'm really busy with work (school or other plausible time sink), it would be more convenient for me to just (mail/ship or give it to mutual friend) your stuff to you" good idea but you don't even have to find a plausible reason - just say "I am very busy and can't guarantee a time so .... Link to comment
simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 she even put a fucn kiss at the end of the text how insulting!!! Link to comment
DN Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 I can see why you would think so - but at least she isn't yelling at you any more. I think shes2smart is right - the sooner you get this stuff out of your house the better for you. Link to comment
simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 You see what I dont get is when she left her husband two years ago, she left most of her belongings, I think she took her clothes and that was it. All she has left at mine is a pair of jeans and a few tops and a spare pair of hair straighteners. The last contact I had was 6 weeks ago and she bit my head off asking if I was trying to spoil her birthday. Why has she managed so long without these clothes but suddenly needs them? Why can she leave all that stuff behind with her ex husband but not leave a few things with me? Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 It's just an excuse to make contact with you. Don't reply to the text, pack up her stuff, and she'll have no reason to contact you. As for that kiss at the end of the text, she's just playing with you now. Get off the cpu, find a box, pack up her stuff, hit the post office, and then come back and talk to us. We'll still be here, but the sooner you take care of this the better. Link to comment
DN Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 It's just an excuse to make contact with you. Don't reply to the text, pack up her stuff, and she'll have no reason to contact you. As for that kiss at the end of the text, she's just playing with you now. Get off the cpu, find a box, pack up her stuff, hit the post office, and then come back and talk to us. We'll still be here, but the sooner you take care of this the better. I agree - don't start analysing why she is doing what she is - it will drive you nuts. Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 It's just an excuse to make contact with you. Don't reply to the text, pack up her stuff, and she'll have no reason to contact you. As for that kiss at the end of the text, she's just playing with you now. Get off the cpu, find a box, pack up her stuff, hit the post office, and then come back and talk to us. We'll still be here, but the sooner you take care of this the better. Well said. Quit talking about it and do it! You'll feel better. Throw a pair of your dirty underwear in there for good measure. Link to comment
simon_uk Posted June 13, 2005 Author Share Posted June 13, 2005 No she has left a fucn voice mail asking if I got her message give me a call back or send me a messgage!!! Why!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment
Jetta Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Tell her you'll either send them to her, and get it done. Or drop them with a mutual friend or a have one of your friends give it to her or meet here when she stops over to pick stuff up. You have no use for it, and she just may need it. There's a way to go about it without seeing her. Link to comment
patience Posted June 13, 2005 Share Posted June 13, 2005 Pack up the stuff and mail it to her...it won't cost all that much. If you are not ready to talk with her, then don't reply to her messages. Link to comment
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