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I’ve know my girlfriend for a year. We finally started dating in February. It was my first relationship of my life. Everything was great but a month in everything hit. 

I got scared of being in a relationship since everything was new to me and I panicked and broke up with her in March. 

Now that night, all of our friends are were yelling at me (and rightfully so), so later on I went to my neighbors (college apartment neighbor) who is a girl to talk. I needed someone to talk to and she was the only one that would listen. I ended up staying the night because she ended up falling asleep during me talking and I was like screw I guess I’ll go to sleep there instead of going home. 

Nothing happened, nothing. I understand how messed up that is going over there, there’s no excuse break up with my girlfriend and sleeping over another girls place (I shouldn’t of gone in the first place, and I definitely shouldn’t of stayed) In April, since me and my neighbor were friends, I stayed over a couple weeks later 2 times and we made out but nothing else (I slept over one time before me and my girlfriend were even talking but still I never had sex with this girl).

I was still talking to my ex, as I wanted to remain friends with her after we broke up because I knew deep down I wanted her, I was just scared of a relationship since it was my first. There were times we had sex and she slept over, and I realize doing that with her and sleeping over my neighbors at the same time is completely messed up  


Towards the end of April I fully realized how I love my ex girlfriend and cut off my neighbor completely, and in the beginning of May, me and my ex were official again. Before we got together, I told her how I slept at my neighbors, and she was upset but said it’s in the past. 

Yesterday, we were talking about the past, and I brought up my neighbor and that exact situation how I regret sleeping over there and making out with her later on in April. My girlfriend ended up misunderstanding that situation that I told her before we got together, (as she thought this all happened before we were dating) and she said we’re done. I ended up driving a couple hours to see her and we talked it out, she said she needs to regain trust in me to keep this relationship. She’s 100% correct, I shouldn’t of went to a girl to talk when we broke up and I shouldn’t of stayed the night the first time.  


I shouldn’t of slept at my neighbors later on 2 times and making out with her (yes I was single but it still wasn’t right and I have to live with myself). My neighbor told me before she had a thing for me, but never acted like it. Sometimes towards the downfall of my relationship id think about her and if I was with her, would I be in a better relationship. 

I truly realized how much I love this girl in May and that’s why I got back with her because I want to be with her forever. I don’t know how I can live with myself knowing I hurt her by breaking up with her, and making out with another girl when we were broken up. Im giving her space rn, and I know forgiveness won't happen overnight. Is there any way one day things go back to how they were ?

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If she was my friend and asked for my advice, I'd tell her to take forever-space from you. You have a lot of maturing to do before being good bf material. Stay alone and work on that.

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1 hour ago, riley22 said:

I don’t know how I can live with myself knowing I hurt her by breaking up with her, and making out with another girl when we were broken up. Im giving her space rn, and I know forgiveness won't happen overnight. 

Sorry this is happening. You seem unprepared for women and relationships. That's ok.  You're doing the right thing taking a break to reflect and sort things out.

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You don't love her, you desire her because you can't have her. You can't undo what you did. That's life my friend...you make mistakes and you learn from them. You are nowhere ready to be involved in committed relationships, but you are ready to fool around, have your way with other women until you are ready. You have urges you are ignoring...you need to go out and explore, have experiences, casually meet/hook up/date....have fun!

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1 hour ago, riley22 said:

Is there any way one day things go back to how they were ?

Maybe but don't count on it. You goofed pretty badly here although it sounds like you know what went wrong. Key word going forward is: boundaries. Make sure you have better boundaries with everyone, even the people you're not dating. 

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