grey1234 Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 So me and this guy have been casually hooking up since March. We usually just see each other like once a week. We live kinda far from each other but I work near where he lives and go out near him too so that’s when I see him. I know I should probably end it because I can feel myself catching feelings but I just can’t get myself to!! I’m starting to feel badly because it’s clear he doesn’t want to actually spend anytime outside the bedroom and doesn’t text me at all or anything (besides when he wants to hookup), but I still can’t get myself to walk away. I know since we don’t live that close it’s not even realistic that anything beyond hooking up would happen. I don’t even think I know him that well- maybe because he’s the first guy after my recent ex that I feel a weird attachment to him. It’s kind of concerning and weird how much I think about him considering I barely even speak to or see him!! Does anyone have any advice on how to walk away or get over him? Link to comment
Billie28 Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 And you have never been on a date with him? I’m assuming , correct me if I’m wrong? At this point he only has to put in minimal effort in order to “see” you. With that being all he needs to do, why would he do more? He might only ever view you as a booty call , the only way to turn that around is to not be his booty call. Make no attempt to contact him and only ever respond if he asks you out on a date straight up. No responding to any contact from him in the meantime. Not to an “I miss you” “wanna hangout?” “How are you babe?” Nothing!!!! Only to something like “are you interested in going to see x movie ?” Or “would you like to go out for dinner on sat ?” Etc He might never do that , but if you want to get out of the booty call arrangement then that’s what you must do. Good luck! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 He ONLY wants you for sex. That should be enough. Damn! You even drive to him. Ugh. Cut it off. Block and delete. There is no future. Expect more for yourself. Link to comment
figureitout23 Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 Unfortunately you have to disengage... if there is hope of this being more which it doesn’t sound like it I’m sorry but if there is you can’t keep delivering yourself to him. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 Get on some dating apps and get involved in some things where you can meet local men. . Link to comment
Annia Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 When people want different things it's better to stop and stay away. You'll be wasting your time and prolonging your pain by keeping in contact and sex with him. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted April 15, 2019 Share Posted April 15, 2019 That's what you get for messing around with a half-baked relationship. The best you can do now is find a replacement. This time find a romantic guy who falls for you and who will take you on those Friday night dates. Link to comment
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