Mr.Mister Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 I am married to a woman who I find gorgeous and wonderful. She has a fantastic body that, when I was younger, I would have loved to "be with" all the time. However, over the last 5 or so years, I have lost interest in sex, almost completely. I want to have sex with my wife, and do occasionally, but it's mostly for her. I am happy to just go to sleep. How do I desire to have sex again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitterfingers Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 Speak to a doctor. Loss of libido is sometimes a symptom of other things - hormonal imbalances, mood issues and stress, etc. Do you desire other women or just no interest in sex at all? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.man Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 How often is "occasionally?" About how far into your relationship did your sex drive taper off? How old are you? Some people simply have a lower sex drive than others. Or it may well be stress related. But if, after honestly reflecting, you're happy with life and with your wife, and you feel healthy, it really may just be a discrepancy between the two of you. Couldn't hurt to get a checkup if you've got doubts, though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeffbobo Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 When I read your post, I see, sex, sex and sex. I get the impression that it’s all mechanical. Let me ask you this... Have you tried intimacy? Passion? How do you desire to have sex again you ask? Do you desire her (not just sex)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cherubrock Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 I agree with Jeffbobo, and maybe that's why your libido has tapered off...you need to somehow revitalize the relationship as a whole... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mr.Mister Posted January 30, 2018 Author Share Posted January 30, 2018 Speak to a doctor. Loss of libido is sometimes a symptom of other things - hormonal imbalances, mood issues and stress, etc. I have MS so maybe my loss of libido is related to that. Maybe I can ask my neurologist about that next time I see him, though it seems a bit strange. Do you desire other women or just no interest in sex at all? I find other women attractive, just like any other man. However, I also find my wife to be extremely gorgeous, so there is no need to want other women. She is exactly what I'm into. I just am not interested in sex in general. I don't even have interest in doing things by myself. About how far into your relationship did your sex drive taper off? How old are you? Some people simply have a lower sex drive than others. Or it may well be stress related. But if, after honestly reflecting, you're happy with life and with your wife, and you feel healthy, it really may just be a discrepancy between the two of you. Couldn't hurt to get a checkup if you've got doubts, though. Actually, it was starting to disappear a couple of years before I met her. I'm 33 (guess you are on mobile, because it says on the regular site). Actually, I turn 34 next week. When I read your post, I see, sex, sex and sex. I get the impression that it’s all mechanical. Let me ask you this... Have you tried intimacy? Passion? How do you desire to have sex again you ask? Do you desire her (not just sex)? I wrote it as "sex, sex, sex" because this is the Sex and Romance forum, and because I wanted to get right to the point, instead of writing something super long. I love my wife and I think she is incredible in so many ways! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starlight925 Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 I have MS so maybe my loss of libido is related to that. Maybe I can ask my neurologist about that next time I see him, though it seems a bit strange. So often, we see initial posts here at ENA where a key detail is missing. Yes, check with your neurologist. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lostandhurt Posted January 30, 2018 Share Posted January 30, 2018 How much porn do you watch? One step at a time. If you watch porn stop all together. Go get a physical and be honest with your MD. Don't leave things out because it may be embarrassing. Once you have done those 2 things let us know what the results are. Without basic health answers and stopping porn you really don't know where you stand. Lost Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
glitterfingers Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 I have MS so maybe my loss of libido is related to that. Maybe I can ask my neurologist about that next time I see him, though it seems a bit strange. I find other women attractive, just like any other man. However, I also find my wife to be extremely gorgeous, so there is no need to want other women. She is exactly what I'm into. I just am not interested in sex in general. I don't even have interest in doing things by myself. I hate to be so black and white about it, because sexuality is complex. And I am definitely not a doctor. But I do know that the cause for this sort of thing is either physiological or psychological, if you can really separate the two. Psychological reasons, maybe your priorities have changed (chronic illness will do that). Also, some men have naturally lower levels of testosterone (sometimes that requires hormonal therapy), or it may be a nervous system/sensory thing associated with MS I think it would be a good idea to discuss it with your specialist. A quick google search suggests it might not be an uncommon occurrence for MS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
reinventmyself Posted January 31, 2018 Share Posted January 31, 2018 I just googled MS and sex drive. It goes on to say that MS is a neurological issue and arousal begins in the central nervous system. MS can impair sexual functioning. Definitely talk to your doctor. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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