December12345 Posted January 24, 2018 Share Posted January 24, 2018 I had a great relationship with my now ex-girlfriend. We met in Budapest and then travelled together to Bangkok, Bali, Barcelona, Munich, Dubai and more cities. It was amazing, so amazing that we decided to enter a long-distance relationship after a year of dating. I am doing my master in England (working extremly hard for it) and she took a job in Dubai as cabin crew member. She is not sure what she wants to do, professionally, and i understand that. Being a stewardess is not a long-term "thing" and most people stop after 1 or 2 years. Dubai is a lonely city for a girl, i know and understand that (she is not happy there). The continious time differences and moving from one hotel room to the next is not something for everybody. We were seeing each other every 2 week or one month to see each other for 24 hours when she flew to city close to mine. It was very difficult for both of us, but we kind of, agreed, that it would be phase that would pass. Fast forward, I was so happy to spend New Year in Vienna with her and then the next 4 days we would have spent in Munich and the mountains to go skying. I was so happy. However, instead, what happened, is that she broke up, litterally 2 hours before New Year. It was heart breaking... I drove 5 hours to Vienna and within the first 20 min. the discussion shifted. It was the longest night. We talked a lot the night we broke up, litterally the whole night in the hotel room, unable to sleep. She told me that she was unable to have relationship and 1.5 years is the longest she could last. (We were about to hit 2 years). She told me i am the best boyfriend she ever had and started crying, telling that she doesn't understand herself but knows this is right. I doesn't make sense ,I told her. I understand that she is not happy in Dubai, but why push a happy relationship away? She didn't know what to answer, only saying that, being alone, and the lonelyness, help her to figure out what she wants. The worst part came later. I had to prepare for my final exams in 2 weeks... I put some time aside for her, thinking we would spend time in Munich together, because it was important to me, but after the breakup, i was unable to focus well. I am writing my exams right now and i am panicking in every single one of them. This is not me. I will get a C's, maybe one B, at best. All my previous grades were A's. This almost certainly will have serious impact on my early professional future. I am so mad, so so mad. I am failing my exams while she is travelling from one place to the next. I worked so hard for this. I put so much effort to get accepting into one of the best universites. Why would you choose such a timing? Why two hours before New Year and why two weeks before my exams? It is difficult to express how mad i am. After the break-up we were, somehow still on good terms, but now, after skyping several times, it changed to ice cold, probably because i still had some hopes for the relationship. I am the nicest guy you can imagine. Loving, affectionate, very polite, carring, and well educated. But my thoughts shifted slowly. Could someone please explain me why am I allowing someone to treat me like this? I thought about it over and over again. My ex-girlfriend has a conditions that disqualifies from taking any job as cabin crew or pilot for that matter and she made a very good job of hidding it. I can't help but thinking just to blow the whistle and move on. One part of me tells me this is wrong, the other part just thinks "why would you let people treat you like that?" Please advise. Link to comment
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