saltlife Posted January 17, 2018 Share Posted January 17, 2018 Hi everyone, So I am really struggling on what to do in this relationship. We went on our first date in the beginning of October and it was great, through out October and November things were going amazingly and I feel like I met my perfect match. Now as we were getting to know each other we both realized that we have some baggage. I was in a long term long distance relationship for 6 years where we were engaged and it ended very badly with my heart broken about two years ago. I was angry and hurt and shut myself off from the world. About 8 months after the breakup I started dating again and went through my "serial dating" as I like to call it phase. I dated a lot of girls and I found something wrong with every one of them even if they were great. I stopped for awhile again and then I met my current girl friend. She was perfect everything that I thought I wanted. And we hit it off great. Her baggage was that she was total party girl through college. Loved to get drunk on the weekends and have a good time. Which is the complete opposite of me. About two years ago she was diagnosed with Crohns and almost killed her. Right after that she started dating a friend that she would party with and they got engaged December of 2016. He was abusive, always drunk and just toxic. She caught him cheating in June and called everything off. We got together in October and we shared the same values had similar stories but asked that we take things slow. Which I was fine with. Through November things were going good and started to speed up and we both were falling in love. Right after thanksgiving she was going on a cruise with her two old roomates. She left on the day she was supposed to have gotten married. Since the cruise things have been going down hill. She has slowly becoming more distant, she started partying more going out with friends getting drunk, and then feeling terrible because of her disease and getting mad at me for trying to take care of her. I have been trying to give my all and it seems like there is something there after she came home. New Years Eve we decided to stay in together where early in the evening she had a breakdown, saying she was empty and not feeling anything and it wasn't fair to me, that she should be falling in love but hasn't. We talked and seemed to resolve things. The next day she said that maybe she needs to find herself and we sort of broke up. Until that evening when she called that she was wrong made a terrible mistake and could not lose me. We talked patched things up and are still together. The problem is I still feel like she is drifting away, not affectionate, uncaring, and just going through the motions.She has just started a new job and said she is trying to focus on it but I can't help notice the difference from before the cruise, and the distance since new years. Sorry for the long post but I'm just not sure if I should end things, everytime I try to talk she insists everythings fine and that we are fine. I just don't know what to do. Thanks! Link to comment
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