firstluvstruck Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 My ex is with someone else (and very much trying to make it work) and sent me this cover of harvest moon. why? some sick way of saying she cares about me as a friend? She and the other person were broken up for a little while and we re-entered each other's lives. I left my guard up but still haven't resolved the resentment. she decided to give him another chance, then realized she may be hurting me. I pulled back and she kept sending a few texts here and there and sent me this song. I'm continuing to pull back and probably reading too much into it. it's not fair to send this song no matter how innocent her interpretation of it. https://genius.com/Poolside-harvest-moon-lyrics Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 Send her a song back. "Games People Play" by Tesla http://www.metrolyrics.com/games-people-play-lyrics-tesla.html Not sure, but sounds like a game to me. It's unfair to you. Why don't you block her? Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 10, 2018 Share Posted January 10, 2018 As long as you continue to take the bait, she'll continue with the only thing she has to offer..."breadcrumbs." My guess is the song she sent is simply a ploy to control you. Why not close that final door, and refuse to be at her mercy? Link to comment
firstluvstruck Posted January 11, 2018 Author Share Posted January 11, 2018 I'm very close to doing it. follow up: what is the point of these breadcrumbs? for attention? and to ease any guilt, subconsciously? Link to comment
DanZee Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 These things happen. People aren't machines. We have emotions. And every once in a while we'll think nostalgically about an ex. I sent a birthday card to my ex about seven months after we broke up. I got an angry reply back from her. An ex sent me back a small scarab from Egypt I had given her, and this was months after we had broken up. I demanded to know why she sent me back what had been a gift. I called an ex up one time when I had been given tickets to a concert and I had no one to go with. Luckily she wasn't home because I'm sure I would have gotten a nasty comment. So it happens. Try not to read too much into it. People do this. You might do it too. Just think twice if you're tempted to do it. Link to comment
Starlight925 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 what is the point of these breadcrumbs? for attention? and to ease any guilt, subconsciously? Because we are not psychic, we have no idea. What we do know is, you are allowing it. She will breadcrumb you for years if you let it. Block her, and you won't have to ask the question. Link to comment
Imho Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 You were together then separated You two re-entered each other lives when she was separated from dude. She re-entered his life She is sending you songs and texts She is keeping you around so she can come back to you if they separate again. You are relationship back up for her Close that door Link to comment
Seymore Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 What she's doing is lower than a snake's nutsack. Block her and watch her go nuts when she realizes she can't get though to you. Link to comment
SweetGirl28 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 I'm very close to doing it. follow up: what is the point of these breadcrumbs? for attention? and to ease any guilt, subconsciously? The point may be to let you know she is thinking of you, on friendly terms. The point may be she is mind f****** you. The point may be she wants to keep your mind on her in case her relationship fails. Who knows. Try not to dissect it, just ignore it. My ex sent me a really gross song, "Closer" by Nine Inch Nails. I can't even post it here. The lyrics are that bad. It made me feel like an object, unvalued, which was most likely the reason he sent it. So how did the song she sent make you feel? It was to invoke a reaction. Link to comment
firstluvstruck Posted January 11, 2018 Author Share Posted January 11, 2018 The point may be to let you know she is thinking of you, on friendly terms. This one diagusts me. Makes me think that she needs to give me validation...and I can't tell if I need it. (Maybe I want what I can't have). During her and the guy's break she came full force..wanting to hamg out during the week, exercise, dinner, invited me to go on vacation months from now. Of course that's stopped. I can't even imagine how awkward the trip would be if I bought tickets (not that I would have). So far the consesus is to ignore it..to ignore her. Even those off the website tell me this. I kind of told her that I wouldn't be able to talk to her if she gets back with him...she didn't care. Even more proof thay I should say good riddens. ..talk about 2 giant steps backward. Link to comment
firstluvstruck Posted January 11, 2018 Author Share Posted January 11, 2018 Sorry for the many typos Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 11, 2018 Share Posted January 11, 2018 Yes, exactly. You have been demoted to friendzone and fanclub. This is the kind of drivel people post on social media to "express themselves". Don't be her backup plan/fan. Go strict no contact and block her.what is the point of these breadcrumbs? for attention? and to ease any guilt, subconsciously? Link to comment
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