lonestar89 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 All my life I've had problems with my family. In August 2015 I had to move back home with my mom. When I was growing up I thought that my father was doing all of the toxic bs but now that I've lived with grandma for almost three years I see that she's had a hand in it too. My dad used to tell me I was too stupid too accomplish anything now his mom is telling me I'm too fat to be desirable by anyone. Recently I decided to go back to school and move on campus (even though I'm a little older than most of the students that make this decision; I'm in my late twenties). I told my friend ( not my boyfriend because I didnt want to get into anything too serious) and he told me that I needed to stay home because my lack of patience (ie not wanting to deal with grandma) would cost me. He too is in a toxic relationship. While I understand him being concerned for my safety my instincts are telling me that he's afraid of the door that (potentially) opened for me and he wants to make sure I stay back (misery likes company). To be clear he WANTS me to CONTINUE my education....just not on campus. Sometimes I'll cry thinking about the toxicity of the whole situation. When that happens I get reminded that I have to deal with her and that I didn't grow up worse than him. Without him saying so it appears that I'm being a spoiled brat that needs to be the hell over it (this is how my family acts as well). Am I being a brat? Is 2018 the year of me ending this relationship or the rest of them for that matter? Link to comment
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