luvscars123 Posted January 9, 2018 Share Posted January 9, 2018 Hey, so my girlfriend and I had been together for almost two years on and off and we go to the same school now. In the past few months we have had our bumpy patches and more fights. We have broken up twice but for very short periods of time... a day or two. The last time we did we promised each other this was our last chance because it is unhealthy. We honestly do have a very strong bond and are in love, I just overreact and e have our issues like any other couple. We're young. Anyways, around 4 days ago we got into a heated fight. Here's a quick break down.. I saw a message from a guy friend and said she should open it in front of me.. (I am trying to accept my faults and describe this in her eyes to so..) perhaps I came off as upset or jealous but that's what I said. She didn't agree she should have to and walked away. We began to argue about it and I left for a while and eventually come back with some stuff. I questioned her again about what the conversation was about and she said is was trivial and very short. I can read her body language very easily so I knew she was lying. I asked more questions and she continued to lie saying there was no more conversation to see but finally admitted she had texted her girl-friend that I got "upset" her guy-friend messaged her. I was upset at the fact my girlfriend told her girl-friend that and she told that guy-friend who messaged her. Still suspicious, I stupidly read the conversation on her personal belonging to confirm my suspicion. The convo was between my girlfriend and her girl-friend and it was saying "delete the conversation your boyfriend can't see it" and so on.. It went on to say that the guy-friend who messaged my girlfriend was actually bad mouthing me to her. I got super upset and exposed her and she got my belongings and I left very quickly. I was shocked she fabricated it and allowed it. The only problem is she was saying she agrees it is suspicious in the convo and she can't control what someone says to her. Either way both of us were wrong in handling this.. Fast forward, we haven't talked for 4 days following. We have unfollowed each other on social media and have had no contact since. I know that we still love eachother because we share a strong relationship and it was nothing detrimental like cheating. What I want to ask is how should I approach her? I was thinking about sending a message explaining I want to return her belongings and to talk briefly to be on good terms. I was initially going to do that tomorrow, so 5 days since. But I am reading stuff about the no contact rule? Should I wait a few more days? I want to explain to her yes maybe we shouldn't be together at the moment, but I am going to work extremely hard on myself so maybe there is a chance we get back together in a month or even a few? Or to be friends at the moment like taking it slow, but occasionally hanging out and talking like once every two weeks. I just know she has my heart but I'm worried her friends have turned her against me and last time we said it was our last chance. Do I have any hope in salvaging this if I truly explain that yes we need a break but I will work on myself very hard.. etc Any help is greatly appreciated ps. I don't want to wait too long because her birthday is in two weeks and I want to be able to wish her a happy birthday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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