dburnsafc Posted December 25, 2017 Share Posted December 25, 2017 There is this girl I've been FWB's with for about 3 months but we've both kind of fallen for each other. I think she fell for me first and then later on I made it clear that I felt quite strongly about her too, and that I would find it difficult to let her go should she want to leave me. She is cute and we enjoy each other's company, I think about her a lot when I'm not around her and we have similar interests and tastes in music. I would like to start dating her properly and possibly get into a relationship with her, but there are a couple things that put me off. The main thing being that I am quite into fitness and playing sports, but she is really inactive, quite out of shape and not interested in trying new things (at least anything that involves much physical activity). She smokes a lot, drinks a lot and enjoys going clubbing and staying out late. I used to do that but have changed my ways in recent years. I would prefer to go to bed early and then go the gym in the morning or a bike ride. I've suggested a couple things we could try together and she didn't seem interested, but I do have some other ideas. I'm hoping she may be keen to try these but I'm not sure she will. Part of me thinks a relationship might not work for these reasons, but I have no idea what to say to her if I think it's not working out. I don't want to make her feel as though I think she's boring or lazy. I also don't want to date her for a couple months and then suddenly break it to her that I don't think it's working, as I think she would be really surprised and hurt. Should I point out my concerns to her before we start dating? Link to comment
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