She's back?

[ccmench3]

My ex girlfriend who i hadn't heard from in four months texted me out of the blue telling me she misses me. So we meet up and just get dinner, nothing serious talk and go separate ways. She messages me today asking me what my plans were for new years and if I wanted to do somthing. I told her my plans that I had already had and I invited her she said she would consider it. I wasn't going to bring up being in a relationship with her I wanted to let things just happen. Until she asked me what I wanted out of this? I told her I wanted my best friend back and the love of my life. She had different ideas she told me she doesn't want to be with me in a relationship but she needs me. What do I do?

[SweetGirl28]

What do you do? You forget her.

Do not be her emotional crutch.

What does she need you for?

Tell her to find what she needs from another guy, because you're moving on :)

Don't be friends, you have feelings. She will play you like a fiddle if you allow her to.

[mountaingirl]

Yikes. No deal, back to NC. She is absolutely playing with you, although at least she moved it forward to this part so you know where you stand.

 

She misses you and likes having you in her life, on her terms. But you want more so it's never going to work. Don't be her lapdog. Know what you want and don't take anything less. People respect that.

[Hollyj]

You block her.

 

She only wants a platonic relationship. If you have feelings, she cannot be in your life.

[ccmench3]

Thanks y'all that's a pretty uhunanimous decision

[SweetGirl28]

Thanks y'all that's a pretty uhunanimous decision

 

Sure is, from three females!

Good luck to you, I hope you find happiness :)

[Sportster2005]

My ex girlfriend who i hadn't heard from in four months texted me out of the blue telling me she misses me. So we meet up and just get dinner, nothing serious talk and go separate ways. She messages me today asking me what my plans were for new years and if I wanted to do somthing. I told her my plans that I had already had and I invited her she said she would consider it. I wasn't going to bring up being in a relationship with her I wanted to let things just happen. Until she asked me what I wanted out of this? I told her I wanted my best friend back and the love of my life. She had different ideas she told me she doesn't want to be with me in a relationship but she needs me. What do I do?

 

I would tell her to take a flying f** leap at a rolling doughnut. She's basically saying give me what I need, the heck with what you need.