TrustingMyGut Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 I have met a lovely man that always keeps in touch. Purposefully does "standard" nice things. Makes me dinner, buys me flowers, says he loves me, tell his family and friends about me. Made a strong commitment statement pretty early on. I have never had this before, I am mid 30's. I want to have a family and have a loving relationship. My background: I have two long term relationships that ended with both of them holding on to me until they found the woman they wanted to marry. I trusted and loved them, in return I was lied to and slowly degraded. I met this lovely gentleman right after I found out my ex married the woman he had been cheating on me with. This lovely gentleman knows my background. The issue I need help with is my discomfort regarding his female friends, and the way I have not been able to resolve my discomfort. He has several female friends that he had romantic interest in, but they friend zoned him. Some he kissed once, one is an ex fiance. They are now "great friends" of many years. As I write this, I guess my issue is he does not respond with concern when I have been upset, or concern about his relationships with women that are platonic. However, the friendships seem to have a tinge of a crush aspect. Recently he mentioned how a good friend was someone that he would have dated but it never worked out. It made me feel bad, I didn't say anything because I have raised a fuss over other instances. I am wondering, is this a guy thing? Do they all say emotionally stunted things? I don't want to be unrealistic and end a relationship over a complaint that everyone has to deal with, but I am not emotionally growing closer to him and he is pressuring me to get married and move to a rural area where I have no satisfying job options. Would appreciate your thoughts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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