scorpiochick21 Posted November 25, 2017 Share Posted November 25, 2017 I have just come out of a 9 month relationship with a man of a different religion. The relationship began amazingly and I have never met anyone who is exactly my type physically and mentally. One issue, I met his whole family but mine didn’t know of him. He began putting less effort into me after about 4/5 months and if I brought it up he’d say ‘ well I’m a secret’ it was putting pressure on me because I knew I should introduce him, but him being mellow and indifferent in his efforts I just didn’t know if I should. He didn’t give me much reassurance about the future ( or as much as I wanted ) and he began to say he dislikes Muslims ( my religion though I’m not religious my family has a decent connection with Islam). He’d also sometimes mention his ex girlfriend which would make me insecure. I told him once we need to meet sit and discuss all our issues but when I went over he just put the telly on. We then went on a break and he didn’t seem to really care he just said he won’t change himself.. anyway we got rocky again, broke up. I begged for him back, he didn’t come back, then he did said he wanted to try againthen it messed up again before we even met ( this was probably my fault to be fair ) I feel like although I know he felt like a secret, he never actually sat me down and properly communicated it to me and would only bring it up if we were already in a argument. I said to him you’ll meet them, I just saying it’ll be a bit difficult as you’re not Muslim but ima stick by you. We are 24/25 he’s white British im Arab. He knew the deal when we first got together. If he had put more effort in after the honeymoon phase I’d have more motivation to fight for him with my rents. I’m broken. He is a good guy with a good background, he’d still say he loved me but it became routine where we stopped doing exciting things. I wonder if it’s because he thought I may just leave him for my family in the end - wish he had opened up to me more if that were the case or I should’ve just known .. it was more about respect to my family ensuring it’s something solid, it wouldn’t have been as big a deal as he thought. Apart from the family bit I used to always go to his area to see him, I’d always get him little gifts and I’d organise dates for us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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