cruzer Posted November 15, 2017 Share Posted November 15, 2017 about 6 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend of 9 years. they were together from 18 to 27. shes 28. so basically the only serious relationship she has had. we started talking and i was worried about how she just got out of a 9 year relationship. ive witnessed her getting hit on a lot, by many guys. so im not the first to come along but i still want to try and be as smart as possible. i dont want to just be the first guy who came along she was half way attracted to and she dove in without giving much time or thought. she told me how long ago she broke up with him and how she wants to take a couple months to let things settle before trying to date me. and when/if we do, she wants to go slow i definitely felt better when she told me that. if after 9 years she decided to break up with him shes obviously not completely free of feelings for him but shes definitely hit the point of its time to move on.(no guarantee but is it somewhat safe to assume that?) and then she wants to take a couple months to let things settle before starting a relationship with me. made me feel she has a good thought process at least. the question im having is, i can control my feelings and go slow, but i cant control her feelings. and the reason i even bring this up is we talk a lot at work and been texting for a month. A day or two before we did anything outside of work she texts me saying she wishes we could be cuddling and kissing right now. she said she was feeling other things but that would have to wait(anyone can explain that????) im just tired of spending a couple months with a woman and her leaving, no conflicts, no excuses or explanations. she asked if we could go do something before dating, just as friends, no pressure. and we did. for 6 hours, mall/dinner. she never made any moves is there any questions i can ask to get her thinking? or is my only option just going slow, and if she starts talking crazy about feelings of love to then distance myself slightly? probably not worth anything because its so early and limited, but she seems very genuine and sweet. everyone at work says the same. very shy and reserved. doesnt like talking about her personal life(she is with me, just not the general public or coworkers). shes not afraid to talk about serious things that so many other women refuse or avoid talking to me about. despite not wanting to talk about her personal life she said she isnt worried about people seeing us talking, or together, or their comments about us that we get thanks Link to comment
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