Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 On friday i went out with work - i ended up getting very drunk and ended up in a hotel with a guy that works in the same company as me - never saw him in this light before up until now that is. We didnt sleep together , had kisses and a grop and a fumble and he dropped me home in the morning, since then our paths havent crossed and we havent spoken - we dont really much to be fair anyways unless we see eachother in our work kitchen and we speak for maybe a few minutes - we have been out on a night out once before but nothing happened. Now i cant stop thinking about him and want to hook up - we briefly said hello on the tuesday but that was about it - i think i went red and got abit embarrased. His friend was also in the hotel with us but left us to be alone when we was hooking up for some kisses - after that we spent the night chatting and talking and then i went to sleep. I know its not the greatest story ever and puts me not in a good ligut but i would like to hang out again - i know he is on dating websites and activeley dating but he isnt in a realtionship from what i know - nothing serious anyways Can this happen again? I Quite fancy him now and i just dont know what to do, we work in th same company but different departments in the same biggesh room I know im mad but i was thinking he would ot maybe emailed or reached out but hasnt but this is work and im unsure how to play it Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 I would invite him to lunch or some public meeting like coffee. If you don't work together that is. If you do I'd avoid it. Assume that if he was interested he would have reached out but I think it's fine to invite him out to lunch. Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 Yeh with work i always think these things arent ever the same as normal dating due to having to see eachother everyday and it being awkward - when he dropped me home i said please dont say anything to anyone as i dont want to be gossipied about Im not confident to ask him for lunch - but ur right he should of asked really or reached out? Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Well I would think so. I met my husband at work but it started with a lunch date. Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 Oh okay He hasnt made any moves but then neither have i - i really dont know how to play this as it was a drunken hookup rather than a lunch date Maybe he is embarrased by me and doesnt want a repeat performance Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 It could be- what I would tell myself is that you had a good time with him that one night whether or not it goes anywhere. Next time you might make a different choice and that's ok. I'd ask him to get lunch. Link to comment
DancingFool Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 I think you need to make up your mind about what you want. Nothing much really happened between you to be blushing over. Also, you made it clear to him that you don't want him bringing this up, so why would he? If you want more, you'll have to actually step up here and let him know that you actually like him and that the other evening wasn't just you being drunk and wearing beer goggles. Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 I personally would wait for some small sign of shared interest. At this point from you have shared there doesn't appear to be any. Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 Yes you are right but i blush all the time it is so embarrasing!! Yes i know i said not to say nothing but its to save face as well as i dont want him regretting anything I would say we kissed and we removed a few clothes and have a touch but not sex - he couldnt get it up anyways im not to sure what would of happened if he did What small sign of interest do i look for? Im not the most outgoing of people but not an introvert either - i would like there to be another kiss definatley but im not sure if HE is interested Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Yes you are right but i blush all the time it is so embarrasing!! Yes i know i said not to say nothing but its to save face as well as i dont want him regretting anything I would say we kissed and we removed a few clothes and have a touch but not sex - he couldnt get it up anyways im not to sure what would of happened if he did What small sign of interest do i look for? Im not the most outgoing of people but not an introvert either - i would like there to be another kiss definatley but im not sure if HE is interested You may be not be outgoing but can you pick up on social queues ? Does he look at you? Initiate a conversation? Linger around in your presence? If you were to initiate any of these same things does he mirror you by responding, smiling, anything? Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 Ermmmm i think he has glanced over in my direction once or twice but i didnt read to much into it - at the beginning he didnt but as the week has drawn on he has - so maybe he has relaxed a little We dont cross paths that much to be perfectly honest with you it would only ever really be at lunch time - and he came in once and said hello but i felt abit embarrased - he tried talking to my colleague who i was sitting with which i thought was good he was acting normal I just dont know it is such a difficult one - i really wish something could happen - shall i smile or something and see what happens or what? Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 I just dont know it is such a difficult one - i really wish something could happen - shall i smile or something and see what happens or what? Yes. . a smile won't cost you anything Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 Haha i know that What should i do to give me a hint that he is or isnt interested without feeling embarrased incase there is a rejection? Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Haha i know that What should i do to give me a hint that he is or isnt interested without feeling embarrased incase there is a rejection? Unfortunately there is always a good chance of rejection when it comes to matters of the heart. There are no guarentees. The goal here is to trust yourself enough to handle what ever comes your way. . Add in the risk of continually running into him at work. Is it a risk you are willing to take and can you handle it? Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 That is a valid point and the answer would be no as im having a hard time as it is now but i would just change jobs if it came to that - wouldnt bother me And yeh always rejection which i cant ruin the risk of doing - which is why i hate i work with him at least if this was over text i could use work as a distraction i cant do this in this sceneario Link to comment
Jibralta Posted November 9, 2017 Share Posted November 9, 2017 Why did you go to a hotel room? Could he be married? Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 9, 2017 Author Share Posted November 9, 2017 No not married and tbh no idea why we Got a hotel - he still lives at home Link to comment
Sarah3000 Posted November 10, 2017 Author Share Posted November 10, 2017 Okay so its been a full working week and tbh nothing im really sad about this as i was wanting something to happen i cant stop thinking about him - i hate when im never fancied back Link to comment
reinventmyself Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Okay so its been a full working week and tbh nothing im really sad about this as i was wanting something to happen i cant stop thinking about him - i hate when im never fancied back You don't know what he's thinking and instead of filling in the blank with someone painful, consider the fact that he does fancy you, he's just one who won't cross the line with this coworkers. Head high. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted November 10, 2017 Share Posted November 10, 2017 Okay so its been a full working week and tbh nothing im really sad about this as i was wanting something to happen i cant stop thinking about him - i hate when im never fancied back So next time you think there might be potential choose to stay sober and get to know the person in a more traditional way. Link to comment
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