Jayne24 Posted October 15, 2017 Share Posted October 15, 2017 Ok so this is a long and rather stupid story on my part. To put this in context I'm a average 23 years old but until 9 months ago had never dated in my life! Now this is most due to a lack in self confidence but I'm now much more outgoing and am ready for a relationship... the only problem is the guy I'm pretty certain I've fallen for is seriously confusing and I'm not sure he feels the same way or will ever be ready for a relationship. It all started when I signed up to online dating and believe me this is something I never though I'd do. But anyways, the first guy I started to talk to basically just messed me about for 4 months and it turned out he wasn't even interested in me. And then I started talking to this guy (the one I think I'm in love with) but at first we were just talking as friends because at the time I was dating someone else and also he lived quite far away..... skip a few months, a couple of disasterous dates all the while still talking to this guy and we finally decided to meet up. Now by this point I knew almost everything about him and vice versa... the date went well and for the next month we were actually calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend even though we'd only met a couple of time. At this time I was also applying to universities and go accepted onto my ideal course that would also mean I would be living significantly closer to him. Anyways, I was in the area and he'd offered that I could stay at his since I need to be there for a few days to sort stuff out so of course I was delighted and said yes. However unbenosed to me was the fact that at the time he was going through some tough stuff family and work related and was a suffer of anxiety. Well we went out for a meal and I stayed the night but he just wasn't himself and the next day after I left I got a message from him saying he wasn't ready for a relationship and that ended things between us and for over 2 months we didn't speak. Now this had really upset me because it was so unexpected and his reasonings weren't justified in my opinion... but skip 2 months and I was now living in the are so though I'd just see how he was doing. Long story short we talked for a few weeks and decided to meet up again. Well I turned up on time (to his house) but he wasn't even there and after 30mins of waiting I decided to try contacting him on messenger only to find he'd deleted his account so I had no way of contacting him. At this point I was actually worried about him since we're were on good term again and so I messaged his sister to check he was alright. Turns out he was using her house to hide in and so I went there with the sister to confront him. Initial he pretended he didn't know who I was but that didn't last and it ended with him telling me he never wanted to see or speak to me again. Obviously I was really upset because this just came out of nowhere but in a way it was kind of the closure I needed so I accepted it. Then 3 days later he messages me saying he really regrets pushing me away and asks if I will come over so he can explain everything. Well I said yes because for some reason I just can't stay mad at him even when I know I should be furious and he told me all about why he did it and turns out it was to do with his last girlfriend who cheated on him. Ever since then we've been talking again but although he says he does like me and wants to take things slow I get the feeling he really isn't that bothered and makes little to no effort to see me. Please can someone help me because I really do like him but my emotions are so conflicted and although there's nothing I'd like more than to be in a relationship with him I'm beginning to feel that'll never happen 😥 Link to comment
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