mirelamire Posted September 14, 2017 Share Posted September 14, 2017 Hello! I've been on a long distance relationship with this guy for 4 months and we started out as friends. It was simply perfect and we would spend hours talking about around every single thing. Actually, he is one of the very few people to actually listen to my rants and I did the same in return. At first, I didn't like him romantically. At all. I even got scared when he admitted having feelings for me and I considered breaking up the ties with him but he clarified everything by telling me it's rather a friendship feeling. Only after we've seen eachother on Skype did I start nurturing strong feelings for him. He was very passionate on his statements and in the end told me he loved me. My feelings him grew on a slower pace but they did anyway. We had fights, he absolutely hated that I talked to other men whereas I was okay with him talking to other women. I just trust him. It all broke loose when I told him by mistake I had been talking to another man during the early stage of our...thing(but way before we admitted our feelings) considering that I had told him I wasn t talking to anyone else. I explained the misunderstanding(that I only talked to that guy for work purpose - I am a translator and he is a native in the language i am working with), but he wouldn't hear a word. He started telling me very hurtful things, that he had met another girl online way before he met me and that she never lied to him. Also told me he could go to a lot of countries and have women to show him around(I know it s BS tho). Anyway, after a while he became calmer but colder towards me, would not answer as fast as before etc(mind you, I did apologise many times). I tried to fix things up. On his b-day I made him a short vid of myself wishing him the best etc etc and he loved it. But hours later he returned to his cold ways. Every time I saw him online on Whatsapp and on facebook and not talk to me I would think about how he talks to that other girl(I was never jealous, it's not in my character). He had told me many times to take things slow this time but everytime I would complain about his cold behaviour(while I could understand the lack of intimacy, I could not understand why he wasn't talking as we did when we met) and he would tell me "But we are talking, you are making drama!". One day I couldn't bear it anymore and I told him that I would have wanted to meet that girl he bragged about. A few hours later he sent me a long message telling me that while he still feels something for me, we have to wait for better Times and see what happens. He even said he would be happy if I found someone else. I took it as a break up message, was devastated and never replied to him. BUT After only 2 days he texts me saying: "Fine. So be it. I don t wanna hear about your attempts of fixing things. I will ignore you as well from now on. stop writing to me." I was a bit taken aback but I already knew he is usually dramatic so I answered him calmly that I told him everything I had to tell him on a calm tone,that I can't do "just friends", and if he wants more, fine, but if not, bye. He saw the message and didn't reply. Is he giving me the no contact treatment as well? What should I do? Link to comment
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