I went from an ignored geek to being noticed like crazy?

[RedPenguin]

Just to give back story, I was almost completely ignored by women in school as an anti-social geek except some few girls not my type.

 

 

Fast forward to 29 years old and I finally have confidence now to respect who I am and figure I either find a girl or I don't.

 

I started walking a lot to lose a tad bit of weight, nothing major, but extra, and started noticing odd things.

 

For some reason, I seem to keep attracting beautiful girls but they always seem to be under age like 16.

 

Just a few examples, on the bus one day I saw two girls and heard giggling and the one I found really cute gave me the biggest smile I had ever seen.

 

Then in a local convenience store, one 16 or so year old girl and her Mother kept staring over at me then smiling to each other. Then 2 days later, same place, a 16 year old girl just completely stared at me for at least 10 seconds like she was daydreaming.

 

Then while walking past two girls and saying hello and they walked the other way, I swear one said "He's sexy" but when I turned around, they just kept walking the other way.

 

I've even had friends and family tell me they see the underage and sometimes my age girls staring holes through me or checking me out, so I know I'm not just seeing things. They've even seen some girls with their boyfriend right next to them.

 

So I guess my main question is how could from basically 80% ignored to being stared at by very attractive girls?

 

Also is it normal to keep attracting underage girls? I mean I'm very flattered to get such great attention but I'm trying to find girls my age. But girls my age locally all seem to have their own lives with kids, boyfriends, married, or are just too wild for me like in to drugs or crime.

[mustlovedogs]

I don't mean this to be offensive but it honestly concerns me that you're noticing the underage girls noticing you.

 

It's a chicken or the egg argument - are they noticing you because you notice them first?

 

You really shouldn't even be looking.

[RedPenguin]

I should have added in the above post, I can't verify for a fact that they are underage, because I've seen 18 year old girls look 16 or vice-versa. So I'm not purposely attempting to look for it.

[mustlovedogs]

16 or 18, it's honestly creepy.

[RedPenguin]

I'm not trying to be with them, just relaying what people around me have stated that they themselves have seen. I'm not hanging at a school or something like that purposely trying to be strange.

 

Obviously my friends and family would react if they thought I was trying to be weird because they would never go for stuff like that.

[reinventmyself]

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[RedPenguin]

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[RedPenguin]

I have gotten attention as well from women my age, though for some reason I really stand out in my area, as it seems almost every women is already in a committed relationship.

 

I don't understand how they can claim they are more women on the Earth, when it seems all I find is confirmed taken women, meaning not women who just to put it nicely claim they have a partner.

[RedPenguin]

I think part of the problem might be that nobody ever believes my actual age.

 

When I was actually 21, they tried throwing me out of a casino not believing me.

 

Then when I was 24, places still didn't believe I was 21.

 

Oddly only now at 29 do places requiring you be 21, do they actually believe I am 21.

[mustlovedogs]

I sincerely wouldn't even notice if someone young was noticing me. Because I don't notice them.

[RedPenguin]

I sincerely wouldn't even notice if someone young was noticing me. Because I don't notice them.

 

Ok, but even if you completely ignore my noticing all together, how does one explain others noticing it also?

 

Obviously the others don't have witchcraft powers to make all females in the area look at me.

 

They even tell me, when I'm not noticing anybody in the area, when I'm preoccupied or distracted with my phone, it's still happening.

[mustlovedogs]

 

It's a chicken or the egg argument - are they noticing you because you notice them first?

 

 

As I said, perhaps they are noticing you because you're noticing them. Just consider that possibility.

[RedPenguin]

As I said, perhaps they are noticing you because you're noticing them. Just consider that possibility.

 

Yes, but I just mentioned an example of where even if I am completely oblivious to anybody in room, male or female, they still tell me it's happening.

 

So it can't just be me causing it if it happens when I don't even have a clue and am not even noticing a single person in the room.

[RedPenguin]

Also, don't know why somebody isn't saying anything about the Mother in the OP.

 

I clearly said how both the Mother and Daughter kept looking at me then smiling to each other.

 

You'd think the Mother would be like "Come on now honey, he's obviously too old for you" not join in on the staring and then smile at her daughter.

 

The Mother appeared at least in her late 30s or early 40s and you'd think she'd immediately say come on....

[mustlovedogs]

Honestly you're kinda impossible to post with. You keep saying the same thing without acknowledging what I said may be a factor in at least *some* of these.

 

You should not want the attention from these girls. Your post indicates you do. That's weird.

 

It's less weird for women to be in to older men than the reverse. So why would the mother say anything? (George Clooney, for instance)

 

I have no idea why you're getting noticed but regardless, it is sincerely creepy that you're so flattered.

[ThatwasThen]

Also, don't know why somebody isn't saying anything about the Mother in the OP.

 

I clearly said how both the Mother and Daughter kept looking at me then smiling to each other.

Seriously though, I think you're reading far too much into why the mother was smiling. Do you really think that a mature woman would be nudge, nudge, wink, winking along with her 16 year old daughter over you?

 

You'd think the Mother would be like "Come on now honey, he's obviously too old for you" not join in on the staring and then smile at her daughter.

You don't know that that is what was going on between the two of them, you are just surmising.

 

The Mother appeared at least in her late 30s or early 40s and you'd think she'd immediately say come on....

Or not.

[RedPenguin]

I realize know that I technically did mess up in the first post.

 

My original question basically was, how is it that I can supposedly be considered attractive to groups I don't want which is underage girls but I don't seem to be getting any real attention from the age group I actually do want.

 

I mean is it possible to only be physically attractive to a certain age group?

 

Again I don't understand why if I would get attention from younger why I would not get attention from my own age group.

[ThatwasThen]

I realize know that I technically did mess up in the first post.

 

My original question basically was, how is it that I can supposedly be considered attractive to groups I don't want which is underage girls but I don't seem to be getting any real attention from the age group I actually do want.

 

I mean is it possible to only be physically attractive to a certain age group?

 

Again I don't understand why if I would get attention from younger why I would not get attention from my own age group.

 

Probably because you look younger then what you actually are. Try growing a beard.

[RedPenguin]

Seriously though, I think you're reading far too much into why the mother was smiling. Do you really think that a mature woman would be nudge, nudge, wink, winking along with her 16 year old daughter over you?

 

You don't know that that is what was going on between the two of them, you are just surmising.

 

 

Yes, I definitely understand that, and realize I should not do that.

 

I just noticed I was in another section of the store and for some reason both would take turns looking at me then smiling to each other.

 

I guess technically they could have found something hilarious about me also.

[RedPenguin]

Oddly it took me a little while to completely understand the confusion but I do get it now.

 

I wasn't trying to imply that the younger girls themselves I was flattered by.

 

What I meant to say was, being I seemed to never be noticed in school or college, I was just surprised that now I am actually being noticed by any female at all.

 

Meaning I wasn't sure why I supposedly wasn't attractive enough to be noticed by anybody really then randomly now I'm suddenly noticed a lot.

 

I mean it's not like I got plastic surgery and have a whole new face and body or something.

[abitbroken]

FYI: older teenage girls, except teenage girl mice and deer in cartoons do not sit and giggle at a man who they have never seen before and think is handsome. They do, however, giggle if they notice his fly is down or about a story one of them just told the other.

 

If you walked in and were smiling, of course the mom is going to smile back at you because she is a polite, nice human being.

 

I think that you are someone who is newly experiencing confidence and your modesty/sense of humility has somehow gone out the window.

 

I suggest you join meetup groups that interest you to expand your network of people versus interpreting the behavior of women at convenience stores.

[RedPenguin]

FYI: older teenage girls, except teenage girl mice and deer in cartoons do not sit and giggle at a man who they have never seen before and think is handsome. They do, however, giggle if they notice his fly is down or about a story one of them just told the other.

 

If you walked in and were smiling, of course the mom is going to smile back at you because she is a polite, nice human being.

 

 

Normally I would have gone to what you said immediately, 100%, even though I did not walk in smiling at all. The only reason it seemed strange to me was, I didn't understand why they kept looking at me when I was all the way across the store as it was going on. That seemed a tad strange to me. So that's the only reason I brought it up.

 

Though I do realize my ego somehow got out of control in recent years, which I am trying to work on. Probably partially due to people always saying "My cousin's so smart" or "He's so smart, he could get any girl". I think that eventually works your ego up very far.