RedPenguin

Like posters said back on page one, I seem to have that. I will look at girls I think are cute in stores, on the bus, or wherever I am, and I try to get them to notice me, at least get a smile or something out of them, and it's like they always never seem to even notice me, but the weird part is, when someone walks with me, they are always telling me, the girls, I swear wouldn't even give me a smile, just smiled at me, so I guess they must smile, when I look away or something. And the funny thing is, many times, it's like I'm ignored or not really talked to when I try to talk to such and such girl, yet, those same girls, will often stare at me, look at me a lot, and generally many act as if they are throwing their bodies at me or something, yet, I try to talk to them, and they act like, who are you?, like they are not interested, so I figure, I musta been wrong and they were not interested, then after we are done talking, mysteriously, they seem to start watching me all the time again and flirting, I'm like wait a minute, she just ignored me when I was talking to her basically, now she's going to stare at or watch me all the time, what the hell, that makes no sense. Maybe, you ladies can explain this to me, how does it make sense to constantly flirt or look at a guy all the time, then just ignore him when he tries to talk to you, then after you talk, you start flirting again or constantly watching him. It's just so funny, it's like, if you ignore the guy when you are talking to him, it seems you probably don't like him, but if you don't like a guy, why on Earth would you constantly look at him or stare? That just sounds like a really stupid thing to do, LoL. That would be like saying you don't like donuts, but you hang out in donut shops all the time, and don't go to any other places, but don't eat any of the donuts, LoL. Anyway, yeah, physical attraction would be something to write about but mental attraction is defiantly a confusing thing, because as I just pointed out, at least with many girls, it's like they act like they like you, then don't, they do, it's like, a huge thing of mixed signals or something, LoL. P.S. One thing I found really odd was the fact that, even though, I don't seem to get girls to talk to me and appear to like me, at the same time, it's like somehow I get away with everything. I've always hear DO NOT look at a girls breast or behind, or not at least where it's completely obvious. Although, many times, I've literally stood there, where the girl saw me, and I was looking at the girl up and down, at her curves and everything, and at her breasts, especially if she had an open type shirt, even though I try not to look at their breast and nothing else, it's just when they have an open shirt, I can't 100% ignore them, and it's like many times the girl will get excited, start to smile and giggle, and will often act like she wants me to keep on looking. They will often just wait there, as if they are being like, I'm going to stand here, while you look some more. LoL. But yet, every time I try to go for a girl, she either has a boyfriend, or doesn't act like I am really that much, even though many of them acted earlier like I was so great, but after I'm done trying to talk to them, they act like, now they want my attention again, after they just basically shunned me away, LoL.

Yeah I try not to read to much into behavior, but I just found the one girl with a bf a tad baffling. I am not really trying for her due to her having a bf, but now, instead of a normal stare, she will put her chin in her palm, and just daze at me. It always try to not really look at body language, but sometimes things just catch my eye, as unusual and make me wonder. Maybe, it's just the way I see things, but I wouldn't think that a girl who has a bf would keep looking at a guy day in and day out, unless she was wondering about him. Like I said, that's just me.

Even though I said she was attractive, I said it in a different way, then you are attractive. I guess at first she musta liked it because she kept looking at me and copying everything I did, but I did not finishing going for her because I found out she had a boyfriend but she still looks/stares at me a lot but less mimicing. I felt odd because I didn't know she had a bf, but it's like I end up ignored if I try to talk to her, but yet, she still watches me constantly and stll mimics me. Why you a girl do that, if she doesn't like a guy, is possibly ignoring him, and already has a bf? If a girl had a bf but liked another guy, would she look at him but ignore him because she is "taken"?

That makes sense. I will have to think about that.

Well the main girl it happened with, I guess it was because she had a bf. I didn't know it when I tried to talk to her, but now I am in the weird situation like I said, where I am ignored in a talking sense, but I am watched all the time. I have the luck for some reason, I don't do anything, but yet, I constantly have girls just starring at me. Not just looking at me every now and then, I mean, like 3-15 minute stares. I guess either I am thought about a lot or really strange, who knows. LoL j/k. Anyway, i guess the art of flirting and stuff is just very confusing and sometimes funny.

With a couple of girls, I tried to take the first step and talk to the girl and break the ice. But here is where it gets weird. It's almost like every time I see a girl, tell her she is beautiful or attractive, and something like she is someone cool to be around, I swear, the girl will stare at me for a few days, for a few days, copy everything I do, but then, end up seeming to ignore me, like when I try to talk to them, it's like I am basically ignored. Also, with tons of girls, if I send them a message say on the computer, often I don't seem to ever get a reply, but I may get looked at a lot. Why never any replies? It is strange to me anyway. After it happened the first time, I was like, ok, then I swear it just keeps happening. Is this some kinda common behavior or something?

If a girl already has a boyfriend, but still really likes you, would she probably still ignore you, because she knows she would probably cheat with you?

I apolgize for generalizing, I didn't notice I was at first, my bad. But thanks to everyone for their replies.

Out of curiosity, why do women seem to do that a lot? What I mean is, you tell them they are attractive, they seem to flirt with you and seem to dig you, but if you talk to them either in person, email them, or anything, they just seem to ignore you. What is the point of flirting or seeming to show interest in the first place if you are just going to ignore them lol? It just makes no sense to me. NEW: If a girl already has a boyfriend, but still really likes you, would she probably still ignore you, because she knows she would probably cheat with you?

Yeah, all you guys were right. I am definatly going to stay away from her. I don't love to, but I just found her on MySpace and appearntly she has been with her boyfriend for 17 months. So that shows me, I would have no chance at all even if I tried. Anyway, too bad in life, there isn't a way to tell who is single and doesn't have a Boyfriend, it always comes to you after you start to fall for the girl. LoL. Life Sucks. Odd that she kept looking at me constantly acting like she was kinda interested in me, but who knows, LoL. I guess never try to figure out girls, they can just be confusing and misleading I guess. Wouldn't think I woulda got that with a girl that had a man for so long. Anyway, guys/gals thank you all for your replies.

Yeah, that's what I thought. I swear, though life is a tad funny sometimes. It always seems to end up that way for me. Every time I go for a girl that seems to be going good like she might like me, it always ends up that she is either taken or turns out she doesn't like me. LoL. I think it's a lie that there are more women then men in the world, either that or some men have like 5 girlfriends. J/K. LoL.

Yeah that makes sense. Anyway, out of curiosity, back to one of my previous questions. I always thought it was rude to stare and that's why people don't stare. If so, then why do sometimes, girls just completely stare at you, even after you notice them, and still keep staring at you? I know it might just be something natural, I just never occurred it before.

Yeah that makes sense.

Yeah, that's what I thought, that's why I wanted to ask, because it was a little bit of a confusing situation. I probably wouldn't mind being friends with her. Is it a bad idea to be friends with her for a while, then if she ever is single again to then go for her? Or because I like her, to just never even be friends?

I was just wondering. I have interest in this one girl in my class. Now she already knows that I find her attractive and already I believe knows I have an interest in her. Now I just found out she has a boyfriend. Now my question is, is it a stupid id, to still talk to her and hang around her showing interest, or is it just way better to just stay away? I was going to start to talk to her because it seemed like possibly I was getting somewhere, because she does some of the most interesting things. Even though she has a boyfriend already (I didn't know it at the time) she will often, constantly look at me, I mean like she is just frozen. Even if I look at her, she will not look away. Often she will mimic me during this. I also had this from another girl, I only see every now and then. I was in our student lounge, and this girl on the couch, who is attractive, when I was on the computer, just kept watching me constantly, like the other girl, even when I looked right at her, she just kept looking. Then she would look away. Then it was all over again. I know that sounds a little picky but I am just not used to it, I thought normally they say it's rude if you stare and that normally a girl will look away if you look at her or just look away after a while to not stare. I always heard to stay away but then some say don't worry about it. What's usually the good idea on this subject?

Well, I think for once, I am on the winning side instead of the losing side. In my math class, we had this thing with Blackboard where were get extra credit for posting a message about ourselves and replying to two other people. Well there was this one girl, I thought was very pretty in my class and seemed very nice. At first it was like she didn't really notice me but I posted about myself and then saw a post from her and since you also had to reply to two other people, I posted some stuff about how her interests are similar to mine and since she said she was into animals like I am, I said I shoula noticed because she appeared like a very sweet and friendly attractive young girl. Then the next day, I saw her in class, and boom, after a little while, she was looking at me constantly, we exchanged some smiles, and I gained an echo/mimic. I put my hand on my chin, she did the same. I put my hands on the table a certain way, she does exactly the same. I sit a certain way, she then does the exact same. I will not be able to see her again for a few days but I truly feel I definatly hooked her. If someone doesn't think so, please reply, but I hope I can go further with her.

I tried looking up body language and stuff but it's like I get constantly depressed and axietisitc. I mean, it's like I will feel constantly like I am horrible with women, even if it seems a girl is probably flirting. I mean, every now and then, if I have someone with me, they will always seem to notice way more than I do, they will be like, "she is defiantly checking you out" or "she smiled at you" and it's like I don't completely understand it or accept it. I mean why am I being so confused and not seeing? Is it all just depression? What can it be? I mean this constantly happens when I am with a friend, I may look at a girl, and think dang, she is very attractive, and then think to myself, nah, I have no chance but then even though I didn't say anything about the girl to my friend, they often will end up saying "she was looking at you" or "she smiled at you" and it's like I never noticed it. It happened just a few days ago at our local mall, I looked at two girls, and said boy that one is pretty, then thought, forget it and got sad, but then the person with me said, do you know her? I said, no why? She said because she looked at you and smiled. Please help me figure out what my problem is because it's extremely annoying. It's like my mind can't figure it self out.

Ok, I have a history of being extremly shy and anti-social, but now I am around tons of georgous girls. Now I've always looked at girls, and used to get so nervous that I used too look way too much but my question is, if you see a great looking girl, do they normally like you to look at them, maintain eye contact and smile and is there looking too much or something that can make her lose interest? See, I just get a tad mixed up around this subject because I want to look at the girl at least enough for her to see me and let her know, I am in to her, but I don't want to look so much, she will get extremely nervous or be like is wrong with him or something. It's just confusing for me as to what to do, due to the fact that I never did it before. Often, when I look at a pretty girl, and she smiles at me, it's like I'm stunned or something and confused as to what to do even though I kinda know what to do. I mean, it may be a "hey, what's up kinda smile", but it's like I will always only take it as a friendly smile and that's it. I know this all may sound silly, but it's something that's really happening. Thanks for all replies.

Is the pic that I showed earlier, is that what they called Pursed Lips? Or is that a little different? I am just curious. See I don't think because pursed means in a round shape, and pulling in the bottom lip doesn't make a round shape to me.

Sorry guys and ladies. I think maybe I said the wrong thing. When I said lower lip biting I thought I had the right thing but I think I maybe have the wrong thing. It looks like their is lower lip biting but also sucking in the lower lip. Sucking in the lower lip is more of what I mean. It doesn't appear to really be a bite. I know I meant this with teen girls but the only pic I could find of what I mean is a baby. link removed

Yeah, I see what you guys mean. That makes sense, because most body language I have ever seen is more different to each person. But this biting of the lip thing is becoming weird. My 12th grade of High School, it was like every girl I passed in the hallway did it, then in college, I didn't really notice it, now when I walk through stores like Walmart and the mall, it's happening all over again. I just don't see why everyone or so many people would do the same thing for no apparent reason. And I don't mean girls hanging out together, girls at random.

Yeah I guess in a way. I am not saying 100% for sure I think she likes me, but I am just curious as to why someone would do such a thing. Why would you look at something constantly that you find unattractive? I mean, when I see a girl who is not attractive at all to me, I really don't want to constantly look at her, like I would a girl I find amazingly attractive.

Now my question is, if in fact, this biting of the lips would be an nervous, shy, or flirtatious sign, would a girl actually get nervous or nervous around a guy they don't like? Also, can a girl literally hate a guy to the point where she doesn't wanna see them and then all the sudden, a year or two later, when they haven't seen each other for a while, end up liking him somewhat? For example, I heard this one girl say to someone else that I was "kinda ugly". Now, I don't care what other people say. She always seemed to not like me at all. Now after not seeing her for a year or two, she sudden, seems to act nice around me, and sees to constantly stare. People don't stare at people they find ugly normally do they?

Well, it's mostly girls my age, like 18 to maybe 25. But it's strange, I look at them, the bite their lips, then after I look away, they don't seem to bite their lips then. This even happens in room temperature and warmer places, not just cold places.