Laura Ashley Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Hello everyone, I sent a post ages ago about this tutor at school. He's young about 22/23. Well I still feel attracted towards him. I always have. But lately he keeps ignoring me. He doesn't say 'hi' to me any more or 'good morning' I know nothing can happen. But I want him and I can't let him go. Theres just something about him. He's special. But he doesn't seem to know me any more he doesn't say anyhting to me. What have I done wrong. Is he suspicious? I want him to talk to me some more LA Link to comment
Drizown Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Well I didn't read the previous post, but did you flirt with him? Are you younger than him? If so then maybe he's just trying to show u that nothing can happen between you by pushing u away. Just start talking to him one day. Link to comment
Laura Ashley Posted April 11, 2005 Author Share Posted April 11, 2005 No I never flirted with him incase it got him in to trouble but im 17 and he's about 22/23. Anyway he's a teacher. LA Link to comment
kiwifly Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Maybe somehow he's figured out that you're interested and now he doesn't want to lead you on? Then again, he could just be having troubles with his own personal life? Does he still say good morning or hello to other students or is he just ignoring you? [/i] Link to comment
Drizown Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Oh ic, hrm. Well I suggest if you still want to talk to him, just start up a random conversation with him. Or ask him a question about work. I doubt ne thing will happen tho. Link to comment
MsMe Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Need more details...how did you know him? What kind of conversations did you have with him prior? Link to comment
Laura Ashley Posted April 11, 2005 Author Share Posted April 11, 2005 wow thanks you two! I really expected some harsh posts. But maybe he is have trouble in his own life I had considered that. I aren't sure if he does chat to other students or not. How do I start a convo without it being to weird? I hate some of the women he works with. I'm jealous of them. At least if the wanted him they could have a chance. LA Link to comment
DN Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 You are 17, he is 22, he is a teacher. He is wise enough to try his best to avoid getting in a lot of trouble. Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 yeah... I agree with kiwifly. Perhaps he sensed that you're interested in him, and he doesn't want to lead you on. Crushes are fun, but obviously, this man can't reciprocate your feelings. If you're in the US, then you know that 16/22 isn't legal. Furthermore, since he is employed at the school, he could be fired for having a relationship with a student. Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 8) I agree with DN, I knew the day would come!! I think he is tired of the feelings that he is having and is moving on...that is the smart thing to do. Having a strong crush that goes no where makes people uncomfortable and depressed after a while. He got tired of the whole thing, and moved on emotionally. High five -- man. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted April 11, 2005 Share Posted April 11, 2005 Yes, I am willing to bet that he is ignoring you because he may sense your attraction to him and not only is it illegal for him to pursue you with you being a minor but it is also a big no no for him as a tutor/teacher and you as a student where he works. He could lose his job for that, and it can make it almost if not impossible to find work elsewhere with a stigma like that on his record. So, to him, whether he likes you or not, it's safer to leave you alone and not worth risking his career for. Link to comment
Laura Ashley Posted April 13, 2005 Author Share Posted April 13, 2005 im not complaining but sisterlynch your making it sound like he has the crush on me and it's visa versa. I can't get over this crush it's too hard. and believe me I have tried you have to believe me when I say I worked so hard trying. LA Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 Well - it doesn't matter if he does have a crush on you or not. The bottom line is that he can't persue this relationship. Daydreaming and having a harmless crush on him is fun, but don't let it get out of hand. You'll get over him in time. I think you should go hang out with your friends at the mall, and check out other cute guys. I think once the next guy comes along, you'll forget about this tutor. Take care! Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 I am saying that maybe you are being too outgoing. Men can tell when someone likes them. He is trying to distance himself from you so that he will not get into trouble. I have a feeling that you don't really know him that well, but you are attracted to him, is that so? He is smart to put his professional life first, isn't he? Don't we respect him more that he is being professional, and ignoring you coming on to him? Link to comment
Laura Ashley Posted April 13, 2005 Author Share Posted April 13, 2005 I know he's doing well to put his career first but it just hurts knowng he has too. No I don't know him very well but he's really cute and have you ever had a crush where whenever you see him you can't stop smiling because it's the effect he has on you? well thats what im suffering from. LA Link to comment
sisterlynch Posted April 13, 2005 Share Posted April 13, 2005 I know exactly how you feel, and yes, I feel that way all the time. You need to keep it in perspective. There are rules in place for a reason. If he dated all his students, then he would seem fake to the coworkers, so he is better off looking for love in other places. However, there is nothing wrong with a crush!!! Just keep your feelings modulated. It is his working environment, so it is a cousin of sexual harassment.... Be good, ok?? Link to comment
Laura Ashley Posted April 16, 2005 Author Share Posted April 16, 2005 yeah I'll be good I promise. It justn hurts to know every guy (and there is an endless line) I have a crush on I can't have for some reason because their married their a teacher they don't like me they have a girlfriend they find my friend more attractive (and thats an issue cause i begin to hate her) and so on and so forth,. Always an exuse This guy is special he's different and I can't have him. LA Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 16, 2005 Share Posted April 16, 2005 Hey hon - don't get down - One day, you'll meet a guy your age who's not married, doesn't have a gf, is not a teacher, and he likes you. Just hold tight - it will happen. Link to comment
Laura Ashley Posted June 14, 2005 Author Share Posted June 14, 2005 Thanks annie well he's leaving in september to go to a new school in Arazona. I was gutted. Im trying my best not to see him or talk to him but it's hard. how do you get over a crush? I want to get over it now. Keeping busy only makes it worse. la Link to comment
annie24 Posted June 15, 2005 Share Posted June 15, 2005 erm... fastest way to get over a crush? Get a new one. Good luck! Link to comment
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