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Drizown

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  1. Well i think people would have a problem with the age difference. Unless you knew he was bi as well putting yourself out there will only give you un-necessary grief and anguish.
  2. Well if it's an online thing bring up the topic of "meeting" how she reacts to that topic is how you can determine if she's a "tease" or not. If she sort of dances around the topic or jokes but isn't extactic like Yeah! We should! Then she's just liking the attention of how you react to when she "teases" you.
  3. It's true that it is expected to be second guessing yourself But speaking from experience of dealing with the same mind set as your ex (well what i can tell from your story anyway) the comments that she directed were meant to push you away whether it was intentional or not. At the point where she was she was still remembering the good aspects of your relationship but dwelling on the negatives and thus pushing you away. If this was the case which i think it was then you couldn't have done anything and shouldn't be second guessing yourself. It was only a matter of time before that bullet had to be bit.
  4. *Hug* seeing as that's what you were looking for. As for your ex... im like her in a sense or at least i was like her. I would get "bored" not a term id pick but yah and at that point id start to dwell on faults or things I didn't like about that person until I couldn't take it anymore. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Chances are she'll ask for you back because her intention was probably to end things with you at some point not have it turn around on her lol
  5. Sounds genuine I'd give him another chance. If you don't you could regret it later.
  6. Be honest with the girl that's interested in you so she has no reason to call you a dogg in the future and not bashing will go on between her and her friend thereby ruining your chances with the friend. As for getting in touch with the friend... talk to her in person! Life is too impersonal these days with MSN and the net. Go up to her start up a conversation... ask her for her #, e-mail or whatever. Then proceed to setting up a date. Just when you're talking to the girl that likes you be sure to be kind. She appreciate the honesty.
  7. I think you need to consider how good of a friend you truly believe this girl to be because to me she sounnds like a right witch with a capital B. She sounds like she's using you and that is in no way fair to you. As for the "rumour" spreading I think that is a little junior high and if she does stoop to do that then you shouldn't have wanted her as a friend in the first place. Take a step back and re-evaluate your friendship with this girl. Unless she comes out with a damn good apology i think it's time to meet some new people at college... after all that's one of the best parts is it not?
  8. Could be menstral. Have you been stressed lately? Started the pill recently? Is your cycle regular? That is if u have it... 15 not sure.. if you haven't could be that you're about to start it.
  9. I'm at the age this boy is... but I'm grade 12.I see kids like this all the time. You really need to talk to the mother.. maybe get him into counseling do deal with the underlying anger he has towards his parents. He's only doing this to lash out at them and probably his resentment towards you. Take the dirtbike away perhaps that will get his attention.
  10. You're situation reminds me of the book mommy dearest? Have you read it?
  11. Yah well said. Sometimes the craziest matches last. But that's also my worry... if they do then what? I miss out. If I don't tell him these feelings are going to be like you said... in a loop so its difficult to say.
  12. Well it's good you put that out there. I think now the only thing left is to just appogize for not being there for him when it was needed but you need him now to trust that you've seen the error of your ways in your reactions and you don't like how it makes you feel either. If he has all the information about the situation you just have to let him do with it what he will. I'm sure it will work out in the end.
  13. Are you a writer? I enjoyed reading the post its creatively written. Just to add that in. If she was open to 3somes before... wouldn't she be now. And possibly introducing a new female variable into the equation could that not satisfy your need for experience? Other than that you've pretty much outruled everything. You don't want to talk to her about it, you dont want to cheat (cudos on that, I'm against cheating in all forms). Honestly... talking to her about it is what I personally would do. If she's your partner and you love and respect her and you do intend to marry her, then one must assume she knows you pretty well and is understanding of you. Explaining this to her, and her being the sexually experienced female she is could possibly shine some light on your situation. You said you won't talk to her out of pride. Put away your pride and trust yourself to your partner.
  14. Just be there for him. The problem was not only your temper but when he was stressed out and needed someone to back him up and needed his partner to be there, be his backbone equipped with words of support and love he got reemed for it. He might not have come out and said "i need you" but he deffinetly didn't need that. Just give him time.
  15. The fact that he said there is still hope is a good thing. He needs space BUT i think it would be wise to tell him what you explained in this post and WHY you actually blew up and why there was all that negativity. Tell him how YOU feel about the relationship and how you wish it were progressing more and how that and the fact that you are frustrated and possibly alcohol was an influence (wasn't really specified) snowballed into like you said a boiling point. You can only swallow feelings for so long until your upchuck reflex kicks in. Knowing this might help him realize you're not overly emotional and "high maintenance" it's just these things have been built up for so long. I'm sorry about your dad I can't immagine what that feels like. I'd say time heals all wounds but in reality time heals nothing but itself. Just cherish who you do have now
  16. E-mail= too cowardly anyway Face to face is always the better option and there's no reason to be scared. People appreciate honestly. Bad stories are only told about liars not "Gosh I hate so and so so much the told me the truth right to my face!" You'll be fine and you'll feel tres better afterwards. And cudos for not just going out with him when you were unsure that would have been wrong.
  17. I'm having a similar issue as well ie. My Post. It truly does suck when friends turn into love interests and 3rd parties are involved!
  18. You deserve someone that will return the feelings you have for them. Basic phyiscs for every action there SHOULD BE an equal and opposite reaction
  19. I'm not so sure you need to make up a story. By the conversation he is trying to get to know you but he recognizes you're shy. If you're in a conversation with him and run out of things to talk about just ask him questions about himself. Generally guys don't mind talking about themselves. That being said asking him about the weekend is a good idea. If he doesn't answer with something that could be directly responded to with "does your gf whatever whatever" and he just says oh nothing exciting, you could say, oh well don't you have someone specialy you could have gotten together with? If he says no you can say yah I'm not seeing anyone at the moment either (if he's interested that'll be a ? he wants answered as well). Also if he gives you some insight into his weekend say... he went to see a movie? You could say oh well i was thinking about seeing __________ on _____ are you interested. Being specific with an even and place leaves out the guessing game and indecisiveness that comes along with "wanna do something sometime". OR seeing as you two have class together you could say I'm having a little trouble with this ____ do you think you could help me with it? Any of those things (providing he isn't seeing anyone) which honestly if he hasn't mentioned something about a girlfriend by now chances are there isn't one, then those conversational tips can open doors to spending time and getting to know one another.
  20. Well, it's not so much prom that would bother me because we do go to different schools and they were going to prom before these feelings even developed. He was so hott and cold when it came to her and now hes hott again. There's never been cold with us and I think he does have those feelings for me too we have just never really come clean about them. I have a feeling that even if they do date it won't last long. She's not right for him, but i'm also not so sure I want to take the chance of it working out for the two of them and me missing out on my opportunity. It's difficult to overcome the fear of rejection because in that case i'd lose the guy and quite possibly the friend. Not so sure I wanna gamble that.
  21. To be blunt Shes caught on you have an interest in her and she doesnt have the same reciprocating feelings so instead of telling you because she probably dislikes confrontation as most people do she's doing as most girls do. If she doesnt have feelings for you now chances are she wont have feelings for you later. Open up to other people and to ensure you still remain friends with her (thats if you want to) give her some space and play it cool let her know you're over those feelings so she no longer feels awkward and has the need to avoid you. That being said i know it sucks that girls play games, I hate that about our gender too but its the facts of life. Sorry to be so blunt.
  22. Ok so this guy and I go to two different schools. We met through a friend about 2 years ago and we talk everyday since. We can talk forever about nothing at all and make eachother laugh on end. We've seen eachother at parties and what not but this past Saturday we finally went out to see a movie. Btw we live like 2 minutes from eachother so this isn't a long distance thing. So anyway I've really fallen for him and I'd like to turn it into somethin more. The only problem is he has feelings for this girl Joanna who hes taking to prom and has plans to ask her out on Valentines. Now if he was serious about it when i first started falling for her I would have separated myself from him and let him persue that but up until now he had lost interest in her. Normally I would just leave it be but he txts me, calls me all the time we talk forever, tells me he likes me and he even said i mean more to him than Joanna. I'm afraid telling him will ruin our friendship and make things weird if his feelings arn't returned but what should I do. When he asks her out next week it'll be too late. Drizown.
  23. She's just not THAT into you. If she cared she wouldn't have let you go the first time and DEFFINETLEY wouldn't have started up this "relationship" with Cody, regardless of her intentions. Plus if she really did love you she wouldn't have done anything with your bestfriend... which by the way you need better friends that's awful. Even if you weren't "back together" she shouldn't have messed around with your bestfriend, that's like an unspoken code kinda thing. Especially if she wanted you back. This girls trouble and you need to move on, she's already abused your trust and doesn't sound to me she's too interested in earning it back. Do yourself a favour and find someone that will care about you back.
  24. You have the right idea. Girls like the attention of someone liking them. She doesn't want to be back with you persay, but she likes the fact that you still have feeling for her. Plus who really likes hearing that someone is over you right?
  25. For one thing you do not need to appologize for being an * * * * * * *. You are not in the wrong here what so ever. She wasn't honest with you and wasn't willing to talk about what was going wrong. Then when you tried to patch things up she wasn't willing. Sounds to me like she's still got major baggage with this guy and your her rebound. Plus the fact that she went back with him says it all. Her feelings for this guy arn't just skin deep and will take time for her to get over. This is deffinetley not worth your time... especially considering she felt it wasn't worth hers. You deserve better.
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