ADY7 Posted July 8, 2017 Share Posted July 8, 2017 My boyfriend of 6 years has been acting kind of strange lately. To start off, about 9 months ago I caught him conversating with an old girlfriend (if that's what you call it) from high school. I had a feeling this was going on because he was acting kind of weird and just not being his normal self. He changed his password on his phone, and wouldn't let me see his phone or anything. He wouldn't even leave it in the same room as me. I asked him if he was talking to anyone else, he said not at all but I knew something was up. I then one day saw he had a snapchat from her and opened it and that's when it all came out. He said it was just friendly and nothing romantic, just someone to talk to because we were kind of going through it. We have had a pretty great relationship until this happened. The girl later said they were talking romantically, but I never got any proof so I could only go off what my boyfriend told me of it being just friendly. Even though I never got proof of this being a romantic thing, it still crushed me and made me kind of question some things. Also, she's kind of weird anyways, she was engaged just two days after this incident? So I'm not sure what to think of with that. Anyways, fast forward the last couple of weeks. I realized I never really got any closure from the situation and had just bottled up my feelings about it and I finally exploded. I out of nowhere accused him of cheating and picked fights over everything. He wasn't hiding anything and I knew his passwords but still accused him of cheating because I had just exploded and didn't think about what I was saying and I know this hurt him beyond belief. So about two days later, he has now, once again changed his password on his phone and won't even be on it around me so of course I explode again and accuse him of cheating (I feel awful, I really do. But the outcomes of this behavior last time was a negative outcome so I have no other expectation). He swears up and down that he isn't cheating, isn't talking to any other girl at all and that he is just trying to build trust again. When I bring up the weird behavior and point out last time and ask how this is supposed to build trust, he says that he wants to work on building my trust IN HIM again. He doesn't want me to trust him based off of me being able to see that he is faithful in his phone, but rather trusting him for his word. He says he won't give me the password to his phone until he sees that I trust him for his word. He also says that basically starting over trust wise is what we are doing, basically back to step one. He says "you didn't have my passwords in the beginning of our relationship and you learned to trust me for me, so this is why we are doing it this way. This way will help make me feel better, not just making you feel better like we always do. I want us to feel better together so trying it this way is what I want to do. We try your way all the time and it doesn't help me feel like you trust me for me, but instead only trust me because you go through my phone which isn't fair". I see his point in this, but I'm just so scared with his behavior because of last time. I don't know what to think and just want an outside sources opinion of this behavior? Could he actually be serious when he says he's not talking to anyone else and actually wants to try and build trust this way? I feel like I might be overreacting and that he is actually telling the truth but I just don't know.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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