Ronin17 Posted May 21, 2017 Share Posted May 21, 2017 My girlfriend broke up with me because she didn't want to keep lying to her parents about not dating. She said she loved me and that it was amazing to be with me and that she can't go on loving me if she can't even tell the truth to her parents. Nothing bad happened in our relationship, we were both happy and everything except that her dad kept pressuring her not to have a bf. She told me that she needs a lot of space and that this won't be a week or a month kind of thing. Few weeks later she tells me that I just shouldn't wait for her because her priorities will change and that she just wants to focus on herself, family and studies and I got very frustrated when she told me that I shouldn't wait for her few weeks past by again and I knew I shouldn't have bashed out on her decision so I told her that I really love what she's doing, that she's trying to focus on herself and love herself first and family and friends and studies and that I should actually focus on myself too. Her response was very touching yet Idk why I found it a bit sad. It was a long paragraph but long story short, She said she really appreciates it and that I should just live my life, "you gotta love yourself before you can love someone else, The other person has to be prepared and so does the other person too." I've known her since childhood and she was my first love.. Known her for 9 years and we had a great friendship but then we started to have feelings for each other and things got really serious and it just felt amazing to be with her. I'm very scared that in the future, when she is ready, that she will be with someone else and that's my biggest problem.. I want to give her space but I just can't stop think how much it would hurt if she would be with someone else. Should I even be feeling this or thinking about this? Should I trust her and give her the space she needs? I want to focus on myself too but this is the most hardest challenge for me since she lives right across the street from me and see her mostly everyday after school and that I'm also friends with her brother and I don't think I can do it.. I asked her if maybe we can be friends again and restart. She said yes, but said "but not so soon" I think I'm very insecure and clingy about this tbh.. Just thinking about her going for someone else. What should I do? Should I focus in myself too? And when can I start talking to her again? she might not feel the same in the future but will she even have feelings for me or something? Link to comment
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