Birdofhermes Posted March 1, 2017 Share Posted March 1, 2017 Dear all, this is a very long story but I'll try and stick close to the key points, and this is not an attempt to dishonor or humiliate my partner who I do love very much. I'm trying to get some honest opions because I have people on my life telling me different things and it's difficult to see what the answer is. I've been with my partner now for nearly four years, in the beginning she was and loving and kind person and still is, but has had a difficult time with her ex husband suffering from abuse, physical and sexual. She also has three who I've cared for, two older one one young who I consider to be my daughter and she sees me as her dad. In the beginning i lived separately in my own apartment while we dated, everything seemed fine. One Christmas I stayed at my parents house for an extra night by myself because it was a hurricane outside, and all the power was down. I was supposed to go drive about an hour to see Lisa but it seemed like a bad idea in the weather. The next day I saw her and she freaked out saying I'd betrayed her and I'd hurt her and let her down etc. But I new this wasn't the case. So I broke up with her that night. I met up with her again because I was new in town and I wanted a friend, but she wanted more than this and I did like her very much so we got back together, it was shortly after she told me about the abuse she suffered by her partner and the way she acted and I felt very sorry for her. I moved in with her and her kids after allot of persuasion and begging, we'd only been going out 6 months and it seemed like allot but I did it. Then shortly whenever I arranged to go overnight somewhere to my parents or see friends she would lose it, saying I'd betrayed her, that I was wrong for wanting to go away and leave her. She would stay up crying all night for days or weeks on end trying to convince me that what I did was wrong. I'm pretty stubborn so eventually I get her to admit this is not normal behaviour and she needs help but only after she spends allot of energy trying to convince me I'm doing something awful. It usually ends in her admitting she needs help and promising to do so. It's been about three years now and still the same thing. I feel sorry for her because it is not her fault, I haven't spent a night away from her for over two years. We had been trying for a baby during that time and she has had three miss carriages from stress. She is pregnant again now and things are going well but I'm not sure how much more I can take in our relationship. All my friends and family are telling me she's crazy and a control freak, I think she just needs to get help but often I feel the same way. I'm reluctant to leave her and the kids particularly the youngest but we are arguing all the time and it's not getting better. I just need a break from her. She comes into my work hysterical, she calls and texts me all the time. I feel trapped Link to comment
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