Dahl Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Ah, okay, ignore my last post; just received your answering post. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 You did say 24/7 ^^^^ 3 calls a day is overkill. One a day is fine. No I stated that "he claimed" that must women need to hear that their man is thinking of them 24/7. Its not way that I could even expect to hear from him 24/7 if that is even realistic because that is just not reasonable regardless with me busy work schedule etc every single day. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 What if he recorded a few messages for you? His talking about his day, his life, etc., perhaps his reading a poem or essay for you - nothing so involved as narrating the complete works of Winston Churchill, or anything, but something to tide you over when the interwebs are being wonky? I realize that it's not the same as a two-way conversation, but better than nothing? Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 This is my point of confusion, Sunshine - does he call you during the day? I may have misread or misunderstood your op. Yes once I send him a text that I want to hear him s voice. I shouldn't have to do that. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 If it's this much of a problem end it... If I gave up on everything like that I would have nothing in life. Link to comment
CrystalBNY Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 If it's only been one month and already there's inconsistency then that's a red flag. The initial stages are when you're getting to know one another and consistency is to be expected. One person can't be showing more interest than the other. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 What if he recorded a few messages for you? His talking about his day, his life, etc., perhaps his reading a poem or essay for you - nothing so involved as narrating the complete works of Winston Churchill, or anything, but something to tide you over when the interwebs are being wonky? I realize that it's not the same as a two-way conversation, but better than nothing? I fully agree and love that idea. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 You say you want to hear from him several times a day...but you DO hear from him several times a day! You want a call in the morning AND a call in the evening? Every day? Just trying to clarify. Link to comment
CrystalBNY Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Oh this is the guy from the other country!? I have to be honest, im concerned for you about this. The cultural difference alone is something to consider. Other cultures do things a lot differently and you should take time to understand and learn all you can first Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 If I gave up on everything like that I would have nothing in life. This many problems this early in isn't good. Differences in communication styles matters - especially in a LDR. plus you haven't even met. You sound entirely too needy for a LDR. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 I hope it works well, Sunshine - I appreciate it is no substitute for the real thing, but I bet you two can make it playful and romantic - no reason you can't do the same thing for him, after all. I'm sure he'd love to have your voice to listen to on demand, too. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 You say you want to hear from him several times a day...but you DO hear from him several times a day! You want a call in the morning AND a call in the evening? Every day? Just trying to clarify. Yes I do hear from him but not as often as I would like too. He may call in the morning once or the evening once and I see his face thru Skype and that's it. I love ❤️ hearing his voice so when it's sparingly as in once a day when in the beginning he would call more it bothers me a tid bit. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 Oh this is the guy from the other country!? I have to be honest, im concerned for you about this. The cultural difference alone is something to consider. Other cultures do things a lot differently and you should take time to understand and learn all you can first I do agree and appreciate your advice. Thank you Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 I hope it works well, Sunshine - I appreciate it is no substitute for the real thing, but I bet you two can make it playful and romantic - no reason you can't do the same thing for him, after all. I'm sure he'd love to have your voice to listen to on demand, too. Thank you so much for your advice and positive wisdom as hope, prayer, & faith is all that I have. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 This many problems this early in isn't good. Differences in communication styles matters - especially in a LDR. plus you haven't even met. You sound entirely too needy for a LDR. I wouldn't say that we have too many problems this early on just a misunderstanding which happens and can be resolved. It does not matter if we have met or not as I'm not going to rush that as that's why communication is very important to me to learn as much as I can about him day by day. Needy or not that's not a sin as I long to hear my sweetheart voice quite often just because Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 If it's only been one month and already there's inconsistency then that's a red flag. The initial stages are when you're getting to know one another and consistency is to be expected. One person can't be showing more interest than the other. He's working hard to get all the money for the tickets. I really shouldn't be complaining b/c he works really hard but when you like someone it's kinda hard to always have patience. I do agree with you on the consistency fully. Link to comment
Dahl Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Hi, hi, Sunshine. Can you clarify what you are concerned about regarding consistency, or elaborate in general on the matter? Cheers! Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 Ask about a set time, but don't extent the frequency and duration of the calls. Be creative with texts and pictures yourself. Not pic-text bombing but share a few everyday selfies and other pic with captions. Post on social meia more if that's something you also share. he will call every day but briefly and just randomly which is okay but never consistent Link to comment
JaggerJim Posted February 19, 2017 Share Posted February 19, 2017 What do you mean, you havn't even met yet? Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 Hi, hi, Sunshine. Can you clarify what you are concerned about regarding consistency, or elaborate in general on the matter? Cheers! Hey there I was more concerned with it being more like I would be hearing from him thru out the day like morning evening and night consistently since we are so far away from each other right now and can't really spend that time in person getting to know each other. So for right now a phone call is essential so that I can learn more about him. Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 Ask about a set time, but don't extent the frequency and duration of the calls. Be creative with texts and pictures yourself. Not pic-text bombing but share a few everyday selfies and other pic with captions. Post on social meia more if that's something you also share. I like that as we are going to talk shortly about how we can improve whatever things to keep each other happy as we are long distance right now. I fully agree with you. Thank you so much Link to comment
SunshineLove82 Posted February 19, 2017 Author Share Posted February 19, 2017 What do you mean, you havn't even met yet? We Skype everyday and we haven't meet yet but will the end of next month. We met online. Link to comment
BeenThereB4 Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Okay, the fact that you say you "long" to hear his voice (using that term repeatedly) is just plain creepy when you've only been talking to him for a month and have never met him. It's gross really. When I first met my husband, we were in an LDR. We had met face to face initially and had mutual friends. We loved talking on the phone and had many great conversations. We rarely, if ever (I don't particularly remember because texts are so insignificant.) texted. We talked on the phone often, though not everyday. This man is now my husband and the father of my child. We are in love. We made it. And yet, when we were LDR, we did not speak on the phone every day. I was in college and he was running a business. We talked as often as we could, and we made each conversation count. But, we didn't talk every day, initially. Once I moved to only 40 minutes away from him (which was an inevitability before we started dating) we started talking every day. Chill out! He is actively communicating with you because he likes you. If you keep pushing for too much, too soon; he won't like you anymore. Link to comment
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