Keeps Popping Out During Sex

[ClaireDarling]

Hello all.

 

So, during sex, no matter the guy's size, he'll inevitably pop out.

 

It's quite frustrating because a rhythm can never be established which usually results in me not reaching climax and sometimes they can't reach climax either.

 

My boyfriend actually brought up a good point. He said it didn't feel like it was in right. And I've even noticed that it doesn't typically feel like they're hitting the correct spot.

 

Also after, I've found my upper wall to be sore.

 

I've tried various positions, I've tried lube, no lube, a pillow under me to lift my pelvis.

 

I would think maybe something is wrong down there, but there was one guy a while ago that actually did fine and he was average size.

 

One thing is that I'm a little bigger. So, I wasn't sure if that had anything to do with it or not.

 

Any advice?

[gebaird]

If you're unable to climax during intercourse, manual stimulation is an alternative option.

[ClaireDarling]

If you're unable to climax during intercourse, manual stimulation is an alternative option.

 

I have a feeling you didn't read my whole post? It's not that I can't. I have before. I can't reach climax because there is no consistent rhythm and it doesn't feel like it's even hitting the g-spot.

[rosephase]

Have you ever had an orgasm through penetrative sex? The majority of women don't have orgasms through penetration alone.

 

Is it hurting during sex?

 

Was the guy that "actually did fine" shaped differently then your current partner? I've found that with my shape that guys with strong curves in their penis will often pop out if they are on top.

[ParisPaulette]

Go see a gynecologist to find out if there's something going on. It could be as simple as you're just shaped a bit differently or who knows, but this is where I'd go get a check by someone who knows about that. And describe what's going on and if they can give you any feedback etc.

 

It can also just be positions you're in. Some positions naturally are kind of hard to erm keep going in spite of every porn film that insists we're all secret acrobats who can join Cirque de Soleil and act like sex is a 10 point earthquake. No one gets to see how many times they had to film the actors and offer double the money if only they could get that one shot, really. That then gets edited to make it all seemless and effortless even though there's no way three-quarters of the planet could do that position in their wildest dreams.

 

So go get a gyno check, but also just ask yourself if these are ordinary positions or if someone is asking you to do the equivalent of a back flip off a chandelier while sipping champagne and flying over a nest of crocodiles kind of contortions too. That can definitely cause that "issue."

 

Also sometimes it takes some experimentation to find what works for you. Not everyone is built the same, and what will work for one won't necessarily work for someone else. Just my thoughts on the matter.

[ClaireDarling]

Have you ever had an orgasm through penetrative sex? The majority of women don't have orgasms through penetration alone.

 

Is it hurting during sex?

 

Was the guy that "actually did fine" shaped differently then your current partner? I've found that with my shape that guys with strong curves in their penis will often pop out if they are on top.

 

I have had an orgasm through penetrative sex with the guy that did fine. It was actually great because I didn't think I would. And as far as I could tell, he wasn't shaped any differently? I just remember it being much easier with him.

 

It does hurt. Not always. It doesn't hurt when I do it myself with sex toys. But in particular this last time I felt so bad because every like 10 seconds he would pop out so we never really got anywhere.

 

But afterwards when I went to the restroom I noticed it burned as if it had been rubbed raw, but again that's not the first time that's happened.

[Wiseman2]

Was he drinking?

But in particular this last time I felt so bad because every like 10 seconds he would pop out so we never really got anywhere

[ClaireDarling]

Go see a gynecologist to find out if there's something going on. It could be as simple as you're just shaped a bit differently or who knows, but this is where I'd go get a check by someone who knows about that. And describe what's going on and if they can give you any feedback etc.

 

It can also just be positions you're in. Some positions naturally are kind of hard to erm keep going in spite of every porn film that insists we're all secret acrobats who can join Cirque de Soleil and act like sex is a 10 point earthquake. No one gets to see how many times they had to film the actors and offer double the money if only they could get that one shot, really. That then gets edited to make it all seemless and effortless even though there's no way three-quarters of the planet could do that position in their wildest dreams.

 

So go get a gyno check, but also just ask yourself if these are ordinary positions or if someone is asking you to do the equivalent of a back flip off a chandelier while sipping champagne and flying over a nest of crocodiles kind of contortions too. That can definitely cause that "issue."

 

Also sometimes it takes some experimentation to find what works for you. Not everyone is built the same, and what will work for one won't necessarily work for someone else. Just my thoughts on the matter.

 

I'm actually well overdue for a gyno appointment so I'll be doing that for sure.

 

Also most of the time I tend to switch between missionary and on my hands and knees with him behind. The latter tends to work better by reducing pain, but the issue of slipping out still occurs.

 

It just feels like it's not hitting the right spot. It does SOMETIMES though. Even with my current partner there was maybe about three times where within a few thrusts it felt great and then it went back to feeling almost forced and then popping out again.

[ClaireDarling]

Was he drinking?

 

No, neither of us were. But again, it's not just him. All of the sexual partners I've been with has had this happen except for the one.