boltnrun Posted April 22, 2017 Share Posted April 22, 2017 God forbid she do without male attention for five minutes! She probably thought "Trusty old Andrew always leaps at the chance to hear from me. I can get him to make me feel better". Well, eff that. If she just wants to use you for her own gain she doesn't deserve any kind of response from you. And guarantee she'll disappear once she finds her next victim. Don't fall for it. Link to comment
Shadowbite Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Here's the thing, If you, andrew, did fall for it and took her back.. Then what? She hasn't learned anything and it'll just repeat. She hasn't even given herself a break as being single; she hasn't given herself time to see the wrong she did. Even if there was an ounce of you that wanted to try, it wouldn't work because she hasn't learned her lesson. She's just monkey branching between options. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Andrew...did you respond to her? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 23, 2017 Author Share Posted April 23, 2017 Andrew...did you respond to her? Nope I didn't Link to comment
Shunsparkle Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Good on you Andrew! How long have u been no contact now? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 23, 2017 Author Share Posted April 23, 2017 Good on you Andrew! How long have u been no contact now? It has been 63 days NC Link to comment
Dominique Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 You are doing so well. Your posts encourage me. Life is really hard sometimes and gives you things that you don't deserve or that knock you all the way down. It's awful! But I keep telling myself if I can look up I can get up. Keep doing what your doing and keep focused on living each day the best you can. Don't worry about the rest of it. Life is going to continue to hit you but you can survive it and you will eventually be better for it and end up with a win. I promise. Link to comment
Shunsparkle Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 And how do you feel? Do you feel like you're moving on, that you don't care about her anymore? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 23, 2017 Author Share Posted April 23, 2017 And how do you feel? Do you feel like you're moving on, that you don't care about her anymore? I do feel way better than I did before Link to comment
spyman42 Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 I do feel way better than I did before Do you still think of her and do you want her back? Or you pretty much move on and dont give a about her anymore? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 23, 2017 Author Share Posted April 23, 2017 Do you still think of her and do you want her back? Or you pretty much move on and dont give a about her anymore? I guess I have moved on for the most part Link to comment
Shunsparkle Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 I'm glad to hear that. I'm on day 2 with No contact and I can not wait to get these feelings Link to comment
Shadowbite Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Hey andrew. Since you're starting to move on fully. Think you can give a final update perhaps a year from now if you remember? Just, a lot of people leave completely after they feel better. Would be nice to give back to the community. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 23, 2017 Author Share Posted April 23, 2017 Hey andrew. Since you're starting to move on fully. Think you can give a final update perhaps a year from now if you remember? Just, a lot of people leave completely after they feel better. Would be nice to give back to the community. I will continue to post on here because I know it helps people and helps me too! Link to comment
Loralora Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Good job Andrew...you only have 27 days to go! I think no contact helps but also meeting new people really helps. When I had reached a the stage of starting to get over my ex...I had some days when I would miss them, and most days when I wouldn't... Link to comment
Annia Posted April 24, 2017 Share Posted April 24, 2017 I'm sorry, I wasn't here from the beginning. Did you manage to do the 90 days of NC? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 Welp, she's back together with him. Whatever..I don't care anymore. It's kind of ridiculous how she can't be on her own for a second. Relies solely on men to make her happy. Without being in a "relationship" she's miserable. I really dodged a bullet! Link to comment
boltnrun Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 Welp, she's back together with him. Whatever..I don't care anymore. It's kind of ridiculous how she can't be on her own for a second. Relies solely on men to make her happy. Without being in a "relationship" she's miserable. I really dodged a bullet! How did you find out? Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 How did you find out? It was brought up in a group chat I'm in with my friends Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 You need two next steps - 1. No mentioning her in group chats or following her until there are no residual feelings. There are still feelings or you wouldn't post here. 2. Once you hit 90 days, stop counting days. Just exist. Once you hit your own goal, just live life without keeping this anchor to her - because counting days does anchor your life to her. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 You need two next steps - 1. No mentioning her in group chats or following her until there are no residual feelings. There are still feelings or you wouldn't post here. 2. Once you hit 90 days, stop counting days. Just exist. Once you hit your own goal, just live life without keeping this anchor to her - because counting days does anchor your life to her. I don't really count days I just look back on here when I started Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 I don't really count days I just look back on here when I started That's ok - you need to stop doing it. Otherwise it really is a mental anchor. Link to comment
Shunsparkle Posted April 25, 2017 Share Posted April 25, 2017 I've been struggling today. Seen a video of us and just burst into tears. I'm kinda hoping he'll text me. I don't think I'll respond but I want the satisfaction of him texting me, does that make sense? I know it's not good and I can't wait to get to point where I don't care at all anymore. Day 4. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted April 25, 2017 Author Share Posted April 25, 2017 I've been struggling today. Seen a video of us and just burst into tears. I'm kinda hoping he'll text me. I don't think I'll respond but I want the satisfaction of him texting me, does that make sense? I know it's not good and I can't wait to get to point where I don't care at all anymore. Day 4. Hang in there. Don't look at anything involving him and in a month you will really start to feel better Link to comment
Loralora Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 Welp, she's back together with him. Whatever..I don't care anymore. It's kind of ridiculous how she can't be on her own for a second. Relies solely on men to make her happy. Without being in a "relationship" she's miserable. I really dodged a bullet! See I told you she only contacted you go get back at him. Or use you to get back together with him by making him jealous or something like that. She only calls you when she needs to achieve something by using you.. She's a bad person... Keep minding your own business and keep going forward and leaving the past behind.. Link to comment
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