lovelyworld Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I feel the same way. I can't flip my feelings off like a switch. It's actually a physical pain as well as mental. Very depressing I wish we could just switch our feelings off. I'm just done feeling sad about him. I want to hate him. I'm done having this soft heart and all of these strong emotions. I can already feel my thoughts and feelings shifting. I rarely feel mad but tonight I think I'm just so tired of it all Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 6, 2017 Author Share Posted February 6, 2017 I wish we could just switch our feelings off. I'm just done feeling sad about him. I want to hate him. I'm done having this soft heart and all of these strong emotions. I can already feel my thoughts and feelings shifting. I rarely feel mad but tonight I think I'm just so tired of it all I'd say time will help but for me it only made it harder. I am tired of feeling empty Link to comment
Loralora Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I don't think I'm obsessing. This would be hard for anyone I mean obsessing as in thinking and talking about her 24/7. I understand and know it would be hard for anyone. I understand your pain. That's why you need to keep busy and keep your mind off.. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 6, 2017 Author Share Posted February 6, 2017 I mean obsessing as in thinking and talking about her 24/7. I understand and know it would be hard for anyone. I understand your pain. That's why you need to keep busy and keep your mind off.. This is the only place I can talk about how I feel Link to comment
lovelyworld Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I'd say time will help but for me it only made it harder. I am tired of feeling empty For me time is only helping me resist contacting him...that's it. I can feel it getting easier and easier to not contact him. But feelings wise...I still feel everything. I felt empty at the beginning of the breakup, but now not so much. The emptiness feeling will go away soon for you I hope Link to comment
lovelyworld Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I mean obsessing as in thinking and talking about her 24/7. I understand and know it would be hard for anyone. I understand your pain. That's why you need to keep busy and keep your mind off.. It seems like we are talking about our exes 24/7 here but at the beginning it truly helps. I know before I joined this site, I would get the urge to message my ex every single day. But ever since joining, not contacting him has been easier. Only thing left to battle is our thoughts..and venting them out on here really clears my head Link to comment
CrossX96 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I agree that curiosity of how they're doing always hurts us. It's because we are so used to knowing how they're doing every single day. We can't help ourselves but still do it even though they do not want us anymore. I wish I can stop this and say I don't care anymore... Link to comment
katara42 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 This is the only place I can talk about how I feel Yep me too. Small town, smaller workplace. My friends don't know I went back to him so can't complain to them, especially since they warned me. I think they're sick of hearing about it anyways. They're not actively going thru this, like we all are. Idk what I would have done if I hadn't found this place to get understanding and perspective. Link to comment
Angieeee Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Yep me too. Small town, smaller workplace. My friends don't know I went back to him so can't complain to them, especially since they warned me. I think they're sick of hearing about it anyways. They're not actively going thru this, like we all are. Idk what I would have done if I hadn't found this place to get understanding and perspective. Seriously, my friends dont like my ex gf. Plus they are already tired of hearing about her. I talked to my sister but she tells me I should move on. Everytime I feel the urge to reach out I like coming on here to vent and express my feelings Link to comment
CrossX96 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Seriously, my friends dont like my ex gf. Plus they are already tired of hearing about her. I talked to my sister but she tells me I should move on. Everytime I feel the urge to reach out I like coming on here to vent and express my feelings Everyone else makes it sound so easy eh.. Link to comment
Kissa Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Everyone else makes it sound so easy eh.. Everyone is a smart-a** when they're not going through that. They all " Ohh, please, just get over it" Link to comment
Kissa Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 I feel I got caught in my own game now. He messaged me last Thursday asking if we can have a coffee and talk. I said I'm busy all week( even if I'm not) and if he'll contact me this Friday we can meet on Saturday. Now from Thursday counting down the days , how pathetic, even asking myself if he'll contact me on Friday , another 5 days to wait , aagghhh, is killing me. Link to comment
CrossX96 Posted February 6, 2017 Share Posted February 6, 2017 Everyone is a smart-a** when they're not going through that. They all " Ohh, please, just get over it" Yeah man. Not checking their social media itself is already so torturing. Let alone think of them. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 Day 4 NC ~ Had a productive day at work but I still feel sad Link to comment
katara42 Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Day 4 NC ~ Had a productive day at work but I still feel sad Yeah well day zero for me lmao Ugh. I was doing so good. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 Yeah well day zero for me lmao Ugh. I was doing so good. What happened? What day were you on? Link to comment
katara42 Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 What happened? What day were you on? Day far enough i stopped counting. Ugh. Lol well whatever, it felt really good in the short term. Ill have an exhangover tomorrow. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 Day far enough i stopped counting. Ugh. Lol well whatever, it felt really good in the short term. Ill have an exhangover tomorrow. What happened? Link to comment
katara42 Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 What happened? He had hit me up a week ago for "Hanging out" like nothing. And it festered. So I responded. Not happy with myself right now. I'm too old for this. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 He had hit me up a week ago for "Hanging out" like nothing. And it festered. So I responded. Not happy with myself right now. I'm too old for this. Well, just start over like I did Link to comment
katara42 Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Well, just start over like I did I will. That's the importance of cutting off all means of communication at work. I'm a walking cautionary tale Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 I will. That's the importance of cutting off all means of communication at work. I'm a walking cautionary tale Hey I'm right there with you. I just try to forget but it's like quitting a drug. It really is. Link to comment
luisannalui Posted February 7, 2017 Share Posted February 7, 2017 Hey I'm right there with you. I just try to forget but it's like quitting a drug. It really is. How you do it? How you prevent yourself from stalking your ex social media? I feel that the more I stalk the worst I feel. But I just can't stop. Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 How you do it? How you prevent yourself from stalking your ex social media? I feel that the more I stalk the worst I feel. But I just can't stop. Just try to stay busy and spend time with friends and family Link to comment
Andrew626 Posted February 7, 2017 Author Share Posted February 7, 2017 Just try to stay busy and spend time with friends and family Day 5 NC ~ ran into her sister at the store and she said she doesn't blame me for never talking to her again. Link to comment
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