Hermes Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Aussie: You ask: "Surely he knew he couldn't perform from the onset, not sure why pursued dating me in the first place" I suppose, putting it briefly, "hope springs eternal". Could have been out of desperation, loneliness, his illness, all kinds of factors, none of which a good idea for seeking a relationship. Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Surely he knew he couldn't perform from the onset, not sure why pursued dating me in the first place Because perhaps when lust is at its peak, he can perform. Alas ---- it wasn't to be. Link to comment
Sportster2005 Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Start loving yourself and raise your standards. Link to comment
tiredofvampires Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 I would not date a man with a chronic condition who is not taking basic measures to optimize his health, and in fact is self-destructive. Even in a relative healthy person, over-drinking can cause ED (it's a nervous system depressant), and over time, a long-standing problem with microcirculation and neurological health of the organ. But it's all that much worse for a diabetic. And smoking constricts blood vessels and produces hypoxia (lack of oxygen) in tissues. So what he's doing to himself is like someone with a stomachache downing a pint of vinegar and then to top it off, eating a bowl of chili peppers (I think I just made myself a bit sick thinking about that!). It's a one-two punch for his peen. However difficult this condition is for him, or how much he has difficulty talking about it and its challenges, he's treating himself in a self-destructive, oblivious, reactive, devil-may-care manner and that's a pattern so deep, I would have no desire to figure any of this out any further. Why would you want to be with someone who is not interested in improving the quality of their life rather than further degrading it? Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 21, 2015 Author Share Posted October 21, 2015 Because perhaps when lust is at its peak, he can perform. Alas ---- it wasn't to be. When lust was at its peak and he was telling me he was in love with me, he still couldn't perform Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 It was just a guess. At this point, who cares? Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 Obviously I do, I know it wasn't me, he told me the first time when it didn't work and our very first time, 'I have wanted you for so long and now it wont work' Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 It was never going to work. He has ED. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 It was never going to work. He has ED. Yeah I know and the guy shouldn't blame others for it with excuses like 'lost the lust' needs to take responsibilty Link to comment
mhowe Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 No, he really doesn't. He can do and say anything he wants to justify his boorish behavior. He could also say " if I had a healthy lifestyle, quit drinking my diabetes wouldn't affect my peen so much", but you don't see him saying that either!!! Link to comment
notalady Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Yeah I know and the guy shouldn't blame others for it with excuses like 'lost the lust' needs to take responsibilty You're banging your head against a wall here, fixating on how he is wrong and you are right. Everyone here had already agreed, yes he is just making up excuses, yes he shouldn't blame you for not being able to perform. Now move on and not waste another second of thought on this guy. I'm not sure what else you're looking for? That he admit he's wrong and apologise? That's never going to happen. Think about it this way, why is it your responsibility to EDUCATE him how to be a mature, honest, responsible adult? It isn't. So don't make it so. Go on and live your life without this idiot. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 You're banging your head against a wall here, fixating on how he is wrong and you are right. Everyone here had already agreed, yes he is just making up excuses, yes he shouldn't blame you for not being able to perform. Now move on and not waste another second of thought on this guy. I'm not sure what else you're looking for? That he admit he's wrong and apologise? That's never going to happen. Think about it this way, why is it your responsibility to EDUCATE him how to be a mature, honest, responsible adult? It isn't. So don't make it so. Go on and live your life without this idiot. Actually can't you see I have now realised it wasn't me, previously I hadn't, its a sign I have moved on and I am venting on here isn't that what this site is for? You should be proud of me not have a go, have a great day! Link to comment
notalady Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Actually can't you see I have now realised it wasn't me, previously I hadn't, its a sign I have moved on and I am venting on here isn't that what this site is for? You should be proud of me not have a go, have a great day! Not having a go at you at all, yes it's obviously good that you can see it's not you. Moving on means to stop spending time and brain cell on this person and matter, including continuing to thinking about or venting about him. The forum is for seeking advice, hence my providing advice, no need to be offended or defensive. Obviously you're allowed to vent if you so choose. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 Its only been 3 day's since it happened, think I am allowed to vent and give it a bit of brain space, and getting confirmation and advice from others on here will help me giving it more thought plus asking for advice from people who have experience with diabetes why was I posted, I no nothing about this disease Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 and I do not want or expect any type of apology from this guy, I don't actually want to even hear from him again Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 and I do not want or expect any type of apology from this guy, I don't actually want to even hear from him again Ahh, we finally have an answer. Well, that solves that then. Time to move on. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 Caps all the questions were answered by myself, no need to be smart Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Caps all the questions were answered by myself, no need to be smart I'm not being smart at all. Several people have asked you a number of times what you want out of this relationship and you never replied. Not once. Only in post # 65 did you finally say you never want to hear from him again, so now we know. You can now move on. Not sure why the need to get so defensive in all your replies. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 I'm not being smart at all. Several people have asked you a number of times what you want out of this relationship and you never replied. Not once. Only in post # 65 did you finally say you never want to hear from him again, so now we know. You can now move on. Not sure why the need to get so defensive in all your replies. Not sure why you need to be rude and speaking to me like I am a d............ a............ is needed in all your replies is necessary when I was feeling very down, all I was doing was venting and my question was not answered initially and that was 'was his lost lust comment just a coverup for his ED?' Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 Also, please refer to Subject Title where my question for this whole post relates too have a great day Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Not sure why you need to be rude and speaking to me like I am a d............ a............ is needed in all your replies is necessary' What?? I'm not sure where I have been rude, but please point it out and I will apologize. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 I am not on here to argue back and forth with you thanks Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 22, 2015 Author Share Posted October 22, 2015 I appreciate you replying to my post thanks Link to comment
Hermes Posted October 22, 2015 Share Posted October 22, 2015 Aussie: I posted a link with information about diabetes. For good measure: Everything you could possibly want to know is in that link. Link to comment
aussielis Posted October 23, 2015 Author Share Posted October 23, 2015 Thanks Hermes, it takes a while for some things to sink in with me sometimes lol I appreciate you sending me this link. Now I know why his last relationship didn't work out either, told me he lost his attraction for her, seems to be a repeating cycle. Aussie: I posted a link with information about diabetes. For good measure: Everything you could possibly want to know is in that link. Link to comment
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