GF is having these weird sexual dreams all the time.

[gouvernment]

First of all I want to thank you for reading my post, Im here only asking for your opinion on the given situation. So to start, me and my girlfriend (23 yrs and 21) have been together for over a year. Troughout our relationship we went trough some periods of hassle but never broke up, and now things are going well. Although for the time we've been together, she has had numerous very sexual and intimate dreams with other men. She would dream of having sex with them, giving oral, recieving etc, but has never dreamed of me that way, while I for example very often have sexual dreams and almost all are with her. Now before you guys jump to conclusions, this doesn't bother me. Im fine as long as shes only dreaming, im only asking what is your opinion on this and what could be the cause? An important thing to add is that we don't have too much time to have intimacy since we dont live close by and we dont really have a place to be intimate. Thank you again for reading.

 

Best regards.

[RainyCoast]

well you've been "together" for over a year whilst apparently not being able to have "you2" time. she's horny and fantasizes, nothing wrong there.

 

i wonder why she'd keep recounting her dreams of the joys with other Ds to you though.

 

unless it turns you on and you encourage her to talk about it. whether it's that she's not comitted (and with someone she can't be togeher with- it's not surprising), or that she's training you to accept her potential future w*oreish behavior, or simply that she's trying to tell you a little sex wouldn't hurt, i think whoever has to go about communicating in a way as indirect and juvenile as that is likely too dumb to bother with.

 

how do you plan to have a relationship (or sex) with someone you can't even be in the same room with?

[gouvernment]

If by "you2" time you men sex, we were intimate a few times, but really we rarely have time and the place to do it. Your answer isnt very clear to me, we would have sex very often if we could, and yet im horny and fantasize a lot, but never dream of other girls and such. About the commitment, she did have some problems there which improved over time, and she isnt a girl of , how you said, wh*reish behaviour.

[Clinton]

Why in God's name she's telling you about these fantasies is beyond me.But so be it.

 

What's the causes this, she's horny. And she may well be attracted men other than you.

 

Will she leave you? No one knows.

[RainyCoast]

we rarely have time and the place to do it

so you've been alone "a few times" in a year and a half?

 

do you live miles apart or something?

 

i don't know which part of "people fantasize all sorts of things" needs clarification. i don't find the fantasizing part odd at all. it's just an "internal visualisation" version of porn usually and doesn't necessarily imply the people she fantasizes about are more of an interest to her than you (especially if they're imaginary subjects). what is beyond odd is her telling you. usually you won't tell the man you care about that you frequently fantasize about having other guys F your brains out. unless you want him feeling jealous, competitive or replacable. i can't think of a reasonable expanation under the sun for this that doesn't portray her in a certain light.

 

the only way this wouldn't be bad would be if, as mentioned, you wanted to hear it or found it a turn on. and it doesn't sound like that's the case.

 

i still don't know how one has a relationship with a person they're hardly ever alone/together with (whether sexually or not) and whom they can't ask simple questions or communicate their needs to. have you told her this mention of her fantasies bothers you or asked why she keeps telling you this?

[gouvernment]

We are together every day of the week from monday to friday, sometimes even on saturday. The thing is we cannot be intimate cause of personal reasons. And onr thing, we talked 10 min ago and she was telling me about a dream she had last night. As she said "a foursome with a random guy and us three girls". About the communication, I just dont get jealous over these drems etc so I dont tell her to stop telling me.

[SooSad33]

Yeah.. I find that a bit odd... telling your Bf dreams of you with other men al the time?

Maybe it's because she is 'dreaming' fantasy-like and would someday want that (4-some, etc?)

Either that,, or she's just making it all up- trying to 'make you crazy'? lol

[gouvernment]

About her making me feel jealous, she has played that game before. So I wouldn't be surprised if she was doing this to make me feel jealous. Altho, I never do anything to make her feel the same way, so I dont know why'd she do this to me..