mhowe Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Not discussing a 2nd date on the first date, nor in the following email via dating sight ---- sounds like not interested. In addition, your travel distance is HUGE. Not moving off the dating site for connection ---- also not a good sign. Link to comment
MissingKay Posted September 28, 2015 Author Share Posted September 28, 2015 Not looking great is it? Based on those factors anyway. If that is the case then I'm okay with it. It would be nice to be told, but if not, actions will speak loud enough soon enough. Link to comment
snf23 Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Not looking great is it? Based on those factors anyway. If that is the case then I'm okay with it. It would be nice to be told, but if not, actions will speak loud enough soon enough. I would say also not a great sign unfortunately. About 99% of the guys I've gone on second dates with have either asked to schedule a second date while on the first or asked within the next 1-2 days, and definitely asked for my phone number. You'll find out within the next couple days but usually guys who are super interested make it well known that they are. Either way, sounds like you had a good time and if nothing else it was a good experience to put you back out into the dating world. Good luck! Link to comment
MissingKay Posted September 28, 2015 Author Share Posted September 28, 2015 Thank you for your message snf23. I definitely take the positives from the experience. I had a good day and wouldn't have changed any of it. I hope he feels the same and I guess I'll find out soon enough. Link to comment
Coldarmy13 Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 I wouldn't put too much thought into this guy. Lovely as he was to you, he is three hours away. Best case, could you handle a LDR? I know for me, I could never get involved in a LDR, just isn't enough for me when there are going to be closer options eventually. Do you think there would be trust issues lingering from previous relationships? I don't know, id be a bit weirded out by someone that would drive 3 hours for a first date. To me, would seem like maybe he was hoping to hook up, IE not asking about future dates or your number. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Not looking great is it? Based on those factors anyway. If that is the case then I'm okay with it. It would be nice to be told, but if not, actions will speak loud enough soon enough. Agree with Mhowe. He doesn't sound interested. Link to comment
MissingKay Posted September 29, 2015 Author Share Posted September 29, 2015 Update Got my answer today. Saw he has logged onto the website, but hasn't got in touch with me since Saturday, 2 days now. Which is a little unusual since we were in touch pretty much daily before and following a date it's definitely not a good sign. Shame as I would have liked to get to know him better but best to know early on and not waste my time. Link to comment
mhowe Posted September 29, 2015 Share Posted September 29, 2015 Three hours is a huge distance. There really is no future in trying to date that far away. Link to comment
MissingKay Posted September 29, 2015 Author Share Posted September 29, 2015 We're from the same town originally, I've only been living here a few months with the view of one day returning home. also he knew from my profile where I'm based so knew from when he first messaged that I was 3 hours away I know he doesn't owe me anything but it would have been nice to be told he wasn't interested rather than be ignored, following what was a really good date. He is a lovely guy and has been very open about his life/family with me so a little disappointed and surprised he would exit this way. Link to comment
MissingKay Posted September 30, 2015 Author Share Posted September 30, 2015 Update: Just checked my online account and mr.fantastic has blocked me from contacting him. A bit shocked and surprised. I hadn't contacted him or anything. Had been waiting On him to suggest next meet up. Went from a good date to ....getting blocked in 3 days having done nothing to deserve that treatment. Link to comment
missmarple Posted September 30, 2015 Share Posted September 30, 2015 Update: Just checked my online account and mr.fantastic has blocked me from contacting him. A bit shocked and surprised. I hadn't contacted him or anything. Had been waiting On him to suggest next meet up. Went from a good date to ....getting blocked in 3 days having done nothing to deserve that treatment. Join the club. Once, I'd been blocked on the same night of a seemingly good date...the guy had even asked to see me again at the end of the date and I had said yes...lol The joys of online dating. Link to comment
MissingKay Posted September 30, 2015 Author Share Posted September 30, 2015 Join the club. Once, I'd been blocked on the same night of a seemingly good date...the guy had even asked to see me again at the end of the date and I had said yes...lol The joys of online dating. Is that normal or is there a split personality thing going on. I take my time to accept dates. I only go out with those I feel there is real potential with. I feel he just shouldn't have come...I get the feeling he only did so because he felt bad about cancelling the first original date. Strange.... Link to comment
Ready Posted October 5, 2015 Share Posted October 5, 2015 It took me 8 months after my separation to be ready to date but I was married for 16 years. After a short term casual dating relationship of three months it took me 6 weeks before I felt like dating. I came to the realization I needed to focus on myself a bit. Once I got some things out of the way that I had always wanted to do for myself I was ready to date again. Link to comment
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