sheley123 Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Ok so unbiased opinions needed, cause this does not make sense to me. I know I shouldn't care but, I am curious if any on else thinks this is BS. My ex of broke up with me 2 months ago. We dated a year and had a beautiful relationship filled with love and friendship, up until he started have and recognize some behaviour issues with the way he handles relationships. He started to question whether or not his behaviour if changed could have made a difference in his marriage and has been thinking of possible reconciliation with his EX wife. He cried and has told me he misses me and loves me but, it does not change anything. Exactly 2 months after our breakup I wake up and see I have a missed call from him at 3:59am. I texted him during the day to see if something was wrong.. he said " Yeah I know, everything is ok, I was fumbling with my phone and hit the call button by accident with the side of my hand, sorry about that". He doesn't drink and I live 1hr 1/2 away so it was not a booty call.. My question is what the hell could have you > with your phone at exactly 3:59 am? We both have Samsung phones, you would have to slide to unlock, go into contacts or call log and slide and hold to call. 2 days later he unfriended all of my family on Facebook, yet he is still tagged in some of my photos and still has a photo of me with his kids he had tagged. Am I reading too much into this? Is this guy confused? Link to comment
Doofus Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 Break ups are hard. Even for those who initiate them. I think it's pretty clear he had a weak moment. This whole 'my hand slipped' or whatever? No. HOWEVER... the fact that he misses you and had a weak moment does not necessarily imply that he wants to be with you. It might. But, it might not. I take it you, yourself would like to get back to together again, right? If so, I think maybe you need to push this a little - but only a little. What does that look like? I don't know, but I think you've done nothing wrong so far. Maybe ask him out for coffee, or something? Don't use an excuse when you do so. He'll see right through it. Besides, if you're direct, his answer will also need to be and you'll learn what you need to know sooner rather than later (dragging it out) Link to comment
sheley123 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Share Posted May 9, 2015 Well he deleted my family off FB 2 days later. I know right now he does not want to get back together and is trying to go to counselling with his ex wife, I am not going to mess with that. It is just nice to know that he does indeed miss me. I think he is at a very confused time in his life but, it is hard knowing he still misses me. I wish I would have heard the call and answered. If he called and had a moment of weakness it shows he still cares and is indeed confused. I know I have to carry on with my life as though he is not coming back. If he has something to say to me he will call again.. I am trying not to wait on it although I have a sneaking suspicion it will happen. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 It doesn't matter. He is in love with his wife! You should block this guy, as he knows you still care about him. Link to comment
sheley123 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Share Posted May 9, 2015 Hi Holly, yes I know it doesn't matter and I shouldn't care, I am not contacting him. I am giving him full privacy. But, I was with him they were divorced so I am not in the wrong here. He had left me for another woman regardless of who she is. He is a grown man responsible for his actions he shouldn't of hurt me or her the way he did. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 You're right. Please do not respond to him again! Block! Link to comment
sadchick83 Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 So he accidentally dialed you and he then deleted your family from Facebook. Im not sure what you are confused about? If he had called you during the day, rung you as many times as necessary to reach you, confessed he is still in love with you, you might have something to go on. You aren't reading too much into this, you are reading this incorrectly. Get over him and stop wasting time on someone who is basically not interested.....You said you wanted unbiased. Link to comment
sheley123 Posted May 9, 2015 Author Share Posted May 9, 2015 You are right, it doesn't matter if it was accidental or not. If someone has anything of value to say to you they will purposely call you and make sure you hear it. Link to comment
sargon Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 He defriended you and your family. He's not confused, his message is clear. Link to comment
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