Mike80 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I guess its "break NC" season for exs now, judging from the first page of this forum lol so if anyone knows nothing of my story, heres the thread where I explained the BU so....last night im in bed watching a movie. All a sudden, around 2am, after 47 days NC, my ex texts me and she says "Hey. What are you doing? Did I just see you at Wal Mart??". A myriad of emotions came over me, and I wrote a very lengthy, very vitriolic text but I decided not to send it. I just ignored her. I thought maybe she meant to text someone else and sent it to me by accident. 30 minutes later, she sends ANOTHER text....saying "hello....". Im like, uhhh, I didnt answer you the first time. Why would you send another? Plus its 2 goddamn 30am. Take your ass to bed woman. I ignore that one too 30 minutes later, she CALLS ME. I didnt pick up. She then calls ONE MINUTE LATER AGAIN, from a PRIVATE NUMBER! I couldnt believe it! Im thinking, wow. She wants attention badly. But nope. I ignored both calls. Go call your married man, dummy. 30 minutes later...again....(its 3:30am if youre keeping score) I get ANOTHER text. But this time its not from her. Its from her (admittedly) very hot half black/half Asian friend. It was a very crass text which read, I thought this was very childish. And weird. Id spoken to this girl maybe twice last year, and here she is insulting me because I wont respond to my ex? ***. I ignore that and go to bed. At least I tried to, anyway. Because at 4:30am, my ex CALLS AGAIN. At this point Id had enough and shut off my phone. Woke up this morning and nothing else was on my phone, so I guess she got the hint. so....what do yall think? Why did she basically go insane on the calling/texting last night? I have several theories but would like to hear you guys' opinions. Thanks for reading. Link to comment
sharky988 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Amazing. Were you at Wal-Mart??? Link to comment
lemondust Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I have no idea what to make of your exes behaviour. I can understand why her friend did that....she felt you were being rude to your ex, your ex was likely upset, and seeing her friend upset, she decided to send you an insulting text. Girlfriends can often be misleading in their loyalty to each other. I am impressed by your resolve to not reply. Link to comment
Mike80 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 Amazing. Were you at Wal-Mart??? haha....nope! Such a pathetic attempt to start up a conversation. Link to comment
mhowe Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 drunken texting. No need to say more. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Personally I think both your ex and her friend were out drinking, maybe her married guy dumped her, then they got the idea to call you for an ego boost OR they got themselves stranded somewhere and hoped you'd be available to come rescue them. When you didn't respond they got upset and childish. Continue to ignore, because seriously that has got to be right up there on the list of "how not to ever get your ex back." Stay NC. Link to comment
Mike80 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 I am impressed by your resolve to not reply. believe me friend..... I wanted so badly to respond to her. but not with a friendly nice guy text message. I had a demoralizing diatribe written out for her, but I decided against sending it. My silence is punishment enough. Link to comment
Mike80 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 drunken texting. No need to say more. Personally I think both your ex and her friend were out drinking, maybe her married guy dumped her, then they got the idea to call you for an ego boost OR they got themselves stranded somewhere and hoped you'd be available to come rescue them. When you didn't respond they got upset and childish. Continue to ignore, because seriously that has got to be right up there on the list of "how not to ever get your ex back." Stay NC. I definitely think they were indeed drinking. And yep, I think her married man in CT broke it off with her. Or shes having serious doubts about him. I told her in January, if you cross this bridge theres no turning back. I still have the text where she told me, explicitly, that she is happy with him and who she sleeps with is none of my concern. Link to comment
Mike80 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well....speak of the she-devil. She just called me again from a private number. I ignored it. She texts me 5 minutes later saying, "omggg so sorry Mike! Last night I was drunk!" then why did you just call me from a private number? Go away, you goddamn psycho. Link to comment
mhowe Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Good job. Sadly --- it isn't over. Continue to ignore. If this doesn't make you feel good that CRAZY has left your life, nothing will. Link to comment
Edmund Exley Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well....speak of the she-devil. She just called me again from a private number. I ignored it. She texts me 5 minutes later saying, "omggg so sorry Mike! Last night I was drunk!" then why did you just call me from a private number? Go away, you goddamn psycho. There she explained it for you, so no need to talk to her. She's calling from a private number because she can't accept rejection forgetting that she rejected you and expected you to accept it. Good job ignoring her. Link to comment
surfjon Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 HaHa!! Sounds like something I'll get down the road from mine!! If it comes, I ignore too.... Good for you bro, bein tough just makes em madder! Link to comment
ChasingHope Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Good for you!!!! Ignoring her was the best thing you could have done. If you had responded, who knows what drama you would have been sucked into. Not only is she probably feeling completely humiliated today (not necessarily something to be glad about, but perhaps it will deter her from contacting you again), but you showed her that you are moving on with your life. I can honestly say I probably wouldn't have been as strong as you. But since my ex has made absolutely NO CONTACT with me since he dumped me, he has made it pretty easy for me to not have to find out how I would react. But I applaud your strength and self preservation, you are well on your way to healing Link to comment
squirl Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Well....speak of the she-devil. She just called me again from a private number. I ignored it. She texts me 5 minutes later saying, "omggg so sorry Mike! Last night I was drunk!" then why did you just call me from a private number? Go away, you goddamn psycho. You really don't want to get beck together with her, do you. If I were you, I would tell her, "Apology accepted. Get help." Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 (Laughing) I knew it!!!! Next I predict she'll try and reach out with some sort of, "I made a mistake, please forgive me and take me back." Ugh, you are so smart to know where this is going and not to want to go there. Stay strong, stay NC. Link to comment
Mike80 Posted March 19, 2013 Author Share Posted March 19, 2013 I would love nothing more than to be with her. Dont get me wrong. but she hurt me in a way that I could never look at her through my old loving eyes the same way again. its not a matter of pride, either. Its about respecting myself and preserving my dignity. The way she left me...Ill never forget how indifferent and cold she was towards me. It hurt like hell. This is the proverbial bed she made, now its time for her to lay in it. Link to comment
Tanzi Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 then why did you just call me from a private number? Go away, you goddamn psycho. There's no pulling the wool over your eyes is there? What strength you have to stay this focused. Link to comment
kz91 Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 I would love nothing more than to be with her. Dont get me wrong. but she hurt me in a way that I could never look at her through my old loving eyes the same way again. its not a matter of pride, either. Its about respecting myself and preserving my dignity. The way she left me...Ill never forget how indifferent and cold she was towards me. It hurt like hell. This is the proverbial bed she made, now its time for her to lay in it. Sounds familiar. Link to comment
icantsay Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 Wow. She sounds like she has a serious problem. Or she is very desperate and lonely and wants to load it on you! You made the right choice not texting her. I know you want her back, but honestly she doesn't healthy at all... Good for you for not responding and staying calm. Link to comment
ClarityCoast Posted March 19, 2013 Share Posted March 19, 2013 After 47 days she decides she needs an ego boost...IMMEDIATELY. You don't engage...ego shattered...frantic behavior ensues. Despicable. Does she think you are a puppet whose strings she can yank around? Hats off for keeping your distance and NOT engaging her. Well done! Link to comment
Zuri Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 I hate when dumpers that do this chit! This chit = dump you and go on happily with their life until something doesn't go their way so they decide to attempt to disrupt any peace you're finally feeling without them. And why? they are in need of an ego boost, usually. Selfish mofo's. Link to comment
Kristenelaine Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 Wow. She's classy. You dodged a bullet my friend Link to comment
Mike80 Posted March 20, 2013 Author Share Posted March 20, 2013 After 47 days she decides she needs an ego boost...IMMEDIATELY. You don't engage...ego shattered...frantic behavior ensues. egg-ZACTLY She just called me again from a private number....shes starting to worry me. I hope she doesnt show up unannounced at my place. Link to comment
Zuri Posted March 20, 2013 Share Posted March 20, 2013 My ex did that crap because I had blocked him from every angle. Even blocked his closest friends numbers and his work number. The first time I fell for it. The second time I called the police. Link to comment
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