My moving on thread :-)

[miss_sunshine86]

Hello,

Just thought I'd create a moving on thread.

Yesterday I made the conscious decision that I would finally move on from the man who has been disappearing on me for 6 years. I don't think I ever did before as I always wanted him to come back the two times he has done the same previously. We were together for 7 months (our longest stint) before he disappeared 2 weeks ago without even having an argument, i was just being moody in a phone conversation but other than that things seemed to be going well and things seemed more serious. I did have occasional doubts but you know I never expected him to do this again.

Anyway, last night I went on my first night out since he left with a new friend. I actually had an amazing time, had drinks without contacting him or even feeling emotional, even met an extremely hot french man. Rewind to the last time he left me I wasn't able to go out drinking without crying for months. So am really pleased with myself, now onto day 2

Thanks for reading.

N xxx

[Leighk27]

thats amazing N,im so pleased for you. I really wish I had your willpower...my ex who i was with for year has left me two weeks ago,telling me he didnt love me anymore. I want to get to that stage in my mind of forget you im gone!

[miss_sunshine86]

I am definitely not there yet I have only even been NC for one day.....

 

I just had a good night last night.

 

I think it does start with making the decision that you will move on though. One day at a time xxx

[Leighk27]

I had NC up until an hour ago when he texts me and asks why i didnt pay the netflix account. he asked how i was,i thought he was going to be civil. i told him how i was and returned the question...the reply i got was "bye leigh,im going".....

 

he really dont even care or like me anymore...so that decision is coming pretty quickly!!

 

You will have many more good nights too...you need to keep focusing on that

xx

[miss_sunshine86]

Wow, what an arsehole he is. These horrible things need to be thought of when you are reminiscing - NOT the good times! xxx

[Leighk27]

Oh yeah I know..i need to think of the times he told me to grow up and that i needed to change who i am completely because I wasnt making him happy. What a waste of space!! xxx

[miss_sunshine86]

Absolutely. Just noticed you live in London. Do you have a facebook? PM me it if you do, maybe we could be friends and support eachother through this!x

[miss_sunshine86]

Ugh I feel a little * * * * ty now, walked past the shop he bought me a cuddly toy from felt a little sad xxx

[Leighk27]

I dont have a facebookanymore...had to delete it but thats another story. I will PM you on here if thats cool.

 

think of the cuddly toy memory as a good one in many many bad ones

[Leighk27]

can you even PM on here? Im a newbie so not sure on how it works yet. Sounds like a good idea though..supporting each other through it

[miss_sunshine86]

I tried to PM you but it says you blocked PM's.

 

Today was a good day too... had a really constructive day at work.

 

Been 3 days since I last contacted him now. I know bad days will come too but I am ok for the moment.

[Emma8]

Well done N! Yes,its still early days so be prepared for the bad days, they will come but they will also pass and lead to good days again. Like the last couple for you!

 

Try and delete and/or remove stuff that now reminds you of him....will help loads! Dont let hurt him you again....you are making great progress....

[SA2000]

One day at a time. After six years it'll take you a little while to really be over it but the sooner you start the sooner you feel that much better. Keep it up.

[miss_sunshine86]

Hey.

Thanks for your msg SA, I really enjoyed reading your posts

 

Not so much of a good day today, work is so stressful, saw a FB update from him (haven't deleted him yet) and one of my best friends who I haven't told about the break up text me asking how me and him were doing, haven't replied yet. Ugh.