bananashake Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 He has 2 boys ( ages 6 and 5 ). A couple weeks before Christmas, I did a secret santa stunt on them. I bought them each a couple toys, wrapped them, put them in a big red bag with a letter attached to the bag. The letter read: "Dear j and N, My name is Snickle Pickle Fickle Fart. I am an elf from the North Pole. My boss, Santa Clause, sent me to your house a in a magic bubble to deliver an early Christmas gift for you both - he said he is proud that you made his his Extra Good list....." The kids about died from laughter!!! Anyway, he got mad over the letter. he said "Fart" in the name wasn't appropriate. WTH. Made me feel pretty bad. Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 oh banana what A FAB FAB FAB FAB FAB thing to do ...its lovely ....your lovely truly. ok the word fart .. I have noticed over the pond it is used on all the stuff my girl watches ( American teen stuff) so it's an acceptable word. I am in the uk and I was brought up not to say it , that it's not a swear word but is vulgar and I don;t allow my daughter to use this expression. I think he just needs to leave it and cherish the wonderful girlfriend he has and the thought you put into this just restored my faith in human kind . He doesn't like the word ..now you know , he could of delivered it a bit better ...please don't feel bad , you have made my day with that little story. Link to comment
chickydoodle Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Not being judgemental but he sounds a bit uptight . Shame he spoiled your pleasure in giving to the kids. Main thing is they found it funny. Maybe they use the word already behind his back ? If not ,they will now...........jus kidding! Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Nothing, but it should tell you how much better off you are without him that instead of thanking you for being so kind to his kids, he has a go at you over one word. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 You did a thing of great kindness and I think its a beautiful gesture. If he can only focus on the negative...if it was me i'd tell him to get stuffed. Link to comment
GreenCupcake Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 The guy needs to get a sense of humor. Kids love silly things like that. Heck, even as an adult it makes me want to chuckle. Link to comment
DN Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Here'a a thought. He gets to decide what he thinks is appropriate for his kids. If he is bringing them up not to use words such as fart, that is his right. Some people find some words offensive and some don't. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 The point here I think, is that instead of getting annoyed at her. He could have first expressed how thoughtful the idea was, and kindly said that he'd appreciate it if that word wasnt used too/infront of his children again. Especially if she didnt know she wasnt supposed to say it. Would you really get angry if someone did something lovely for your child and made one mistake, or would you approach it diplomatically Link to comment
DN Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 The other side of that coin is to make sure that word is acceptable before you use it. But all this is moot - the relationship is over and this continual raking over the coals of old resentments won't serve anyone. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I agree, I would not want the word Fart used with my 5 or 6 year old. Kids mimic and then they think it is ok to go around saying fart fart fart because an adult made it ok. Link to comment
DN Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I agree, I would not want the word Fart used with my 5 or 6 year old. Kids mimic and then they think it is ok to go around saying fart fart fart because an adult made it ok.Agreed- kids don't have the ability to know when certain words or actions are inappropriate and tend to produce them at the most embarrassing occasions. And if they had, it would have been the father that would have taken the heat for it. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I think that the present was sweet and that the fart thing was fine. That's just me. HOWEVER.... I read your previous threads and you two had a breakup recently. It sounds like he was annoyed/not interested in the relationship for a while, and at that stage, the may get upset over the smallest things. ie, like giving a nice present, but having the word fart in the note. They find reasons to pick at you and to make you feel bad. In any case, the relationship is over, I wouldn't contact him anymore (he said he would get a restraining order against you!!) Just leave it be. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 Agreed- kids don't have the ability to know when certain words or actions are inappropriate and tend to produce them at the most embarrassing occasions. And if they had, it would have been the father that would have taken the heat for it. I agree, it would not look too good to have the kids singing "fart fart fart" at great granny's birthday party or in line at the post. Not everyone thinks that is "cute". Link to comment
bananashake Posted January 28, 2012 Author Share Posted January 28, 2012 thanx everyone. yes, we are no longer a couple. I was just reading some of his old emails and saw the "fart" one where he really ripped me (pun intended). Anyway, he does have bubble wrap around those kids, so it' doesn't surprise me that "fart" pissed him off. Such a naughty word and I doubt if any of their friends will ever say SUCH a thing. Link to comment
Stay_home Posted January 28, 2012 Share Posted January 28, 2012 I'm just glad I'm not his child or anyone elses that would get mad over the word, fart. Really? That guy has issues... Link to comment
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