maryam Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 A week ago I texted my boyfriend (NOW EX) now, with a different number, that he allready had.. And in the evening he texted me back saying who are you? So I thought id just see where the conversations goes.. He thought I was his neighbourgirl. And I asked if he missed me, he said yes!! And I said eventually I want to be more than friends again, just guessing things around. He said I cant do that, after all you said, that I have a little one. The ground under my feet just dissappeared when I read that. At a certain point I exposed myself, and he said I was just playing a long I knew it was you.. etc etc.. But he was busted. I called him everything possibly to be called. And he just didnt even do any effort to convince me that it was a joke.. I dont know what to do anymore.. Give me some solid advice please. Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 He's your ex-boyfriend right? And your playing games like this? And how do you not really know he knew it was you all along? He must have suspected it was you if you have been stalking him a bit like this. My advice to you is to just leave him alone. Link to comment
rosephase Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Stop texting your ex and don't play mind games. Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 What were you trying to accomplish? Link to comment
maryam Posted January 1, 2012 Author Share Posted January 1, 2012 I didnt play, He played. He probably deleted my number for some odd reason. He is my ex since this has happened. He was my boyfriend when this happened. Link to comment
maryam Posted January 1, 2012 Author Share Posted January 1, 2012 I wanted to know if he was honest and faithfull.. and was just joking. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Exes are exes for a reason and it is best to leave it that way. Trying entrapment never works. Just look after yourself and forget him. Link to comment
Tuffly Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 I didnt play, He played. He probably deleted my number for some odd reason. He is my ex since this has happened. He was my boyfriend when this happened.[/quote Not odd at all to delete an ex' phone number. You've deleted them before. Whether you dated while you think something happened or not, you're still playing games. It's time to face the fact that he's in the past, including anything that happened. Link to comment
maryam Posted January 1, 2012 Author Share Posted January 1, 2012 Cant you read people he was my boyfriend not my ex when this happened!! After this we broke up! Link to comment
DylanNotorious Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Did you dump him or did he break-up with you? Link to comment
Tuffly Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 And how long is he going to have to answer to you and put up with the "joking" to get answers about the time you were together? Just because you think he wronged you while you were together doesn't mean you get to needle him forever. Get on with your life. Things happen. Questions go unanswered. We accept things or we don't. Who cares. Maybe he cheated. Maybe he didn't. It doesn't change anything. Link to comment
chickydoodle Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Consider yourself lucky , to have found out sooner than later. You learnt a lot about him and it was made relatively easy for you to leave him. Imagine if you were together for years and deception continued and you found out something like this or worse after investing years into the relationship? Yes it is a shock and will alter your levels of trust in any man. Nothing to do but move on - put it behind you - consider yourself 'saved' by a bizarre twist of fate. Link to comment
jumbled Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 It sounds like she dumped him because of this event. I actually think he did know it was you, cause what man would tell a girl I can't date you because you told me I had a little one. If a girl said that to a guy, would he really bring it up again? Most guys would be so embarrassed... Link to comment
guynextdoor Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 If you don't trust him you should've broken up with him instead of playing these silly games of calling and pretending to be someone else. Thats just childish. Link to comment
LaKings55 Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Childish games IMHO. Walk away with some dignity. Link to comment
chickydoodle Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 And how long is he going to have to answer to you and put up with the "joking" to get answers about the time you were together? Just because you think he wronged you while you were together doesn't mean you get to needle him forever. Get on with your life. Things happen. Questions go unanswered. We accept things or we don't. Who cares. Maybe he cheated. Maybe he didn't. It doesn't change anything. Tuffly, I think this is a shock to her! She was just messing around with the txt and until then had no idea he was a cheater! You do realise they had not been split up at this stage? Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 What I'm wondering is - how long you've had your number and why wouldn't he know about it? Perhaps, he was just joking all along, if he already had your number? If he wasn't, I'm sorry, but you now see the true him. Link to comment
chickydoodle Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 I actually think he did know it was you, cause what man would tell a girl I can't date you because you told me I had a little one. If a girl said that to a guy, would he really bring it up again? Most guys would be so embarrassed... Yes I agree. Maryam , maybe you should find out first if he did know it was you , before flying off the handle. or else you should give him the benefit of the doubt or just 'ask the neighbour' . In thinking he is lying, or in thinking it is true- either way spells issues with trust. Link to comment
Tuffly Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 You mean they were together, she did the phone thing, and then they broke up? She kept saying "it" happened while they were together. It sounded like the "it" was the messing around with neighbor. The "it happened" is the jokingly phone text? Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Cant you read people he was my boyfriend not my ex when this happened!! After this we broke up! It was not clear in your original post. Link to comment
Furbys Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Either way it doesn't matter you didn't trust him so you two split. Forget him and move on. Link to comment
maryam Posted January 1, 2012 Author Share Posted January 1, 2012 Even if it was a joke.. Its a sick joke. He already cheated one time on me. And it really take so much time effort and tears to heal. Im still devasted about it.. And then he had the guts to make another joke. I broke up with him after this happened. After I cursed him and emptied my heart. It doesnt matter to me if it was a joke or not, he wanted to hurt me. He had my phonenr for a long time/ Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 Honestly, you reached into pandora's box and pulled out something you didn't want. Typically if one goes looking for pain, one will find it. Please don't do anything like this again, for your own sake. Link to comment
Tuffly Posted January 1, 2012 Share Posted January 1, 2012 maryann, I'm sorry. I didn't understand the whole story. When he first played dumb and asked who you were, your heart probably started to pound not knowing if he was kidding, and if you could kid around. Then it got out of hand and you saw a really cold side of him. That what I picture anyway. I'm sorry that he never tried to clarify he was joking. I have seen it before where guys showed their true colors, and one day they just let it rip that they really didn't care after all. It hurts. Link to comment
Staple Posted January 2, 2012 Share Posted January 2, 2012 Yeah ok it sounds like he knew it was you all along. I don't get why you're doing this maryam. It sounds stupid. Come on. Link to comment
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