Waiting4forever Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Hello everyone! I would like to get an opinion on the difference between "making love" and "having sex." I'm not sure if there is another post like this one, but I'd like to get some feedback Link to comment
Fudgie Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 For me, there's not a real difference. I don't have sex with anyone that I'm not in an exclusive relationship with so no real difference for me. Sex is good for me but it's all about the same....rough, primal, and I feel a rush of feelings afterward. I usually calling it "sex" or "f_____ing" though. Link to comment
OrangeMoon Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Having sex for me is like doing porn...its fun..but its porn..can be very hot though Making love is more intense to me, more connected..you feel it in the way you are touched, kissed..everything. You just feel that the vibe is different Link to comment
deeplongbreath Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Having sex for me is like doing porn...its fun..but its porn..can be very hot though Making love is more intense to me, more connected..you feel it in the way you are touched, kissed..everything. You just feel that the vibe is different Same here. Making love is when you look your partner in the eye and whisper "I love you" (and you mean it). It's also when you don't need to discuss what to do under the eiderdown (or anywhere else, lol) because everything happens naturally and in the most beautiful, pleasant way. When you make love you don't just come, it's beyond that... well, I can't even find the words to describe the feeling. Link to comment
Snowy Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 Pretty much the same thing for me... Just bang away. Link to comment
april15 Posted December 13, 2011 Share Posted December 13, 2011 When Making Love the process is most important, feeling the connection and passion. When having sex, getting to climax is the focus for one of the partners. Most quickies are sex for my wife and I but not always. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Love: I care that you are enjoying yourself Sex: its all about me... get out. Thats how I see it. Link to comment
chr8st8na Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Love: I care that you are enjoying yourself Sex: its all about me... get out. Thats how I see it. I don't know if I agree... Some guys will do anything in bed to please u but that doesn't mean they love you. They may do what is necessary for you to enjoy yourself but it might be because they may want to see you come back begging for more. For some, sexual prowess is measured by the number of sex partners and for others, how many times a sex partner returned/request for the same sexual favor. Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I don't know if I agree... Some guys will do anything in bed to please u but that doesn't mean they love you. They may do what is necessary for you to enjoy yourself but it might be because they may want to see you come back begging for more. For some, sexual prowess is measured by the number of sex partners and for others, how many times a sex partner returned/request for the same sexual favor. Agree to what? Thats how I operated considering I wrote "I" as in me. If I dont see the potential for love then its all about me, it wont matter if you came back or not. If i am working at you being my gf or still deciding, then i see the potential for love. I am concerned about you enjoying yourself, everything from the actual sex, to the set-up, to how i react afterward. And who said me being selfish about sex wont please the girl, i am actually at my best when i am not worried about if my gf enjoyed it or not. Link to comment
greywolf Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 They're pretty much the same. I suppose making love involves more feelings in it. Link to comment
littleL_RN Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 I could never distinguish the difference between sex and making love until my current relationship. It's pretty difficult to articulate, but you can definitely feel the distinction. When we're making love, I feel connected to him in a way that there is no focus other than how intensely I feel about him. Even the actual act of sex becomes more secondary. On the other hand, we've also just teared into each other on more primal level, which is also very enjoyable Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Honestly, I see it the same way. I love my partner, but when we have sex, I usually like it rough - doesn't mean that I don't enjoy it, or feel any less close to him. Link to comment
mhowe Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 You can have sex without love. And you can make love without sex. Link to comment
partydelights Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 Making love is giving, while having sex is taking. Whether in a relationship or not, a person can have sex with practically anyone/thing. The sole purpose is to GET the pleasure from the act. On the other hand, making love can only exist within a relationship. It's not about getting the pleasure, but GIVING the pleasure to that special person. In turn, during the act of sexual intercourse, the giver receives the pleasure as well. Experience wise, having sex involves the physical body only. For man, "poke in and release". (Foreplay is for woman to get lubricated for easy penetration.) Making love involves first the mind (psychological), where the man WANTS to pleasure his woman and vice verse. This will lead to "foreplay" that can begin as early as the day and intercourse late at night. Examples of "foreplay" (for both) includes kind words, nice massages with NO sexual overtones, acts of pleasing the other person. Of course the real "bedtime foreplay" will come naturally. This will eventually lead to sexual intercourse, where the lovers GIVE pleasure to the mate. The experience is thus mental, physical, even spiritual. Link to comment
chr8st8na Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Agree to what? Thats how I operated considering I wrote "I" as in me. You typed "Thats how I see it." You didn't mention anything about how you operate but you just conveyed how you differ between sex and love-making which could be interpreted as you applying it to everyone else. Your comment was not specific. Link to comment
chr8st8na Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 I agree with everything u said except that having sex is taking. Sex can be an act of giving too. Link to comment
partydelights Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 I agree with everything u said except that having sex is taking. Sex can be an act of giving too. Well, it depends on the duration of the relationship. In a LONG TERM relationship, making love and having sex overlaps somewhere between giving and getting. Hence, sometimes such intimacies are great, sometimes not so. That is why couples, no matter how loving, quarrels. Good loving making between them eventually patches things up, but having sex alone may/could end the marriage in divorce. But in a SHORT TERM relationship, having sex is almost always getting, unless otherwise you believe in "love-at-first-sight". (How often do you see people having sex freely ended up in marriage? Conversely, how often do people engage in "free sex" break off shortly after "I done"?) Link to comment
LDRohnos Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 Making love includes breakfast in bed then taking out the garbage afterwards. Sex is a slap on the ass and a, "Had a good time, keep in touch." Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted December 15, 2011 Share Posted December 15, 2011 You typed "Thats how I see it." You didn't mention anything about how you operate but you just conveyed how you differ between sex and love-making which could be interpreted as you applying it to everyone else. Your comment was not specific. yes it was... Love: I care that you are enjoying yourself Sex: its all about me... get out. Thats how I see it. Its pretty specific to the person when someone says "I" and "me" and doesnt mention "men" or "others". Link to comment
chr8st8na Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Well, it depends on the duration of the relationship. In a LONG TERM relationship, making love and having sex overlaps somewhere between giving and getting. Hence, sometimes such intimacies are great, sometimes not so. That is why couples, no matter how loving, quarrels. Good loving making between them eventually patches things up, but having sex alone may/could end the marriage in divorce. But in a SHORT TERM relationship, having sex is almost always getting, unless otherwise you believe in "love-at-first-sight". (How often do you see people having sex freely ended up in marriage? Conversely, how often do people engage in "free sex" break off shortly after "I done"?) Yes... short term is mostly about getting. However not everyone would fall under this. There are ppl who enjoy BDSM with random ppl, the "dominant" who just get off on giving to others. Link to comment
chr8st8na Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Thorshammer, I don't think you were that clear. The OP's question was a general question and you answered it by startin off as categorizing Love & sex. It was formatted like an instruction or "guide to what is the diff. between sex and lovemaking" and even tho you used first-person pov, because you had categorized an answer to a general question, it could have been easily interpreted as a first person plural pov. Then you had an incomplete sentence "That's how I see it." You should have said "That's how I see it with me." Link to comment
Thorshammer Posted December 16, 2011 Share Posted December 16, 2011 Thorshammer, I don't think you were that clear. The OP's question was a general question and you answered it by startin off as categorizing Love & sex. It was formatted like an instruction or "guide to what is the diff. between sex and lovemaking" and even tho you used first-person pov, because you had categorized an answer to a general question, it could have been easily interpreted as a first person plural pov. Then you had an incomplete sentence "That's how I see it." You should have said "That's how I see it with me." Ohhh, i figured all the I's and "me's" were pretty clear on something was asked based on opinion. Especially since many posts above me were personal replies from their experience and personal thoughts on it as well, i wasnt the only one... Link to comment
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