Jordan5571 Posted November 24, 2011 Share Posted November 24, 2011 Hi my friends. I am about to make a "move" that could effect the rest of my life. I am scared and kind of excited. But I am not sure. I am being forced to make the decision a bit quicker than I would like, but never the less it needs to be made. I would really like as many replies as I can get on this one. You have been there for me for so many years and through more relationships and heartache than anyone. A quick background: I am 30, I live in Santa Monica, California. I have been wanting to move to Hawaii for 8 years. 2 years ago, I quit my high paying promising job to move to Hawaii. I had enough money saved for a year incase I could not find a job. I only wanted to move there for a couple of years, nothing permanent yet (because my fam is in los angeles). Well I met a girl, and did not make the move. I felt she was worth the investment. I had trouble finding employment immediately after deciding to stay and she did not have a job out of school, so we both blew through a lot of my savings. Well fast forward almost 2 years, we live together, a month ago she broke my heart, I am doing better but I am still heart broken. I was planning to propose to her. I am packing as we speak since I do not want to spend another month here in our apartment by myself. Plus I dont want to spend another $2300 for the months rent. So I put in my 30 days notice a couple of weeks ago and I have to be out in 2 weeks. I am painting the walls back to white this weekend. The options A.) I move to another apartment, cheaper, but still in the area I like here in LA. I will have to sign a minimum of a 1 year lease. Pay for movers. Keep my job, which is decent pay right now (50k), but I am not happy there and I do not feel that I have security there. The boss and I dont agree sometimes and I dont always know how to just do what I am told when I am passionate about the quality and success of the company. B.) I suck it up, and accept that this is the best time to go follow my dream. I will go to Maui and try my luck. I will move my stuff into storage, resign from my job, and book a flight out in a couple weeks to Maui. I will spend two days to get settled in a temporary housing and will start looking for work, which I know will not be business work like I am used to, but low paying retail or something if I am lucky. Why I believe that right now is the best time to do this. Because I just got my heart broken again. I have proven that this time I am handling it better and not moping around. I am proactively trying to move on. I am accepting that it is over. I have always wanted to do this and right now I have NO mortgage, NO car payment, NO Career (a job yes), NO lease. My family is finally wiling to support me emotionally on this move (anything to make me happy they say, I am so lucky). Even though I wont make much there if I am lucky enough to get a job there, I wont need as much, most things out there will be free (hiking, beach, etc). My commute will be hardly anything (right now my commute is over an hour each day, and I live 7 miles from work). Why this is life changing? What Maui works for me? What if I am able to get a job and I meet new friends out there? Real friends. Right now my close friends all moved or moving away. Plus I havent had a close best friend (outside of her) in many years. What if I like the island life? What if I start a business there? What if I meet a new girl there? This is a 100% different life from Los Angeles. Maybe this will help me get over my ex? It will give me the time to work on myself and concentrate on myself. My last ex it took me 3 years to get over her. And the girl before that was almost 3 years. At the rate I am going it will be a lot less for this one even though I loved her the most. Why this isn't the right time? I dont want to be away from my family, I have never been before. Plus my brother just had a baby. Which means I wont be around for a while. What if it doesn't work? I dont want to spend all my savings doing this because my dream and desire is to work for myself. Even through the perfect idea has not come up lately, I have not made any investments in my ideas. But if I spend all my money in Maui trying to get a job, I will have to fly home and not have a savings to start a business, maybe ever again. Plus my worst fear, I cant even write it, but just saying, what if something happened to a member of my family and I cant get back to LA quick enough? That scares me. Every one on the city-data hawaii forum is saying DO NOT COME TO MAUI or anywhere in Hawaii. They say that even finding a low paying hourly job is almost impossible and that the cost of living is too high and that I will be discriminated against. So should I be leaving a 50k job for the unknown? I truly do not care about money as much as I used to, so I believe I will be ok. Pros and Cons? [table=width: 100%] [tr] [td]Pros For Going[/td] [td]Cons For Going[/td] [td] [/td] [td]Pros For Staying[/td] [td]Cons For Staying[/td] [/tr] [tr] [td]Fresh Start[/td] [td]Risking Savings[/td] [td][/td] [td]Job[/td] [td]Trapped[/td] [/tr] [tr] [td]Following Dream[/td] [td]Giving up employment[/td] [td][/td] [td]Savings[/td] [td]Stagnent[/td] [/tr] [tr] [td]New Adventure[/td] [td]No friends yet[/td] [td][/td] [td]Family[/td] [td]Opportunity Lost again[/td] [/tr] [tr] [td]Me time[/td] [td]100% on my own again[/td] [td][/td] [td]A few friends[/td] [td]No local friends[/td] [/tr] [tr] [td]Possibilities[/td] [td]Island fever?[/td] [td][/td] [td]Safe[/td] [td]Signing a new lease[/td] [/tr] [/table] What would you do if you were in my shoes? Thanks everyone! I really value your opinions Link to comment
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