PrettyGood Posted November 14, 2011 Share Posted November 14, 2011 Sometimes relationship is a very tough thing. We have a lot of problems, questions, dilemmas, arguments, but in the end we don't want to break up with our significant other. He (or she) may be the last as...le in our life. They can do a lot of horrible amoral things to us and still we don't want to loose them. When they break up with us, we beg them to return and promise to change ourselves (!) And we don't ask anything in return. So here we can almost say "Hello, I'm a doormat and you can do whatever you want with me - I won't run away from you and I will try to be better for you each time you are angry on me!" I'm the kind of this person and it's sad to understand that probably I have NO self-respect. I can tolerate physical fights, loud screaming, slamming doors, infidelity and even the fact when he calls me and say "Hey babe, I'm living with my ex girlfriend for almost 2 months, because she's severely depressed when I dumped her because of you. I need to take care of her. So she took her cat here in my house and her stationary computer and her bed, but don't worry, I'm very faithful to you and I love you". I'm very angry on myself right now. I'm furious because I'm stupid and naive. I told him a very serious moral in my angry tone by the phone for almost 1 hour and the one thing he did in the end to sum up was to say "You're always angry on me, I know, but that's why I love you, cause I know that you care about me and I really appreciate that you're that jealous, because I know you won't run away from me and I won't run away from you. You'll be always mine and I'll be always yours. Love you, babe!" So I'm a total doormat. My question is why people (like me) let it happen to themselves? Am we the total idiots?! How can we stop lying to ourselves, take some strength and look at the bitter reality one day? Link to comment
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