Echuks Posted September 30, 2011 Share Posted September 30, 2011 I have been dating a girl I consider the love of my life for almost 2 years. In the last 2 years, every major fight we've had has had an element of her hanging up on me. The hang up thing is something that always exercabates the fight and drags it out longer. From the very beginning of the relationship, I've told her that for me, its the ultimate no no. I think it is the ultimate sign of disrespect should never happen unless the other person on the phone is being verbally abusive, cussing you out, is talking over you or yelling at you. A few days ago, I was looking through my old pictures on my phone.. And saw a picture of her from the first time we spent time together - I sent the picture to her over text message, jokingly told her that it was a pic of her when she was still "trying really hard to impress me" and that I wished that she still tried to impress me. She responded, upset that I was being negative and that it was a bad joke. I made it clear to her that I was obviously joking and that it was not her job to impress me and that I was only happily reminiscing about our new love from 2 years ago. Naturally, I was a bit irritated that I had to explain that I was joking. - All of this was over text message. Few minutes later, she called me and I again told her it was a joke and that I was irritated that she didn't see that I was simply joking and expressing my love. Next thing I know.. She tersely stated that next time I have an issue with something she would never address it and... Click.. She hung up! I stood there, speechless. I wasnt talking over her, not being verbally abusive, we werent even having a hot argument. It was simply a conversation where we disagreed with each other. A few hours later, I sent her a text message, simply stating that she has no regard for me, and that over the several times we have discussed my feelings about her hanging up, she refuses to change. Next day, she sent me an email - stating that she apologizes for hanging up but that "she's tired of telling me what to do to curb our conflicts," that I am so stubborn, she's tired of my stubborness and that "I need to focus on developing my conflict resolution skills." I thought the email was extremely condescending and rude. Rather than apologizing, knowing how I felt about her hanging up, she blamed me. I did not respond. Needless to say, I hate it when she hangs up on me, it makes it feel like she just slapped me accross my face, hard. I have expressed this to her. I am beyond irritated, hurt and confused. What do you think I should do. I think the fact that she keeps doing this, despite the fact that we've talked about it many times, simply shows that she doesnt care. Am I way out of line, is it normal that girlfriends hang up on boyfriends like that?? Please help. Link to comment
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